Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Flip

1 2 3 4

Original poster

One Born Every Minute...argument!!! Still Annoyed...need to vent!

84 replies

Lexie82 · 08/03/2018 14:47

So...am I being over emotional and stupid?

At around 8 last night I said to DP I wanted to watch One Born at 9...he said OK and set it to reminder. Here's me thinking we are going to snuggle on sofa and watch what we have to come.

At 8.55, what we were watching finished and so I said can we watch One Born now....to which he says NO, he doesn't want to watch it. Think's it's rubbish and isn't interested in seeing all blood and gore, can't we watch another one in the series we were watching.....I said, thought we where going to watch it together?? He says for me to watch it on my own, to which I say NO...... He says No he don't want to and so goes and plods around the kitchen and then says he's going to bed so I can watch what I like......also whilst mummering that we "arent joined at the hip to watch TV"

I stayed downstairs for about 45 mins and then went to bed. Didn't watch it. Felt really sad and disappointed and thought we were going to watch together.

I know this is all very stupid!!!!! But it's still annoying me.

We exchanged a few messages this morning and I did apologise for over reacting and said I was just disappointed and he said it's no big deal and he just didn't want to watch it. I said I would give him this "space" so he can have his Hip Back! After an hour of my talking about space he said sorry he didn't mean it like that.....

sorry just annoyed and wanted to vent - know it sounds so stupid! Dont' want to watch bloody show on my own now either!

OP posts:

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

FranticallyPeaceful · 08/03/2018 16:21

You’re in a mood because you didn’t want to watch a tv program alone? Why does he have to be glued to you? I’d honestly rethink my relationship if OH was angry because I didn’t want to watch a tv program he wanted to watch, but I’ll put this down to hormones... lol. Breathe.

Maybe get two TVs? It’s just television. Me and OH never watch TV together because he’s not much of a tv fan in general really, and that’s okay. I don’t like the stuff he does, I would hope he wouldn’t force me to endure it anyway

ClareB83 · 08/03/2018 16:49

I understand OP. You're going to be giving birth soon and thought he might be interested enough to do this bit of research with you.

But he probably didn't get that. Maybe explain why you wanted to watch it together and see what he says.

I also think his strop was ridiculous.

gluteustothemaximus · 08/03/2018 16:58

It's not about any old tv programme!

DH watches horror, I hate it. I watch comedy, he prefers sci fi etc etc

This is not an entertaining programme with a personal preference involved. It is a programme that many pregnant women watch so they have some idea of what might happen.

Expecting your partner to want to watch it with you is not unreasonable (despite this not being an AIBU).

DH never minded watching it, because it was important to me. He said 'you're the one who has to go through it, least I can do is watch a programme with you'.

It's not a case of forcing him to watch a film he doesn't like.

GreenMeerkat · 08/03/2018 17:03

There was a sad part in it too last night. Made me cry

Dozer · 08/03/2018 17:05

It was U to expect to “cosy up” in front of OBEM! Even and perhaps especially when you’re pregnant!

If you have things you would like him to do in preparation for being your birth partner, things you hope he will do or not do, just tell him.

DH hated and still hates OBEM and was brilliant when it came to actual births!

HoneyCake86 · 08/03/2018 17:13

My oh watched it for the first time n said hes not going to again, cos he finds it depressing. (After it was talking about a stillbirth) I think many men just dont like seeing it go wrong for others cos it worries them x

Cornishclio · 08/03/2018 17:17

Not many men like OBEM, except my son in law I think unless he watches in sufferance too. Apart from a few programmes DH and I like different programmes so rarely watch stuff together unless it is a film we can both get on board with. That means no chick flicks for him and no shoot em ups for me. I guess it is because you are pregnant you wanted both of you to watch it together? Can you explain that to him rather than him think you can't watch a tv programme on your own? My DD is pregnant so I can't watch OBEM either at the moment.

dontbesillyhenry · 08/03/2018 17:22

Control freak much. Can you imagine the reaction if a man came on here and posted 'my wife refused to watch top gear with me so I had a strop. We always watch everything together' alarm bells would quite rightly be ringing

dontbesillyhenry · 08/03/2018 17:24

DH has been through major surgery. Doesn't mean you would catch me watching surgical documentaries

gluteustothemaximus · 08/03/2018 17:26

Again. It is not forcing someone to watch top gear or whatever.

