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One Born Every Minute...argument!!! Still Annoyed...need to vent!

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Lexie82 · 08/03/2018 14:47

So...am I being over emotional and stupid?

At around 8 last night I said to DP I wanted to watch One Born at 9...he said OK and set it to reminder. Here's me thinking we are going to snuggle on sofa and watch what we have to come.

At 8.55, what we were watching finished and so I said can we watch One Born now....to which he says NO, he doesn't want to watch it. Think's it's rubbish and isn't interested in seeing all blood and gore, can't we watch another one in the series we were watching.....I said, thought we where going to watch it together?? He says for me to watch it on my own, to which I say NO...... He says No he don't want to and so goes and plods around the kitchen and then says he's going to bed so I can watch what I like......also whilst mummering that we "arent joined at the hip to watch TV"

I stayed downstairs for about 45 mins and then went to bed. Didn't watch it. Felt really sad and disappointed and thought we were going to watch together.

I know this is all very stupid!!!!! But it's still annoying me.

We exchanged a few messages this morning and I did apologise for over reacting and said I was just disappointed and he said it's no big deal and he just didn't want to watch it. I said I would give him this "space" so he can have his Hip Back! After an hour of my talking about space he said sorry he didn't mean it like that.....

sorry just annoyed and wanted to vent - know it sounds so stupid! Dont' want to watch bloody show on my own now either!

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Ubercornsdiscoball · 08/03/2018 14:50

Really? He didn’t want to watch it. Fine. Why all the drama??!!

lornathewizzard · 08/03/2018 14:51

Yes you've overreacted. You've assumed incorrectly that he would watch it with you and then got pissy with him for not doing it

GreenMeerkat · 08/03/2018 14:53

DH and I NEVER want to watch the same shows. We end up watching something that I like and he plays on his phone or something he likes and I take myself off upstairs.

I think you are overreacting somewhat yes.

GrooovyLass · 08/03/2018 14:53

Bloody hell you're in a strop because he didn't want to watch a tv programme?!

Dancingmonkey87 · 08/03/2018 14:54

After enduring two labours with me when I had our dc my dh would not be interested in one born every minute. I’m lucky if he would watch call the midwife but often or not he listens to music or goes in the back room. I would never expect him to put up with it.

DancesWithOtters · 08/03/2018 14:54

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iklboo · 08/03/2018 14:54

OBEM doesn't strike me as a programme you can 'snuggle down & watch together'. It doesn't interest him so why should he watch it? I record & watch lots of shows to watch later on my own. So does DH.

Are you currently pregnant, which is why you got so upset? Maybe he doesn't want to have to think about the birth and things that could go wrong (which I think they show in the programme) just yet if you are.

Thurlow · 08/03/2018 14:54

I can kind of understand why you'd be very very mildly annoyed that he asked 5 minutes before OBEM was on if you could watch something else instead.

But seriously, you can't watch a TV show on your own?

madeyemoodysmum · 08/03/2018 14:55

I would think a lot of men wouldn't want to watch it.

Me either tho I love call the midwife.

ZeroFuchsGiven · 08/03/2018 14:55

I don't blame him, I wouldn't want to watch it either and if someone wanted to watch it I would do exactly what he did, leave the room and tell them to watch it on their own.

You overreacted and are still overreacting by refusing to watch it on your own.

SoupDragon · 08/03/2018 14:55

also whilst mummering that we "arent joined at the hip to watch TV"

He’s right.

blueskyinmarch · 08/03/2018 14:56

Gosh you are being a bit weird and precious. I watch stuff all the time which DH has no interest in. He potters about and let's me get on with it. I do the same if he wants to watch sport. We watch very few things together and we never snuggle when we do. Strictly one at each end of the couch so we can get a table each for our drinks!

Topseyt · 08/03/2018 14:57

Why not just get a cup of tea and watch it on your own?

He doesn't have to want to watch it. My DH isn't interested in watching things like that. Never has been. It didn't mean he was bad or unsupportive in the delivery room. He was fine. He just wouldn't want to watch it on TV. I don't really watch them any more either, probably because my child bearing days are well and truly behind me now and my youngest child is 15.

