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Do you seriously have to drag a whole family for scan?

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Maja123 · 14/03/2018 10:05

Hi
I am pregnant and it’s always surprised me how often I see woman bringing all members of family for a scan. I took mine just for 20 weeks one to find out sex but why take them every single time? And I see the same women every time I am at hospital with their husbands, mothers, dads and siblings. Seriously? I understand that’s in some cases when pregnancy is in risk you don’t want to be alone but most of the time it’s just like being a small girl needed help all the time. (P.S I am not jealous I would hate idea to drag everyone with me).

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FallenAngel89 · 14/03/2018 10:07

In most areas you're only allowed 1 person in with you and no children. I've booked a private 20 weeks scan so I can take DC with me but other than that just me and DH go. Never occurred to me to want an entourage

Brownbear84 · 14/03/2018 10:09

Just me and my OH go for our scans. We have booked a gender scan though and we're going to take our daughters with us for that one xx

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 14/03/2018 10:10

I've never seen that, how bizarre! Maybe they don't get out much...

Dinosauratemydaffodils · 14/03/2018 10:10

Second baby, dh wants to come... in fact he gets more excited than me so he has been to all of them. We have also taken ds to one because childcare fell through at the last minute and dh was just going to wait outside with him but they checked baby was okay and then got both of them in to have a look. No one else.

Chienrouge · 14/03/2018 10:10

I’m surprised you took yours with you for the 20 weeks scan, it’s an anomaly scan and I’d hate to have everyone there if they found something wrong.
It’s always just been me and DH for scans.

upsideup · 14/03/2018 10:11

Most places you are not allowed to bring more than 1 person, but if they are allowed how does it affect you?
I always took DH and all the kids, wouldnt want parents and siblings there as well but I wouldnt care if someone else did.

texxxas · 14/03/2018 10:13

I am pregnant and it’s always surprised me how often I see woman bringing all members of family for a scan. I took mine just for 20 weeks one to find out sex but why take them every single time?

But if you did it for the 20 week one you can't really say anything?

It is daft and causes over filled waiting rooms with pregnant women standing, also crowding and commotion around the bed during the scan when a lot of concentration is needed.

A private bonding scan, fine, you're paying for the experience. But not a medical NHS scan.

NoqontroI · 14/03/2018 10:13

Why not if people want to and there's room. It's exciting.

gluteustothemaximus · 14/03/2018 10:17

I had DS1 and DH for DD's scans.

Then DD and DH at DS2's scans.

Very exciting. Doesn't happen often. Plus they were a part of what was happening.

Bluebirdsky · 14/03/2018 10:42

Each to their own in my opinion, if the scan department don't have a problem with it then why would I or anyone else. It doesn't impact on me.

Tralalee · 14/03/2018 10:45

I always went on my own apart from if I had a toddler in tow

Coconutspongexo · 14/03/2018 10:47

My mum came to every scan with me and that was it and I had a scan every 4 weeks I was quite lucky she could come to them all.

I’ve literally never seen this though even when doing scans on patients I’ve never seen an entire family come sometimes mother and partner but only one has ever been allowed in the room anyway.

ChilliCheeseMama · 14/03/2018 10:49

I noticed this yesterday at the hospital...I had to go for an emergency scan and I presume that the other women were there too for similar reasons, but one brought what appeared to be her partner, mum and dad, two siblings and one of the siblings partners with her?

Me and DP were so confused 😂

Sometimes I do wish my mum could be there for my scans too but this took the biscuit 🙉

FissionChips · 14/03/2018 10:53

Well, you took yours for the 20 week scan, which is quite odd and unessesary.

user1499786242 · 14/03/2018 10:55

But how do you know they aren't there for the 20 week scan which by your terms is fine? I'm confused?
It's only the 12 week scan you have an issue with?
Sorry if I've mis read your post but I'm perplexed?

BossWitch · 14/03/2018 10:55

I don't get the taking kids thing. What if at 12 weeks there was no heartbeat? What if at 20 weeks there was a deformity? I've always thought that people who take their kids don't really understand the point of the scans to be honest. Like calling the 20 week scan the 'gender scan'. Grr. For one thing, it's sex not gender. But most importantly, it's for checking the foetus is developing without abnormalities, not to let you know what colour to paint the nursery!

INeedNewShoes · 14/03/2018 10:56

The waiting room at my antenatal clinic was like a zoo half the time with women taking their parents, husband, multiple children. One family could take up a 5th of the seats in the waiting room. Then there would be children running around or watching loud programmes on iPads. There was seemingly no regard for the other people in the waiting room.

Grr.

In an ideal world there would be a separate waiting room for large families making a day trip of a scan.

Rant over

Tralalee · 14/03/2018 10:57

I took mine because I couldn't leave them with anyone. I barely told them what it was for in case there was anything wrong. They were totally uninterested apart from getting a cake I the cafe

hotelduvin · 14/03/2018 10:58

Ergh, how about the people who bring their mums and kids and husbands to midwife appointments. All filling up the waiting room so there's no room for other mums to sit. Seriously, it's like oxford circus at my hospital!

Aprilmightmemynewname · 14/03/2018 10:59

The same families that expect a front row seat in the delivery room likely!

Soubriquet · 14/03/2018 11:00

Me and Dh were the only two in the actual scanning room but I had my mum/nan/mother in law delete as necessary taking us as we don't drive.

With Ds, dd also had to come with us, but again she waited in the waiting room with whoever brought us

meme70 · 14/03/2018 11:01

Have you ever stopped to think

That baby maybe a one that was IVF of years of trying or one after 10-15 miscarriages
Or like me I lost a baby then I fell for twins lost one at 2 months pregnant Lily at 5 months pregnant and if I git pregnant again I’d bring all my loved ones

Maybe the parents lost a child and this new baby is very precious but why so hostile it doesn’t effect your life ?

My eldest took 8!long emotional and a lot strength to have years of injections mediacation wmbrassing examinations a miscarriage so when a baby is so longed for you’d understand

Not all of us are lucky to conceive and have problem free times

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 14/03/2018 11:03

None of that means the entire family have to gather together in the actual waiting room

Chienrouge · 14/03/2018 11:05

Also, unless you’re seeing the same families at every scan you go to, how do you know they’re taking their families for every scan? Maybe they’re all there for their 20 week scan, which seems to be ok in your eyes?

meme70 · 14/03/2018 11:06

Why does it matter what others do
Why do people moan about things that aren’t important
Go through real heartache simple things like this are not even revelant

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