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One Born Every Minute...argument!!! Still Annoyed...need to vent!

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Lexie82 · 08/03/2018 14:47

So...am I being over emotional and stupid?

At around 8 last night I said to DP I wanted to watch One Born at 9...he said OK and set it to reminder. Here's me thinking we are going to snuggle on sofa and watch what we have to come.

At 8.55, what we were watching finished and so I said can we watch One Born now....to which he says NO, he doesn't want to watch it. Think's it's rubbish and isn't interested in seeing all blood and gore, can't we watch another one in the series we were watching.....I said, thought we where going to watch it together?? He says for me to watch it on my own, to which I say NO...... He says No he don't want to and so goes and plods around the kitchen and then says he's going to bed so I can watch what I like......also whilst mummering that we "arent joined at the hip to watch TV"

I stayed downstairs for about 45 mins and then went to bed. Didn't watch it. Felt really sad and disappointed and thought we were going to watch together.

I know this is all very stupid!!!!! But it's still annoying me.

We exchanged a few messages this morning and I did apologise for over reacting and said I was just disappointed and he said it's no big deal and he just didn't want to watch it. I said I would give him this "space" so he can have his Hip Back! After an hour of my talking about space he said sorry he didn't mean it like that.....

sorry just annoyed and wanted to vent - know it sounds so stupid! Dont' want to watch bloody show on my own now either!

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Twitchett22 · 08/03/2018 15:14

I'd honestly just forget about all of it, i think you're reading too far into it and life really is too short to dwell on a comment about being joined at the hip

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 08/03/2018 15:14

Oh God, just buy 2 TVs! Then you can watch what you like!

He didn't even try and stop you watching it, just said he didn't want to. Nothing wrong with a snuggle for something you BOTH want to watch but you don't HAVE to watch all 'his' shows either.

Totally agree with him, you're not joined at the hip!

expatinscotland · 08/03/2018 15:18

I'd be very unimpressed if my husband threw a strop because I didn't want to watch what he wanted on TV.

ZeroFuchsGiven · 08/03/2018 15:19

Just think he could have done the same back as I do for him

Does he expect you to watch his shows with him or are you free to do what you please?

CavoliRiscaldati · 08/03/2018 15:19

I can't think of anything worst than watching OBEM when pregnant.

AnnaLuna · 08/03/2018 15:20

My DH watches it with me when I ask him so I understand why you are being upset. It wouldn’t be difficult for him just to sit and watch it with you. Flowers

PinkHeart5914 · 08/03/2018 15:20

Not everyone wants to spend the evening watching people give birth and you know what that’s fine, he wasn’t stopping you watching it just said he didn’t want too.

Also agree with him you aren’t joint at the hip and it’s ok to watch and do diffrent things sometimes

Just forget about it and move on

Fundays12 · 08/03/2018 15:21

Seriously your annoyed he didn’t want to watch somethunb you like? Me and my husband rarely watch the same programmes. Since when do couples have to be together to watch what they like in tv? Put a film on you both like if you want to snuggle in the couch.

GabsAlot · 08/03/2018 15:21

my dh likes certain shows some we both like but u cant expect to like everything the same

it might be off putting watching obem for him sometimes it shows things going wrong or just inconsiderate partners on their phones( a reason i cant bear to watch it) its just nothis thing

TheJoyOfSox · 08/03/2018 15:27

Wow! You have a blessed life if DH not wanting to watch your program with you is worthy of even mentioning.

You say you both sit and watch “his stuff” but you can not expect him to watch OBEM with you, just because you watch his stuff, it’s definitely not everyone’s cuppa.

I do feel yabu here, just record it and watch it when you’re alone.

mrsm43s · 08/03/2018 15:28

If he didn't want to watch it, that is his choice. He didn't say you couldn't watch it, he just said he didn't want to.

He makes the choices about what he wants to watch, and you make the choices about what you want to watch.

If I were you, I'd apologise to your DH for the overreaction. And in future, watch what you want to watch, and if you don't want to watch whatever he's watching, I'd suggest you go and do something else.

FucksakeCuntingFuckingTwats · 08/03/2018 15:31

You are being massively unreasonable but you aknowledge that. My husband never ever watches it. He couldn't think of anything worse. I don't think many men would be interested in watching a complete strangers birth.

londonrach · 08/03/2018 15:36

Yabu. Dh will never watch it or any tv problem involving blood. Me i cant watch any alien thing. Yabu. I dont understand why you didnt watch it

GnotherGnu · 08/03/2018 15:36

Just think he could have done the same back as I do for him

Why is watching a programme in the same room as someone else doing something "for" them? How does it benefit them in any way? If I'm watching something I enjoy, it makes zero difference to me if my husband or anyone else is present - with the possible exception of programmes where we may make some sort of comment, e.g. contest programmes like Bake Off. If it's something I know my husband doesn't enjoy, on the whole I'd prefer that he wasn't around because my enjoyment may be spoilt by knowing he's bored and restless.