Have it as something you enjoy for yourself.

myrtleWilson · 08/03/2018 14:58

Sorry to join in the chorus OP but am amused at OBEM being "snuggle up tv" - he didn't want to watch it but why should that prevent you?

HotCrossBunFight · 08/03/2018 15:01

Bloody hate that programme

Bluebirdsky · 08/03/2018 15:05

Sorry but I am with your DP on this one, it's completely understandable that he might not want to watch it and lots of pregnant women also choose not to watch it as well. For some it can increase fear and anxiety around their own forthcoming labour experience.
Just because DP will be with you when you give birth doesn't mean he wants to watch other women he doesn't know in the same situation.
If you choose to watch it then obviously that is fine but don't push him to do so as well.

gluteustothemaximus · 08/03/2018 15:05

I'm with you OP. You don't seem to be joined at the hip to watch ALL programmes.

You just wanted him to watch this one with you.

Because you'll be going through this soon (I take it you're pregnant?)

When I was pregnant, DH watched it with me, because I asked him to. It wasn't his favourite programme (hardly mine either), but we did watch it together.

Would not ever watch the programme now though. No more babies for us!

Ivebeenaroundtheblock · 08/03/2018 15:06

Really immature reaction, are you a new couple?
I can’t imagine any man sitting through that drivel.

BestestBrownies · 08/03/2018 15:06

OMG GET A GRIP! Seriously, you are being TOTALLY ridiculous and very unfair to your DP.

If what you actually wanted was to snuggle up together, he gave the option of continuing with the box-set or whatever you were watching together before OBEM started.

You can't force other people to like the same things you do. In a romantic relationship/partnership that is beyond stifling and way too controlling.

Mummyh2016 · 08/03/2018 15:08

You did overreact but if you’re pregnant that’s okay! DH won’t watch it with me, not now or when I was pregnant.

Twitchett22 · 08/03/2018 15:08

I wouldn't watch it either, never been a fan but the fact that I know I have to give birth one day in the next week you couldn't pay me to watch it!
It was a ridiculous argument to have but put it down to pregnancy hormones, last night me and dp had a blazing row because the slow cooker hadn't cooked tea in time and the potatoes were still hard. We still haven't spoken properly and I defo overreacted but luckily he is understanding and puts it down to me wanting to get this baby out of me asap haha

Gladys123 · 08/03/2018 15:09

But you didnt actually ask him to watch it with you, you just announced you were going to watch it and he said ok and set the reminder. Are you 12?

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Lexie82 · 08/03/2018 15:10

Maybe the difference is we sit and watch his stuff on TV all night, we sit and dont move and watch together and then I can't remember the last time we went to bed seperate. I don't moan, dont mind, there isn't really anything I can think of in last year I've specifically said I want to watch X, we watch what he wants - or I do phone surf if I get bored.

Just think he could have done the same back as I do for him. And he didn't need to throw a stop at me and stomp off to bed when I said I did want to watch it and no we couldnt watch another in series we were watching right now. Feel he reacted poorly to me jsut saying I wanted to watch something.....more annoyed with his statement of us not being joined at the hip. I apologise for my over reacting as I recognised I did but he didn't apologise for his rant at all....until much later, and still I think only cos he thinks thats what I want to hear and will shut me up!

Just was disappointed that he didn't say sooner in the evening he wasn't particularly interested in watching it, rather than 2 minutes before......

All stupid I know! #emotional

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MrsJayy · 08/03/2018 15:11

Obem isn't a snuggle down together programme it is intense and can be upsetting he will experience a baby coming out of your ladybits soon enough he doesn't need to watch somebody else go through giving birth if he doesn't want to ,. I don't watch obem i don't see how it is entertainment,

gluteustothemaximus · 08/03/2018 15:12

I get it OP. But I think posters think this is AIBU and not a pregnancy board.

Don't be sucked into the 'she's emotional because she's pregnant' shit.

His comment was shit, so you felt bad. Tis all.

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