It is a specific programme about giving birth, which the OP will be going through for real and hoped her partner would want to watch it with her in preparation/research.

You lot have jumped on her like she's a control freak having a hissy fit because her husband didn't want to watch a chick flick.

TyrionLannistersShadow · 08/03/2018 17:28

I think you should chalk this one up to pregnancy hormones because you really are over reacting and bring unreasonable. However we've all been there, crying over stupid stuff when we are preggers so just give each other a hug tonight and forget about it ;)

gluteustothemaximus · 08/03/2018 17:29

Actually DH has been through surgery just recently. And despite being squeamish, I have watched and researched, and helped him through it. Tis what partners do.

skippykips · 08/03/2018 17:37

This doesn't really give any advice!
But my sister was on it last night. Rhiana! So yes your husband was definitely being unreasonable to not wanting to watch my nephew being born 😄

No i see your point OP, but some men can't cope with watching child birth unless it is their own.

InSisu · 08/03/2018 17:43

You've engineered a falling out to the extent it's still annoying you the following day, because your OH didn't want to watch a programme with you. You clearly didn't even want to watch it either or you would have done.
You're controlling.

MagicNumbers1234 · 08/03/2018 17:48

Am I the only one who thinks it is a bad idea to watch obem when you are pregnant? I well steered clear when pregnant. My own labour was enough for me.

DearMrDilkington · 08/03/2018 17:54

I wouldn't want to watch OBEM either, I watched it once and it haunted me for weeks... The screams were ringing in my ears for ages.

Girlwiththearabstrap · 08/03/2018 18:31

@gluteustothemaximus
It's hardly research or preparation is it? From what I've seen it's an edited programme. On tv. Not something to be compared to genuine preparation for giving birth 😂
OP i hope you're feeling better now. It's a bit of an overreaction but hardly crime of the century to get upset occasionally!

Waitingonasmile · 08/03/2018 19:57

Many people would find watching OBEM extremely traumatic. The background stories in last nights episode were also upsetting and things did not go completely smoothly. I would not watch it while pregnant and my husband literally couldn't haven't stayed in the room.

gluteustothemaximus · 08/03/2018 20:19

Personally I found it useful to watch.

Again, it's not whether you all like or hate OBEM. It is about the OP. She wanted to watch. She wanted to watch it with her husband. That's all.

CaMePlaitPas · 08/03/2018 20:34

OP, no man is going to sit with you and watch a bunch of women screaming in pain in order to pass a melon sized human being through their vagina and then being stitched up, you are being completely unreasonable. He did want to sit with you and watch another episode of what you were watching, but you rejected him.

Waitingonasmile · 08/03/2018 20:38

There a slight difference between being expected to watch your average inoffensive
to the eyes programme gluteustothemaximus and being expected to watch a human emerge from a stranger's vagina.

happymummy12345 · 08/03/2018 20:39

I don't see the need to get upset over the fact your dp didn't want to watch it with you. Dh and I have some programmes we both watch, but mostly we watch things separately. It's hardly worth getting upset over.

GabsAlot · 08/03/2018 21:01

its what partners do what watch t5raumatising shows about pther people?

my dh is having his teeth out monday should i watch marathon man with him?

gluteustothemaximus · 08/03/2018 22:16

my dh is having his teeth out monday should i watch marathon man with him?

Yes, because that is the same thing

Ivebeenaroundtheblock · 08/03/2018 22:38

nothing worse in my mind that watching NASCAR the same noise droning on and on and on, cars just going around in useless endless circles for hours on end........i'd rather watch paint dry.
i love my dh but you couldn't pay me to sit next to him and watch the indi500.

Flip

1 2 3 4