So don't feel that you are doing something "for" your husband by sticking around when he's watching something. Watch it if you want to, but admit you're doing it purely for your benefit, not his.

Schlimbesserung · 08/03/2018 15:37

I've had five babies and I still can't watch OBEM! If it was just a matter of not liking what you wanted to watch ten fair enough, but some people are really upset/revolted by watching films of other people's births. I'm one of them- it really turns my stomach. My husband doesn't mind so much, but reckoned that he has delivered enough lambs and calves to have got the general idea!

I had my husband with me for four of my labours and he didn't look at the business end during any of them because he was too busy supporting me and holding my hand, getting me drinks or being screamed at. So if you are worrying that he won't make a good birth partner because of this then you need to find something else to worry about, because it doesn't mean anything of the sort.

BrendasUmbrella · 08/03/2018 15:37

So in future watch what you want to watch. If you don't want to watch his shows, don't. But you don't get to insist he watches one of your shows (especially something like OBEM which is a bit grim if you're not a fan of the subject) because you watched one of his.

logicalmum · 08/03/2018 15:37

That's why me and dh sit in separate rooms at night and watch our own telly. I love One Born, but i'd have to tie him down to a chair to make him watch it. There's certain programs he won't watch and One Born is one of them. Mind you i don't like much of the stuff he watches, but that's fine. We're all different.

BrendasUmbrella · 08/03/2018 15:41

more annoyed with his statement of us not being joined at the hip

I can understand why that would annoy you, because you let him have everything his own way, then the one time you want him to watch your show he refuses. But your problem isn't that one specific thing, it's that he hogs the remote. So in future find some shows you want to watch and make sure you get your TV time too, and if either one of you doesn't like the subject matter you're allowed to leave the sofa!

ChevalierTialys · 08/03/2018 15:46

You sound like hard work.

Yabu to get upset about him not wanting to watch the same thing as you. Not all programmes appeal to everyone and it's unfair to expect him to sit through boring shit.

StewPots · 08/03/2018 15:48

Used to love OBEM but after a traumatic and stressful labour with 2nd DC I can't stand it now.

DH and I rarely watch the same shows - he loves Corrie and Emmerdale, trucker type shows and "How it's made/done" sort of stuff but I'm very "meh" and will watch something else in another room. It's not a big deal, although it's nice to watch something together. OBEM isn't though (in my opinion!) because even when I was pregnant and enjoying the show DH couldn't stand it!

Ubercornsdiscoball · 08/03/2018 15:56

You posted this in pregnancy so I am going to guess you are pregnant. You don’t say I don’t think.

If you are then you need to get a grip as when baby arrives you won’t be able to snuggle down together. Your evenings may well be quite separate for a while. So now Is a good time to start making some space for each other. Really. You need to pick your battles.

If you’re not pregnant then it’s a complete and utter overreaction

OneFlewOverTheDodosNest · 08/03/2018 16:05

I think there's a thing with some men that what they want to watch on TV is general television that everyone should love (even when it's shit) but suggest something that you want to watch and it's woman stuff. It pisses me off - if he insists on you watching 3 hours of HIS choice then it's fair for him to watch your programme too. Or you can watch programmes separately but it's one set of rules, not his way for both.

Thistlebelle · 08/03/2018 16:13

You couldn’t pay me to watch OBEM.

You behaved very badly.

You are both adults you can both choose what to watch. If you want more of a say in what you watch, fair enough but you can’t force him to watch it.

FleetwoodSmack · 08/03/2018 16:14

Honestly, while I realise this is a comparatively popular mainstream TV programme, I personally think that anyone (whether or not they are pregnant or have had a child) who essentially regards someone else's pain as weeknight entertainment to snuggle up on the sofa is quite odd. Kind of like the tricoteuses knitting alongside the guillotine.

holasoydora · 08/03/2018 16:18

You sit and watch his stuff - but you could also say no.

There is no way my DH would sit through OBEM. I am lucky if I get the odd period drama. Yes, we watch a lot of 'his' stuff, but I choose to watch it with him and dont have to. No reason he should do the same. He has much less tolerance narrower interests than I do.