Pregnancies April 2018 - #3 the babies are nearly here !

[DaisyLand]

So we’ve nearly finished with thread 2! Just on time for the babies joining us !

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Hi @strongarms. Im actually looking for same advice. Ive been for scan this morning to check position of placenta as was low lying at 20 weeks. Good news is it has but little monkey is now breech. So my choices are to have EVC on wed. Or go to consultant next monday and book c section for 39 weeks. Don't know what to do. Most people ive spoken to say the Evc was unsuccessful and I don't want to distress baby if not needed.

ECV should I say. Would help if I got initals right 😂

Sorry bez ! i think she's being unreasonable and should follow your wishes.
I did my birth plan yesterday and i wrote : Visitors : Not allowed apart from DH.

My family doesnt live here so it'd be dh family and tbh i dont want anyone coming around to my house on the 1st days, we have not told any family members yet but i can see that one not going well neither. I always feel that people only think about themselves in these scanarios and never about the affected people's wishes. So hope she understands it and that one day in the baby's life wont make any difference to them or her but it'll to you and your family

Sorry you're having to go through that Bez definitely think She's unreasonable not you, you're not asking the earth just one Evening!

I'm sorry Rae I don't even know what an ECV is, wish I could advise better. I always try to get as many facts about both as I can to try to make the best decision.

Saw the ACTUAL consultant today, not a registrar or stand in; really nice man wish I'd seen him sooner. Baby is NOT engaged but that's normal for 2nd ones apparently. Have blood in my sample and that could either be the gradual losing of plug for the last couple of days or a UTI. Have antibiotics just in case and a date set for induction; that's more for my comfort as the SPD officially has me on crutches :( really hoping this baby comes before then though

@Bez9087 although easier said than done, try not to worry about what anyone else wants. You and your partner have decided the Friday will be for you and your children to meet and bond with new babies everyone else just has to accept that tears or no tears

@Rae2017 I think it depends on how much you want to try for a vaginal birth? If that was your wish you could try the ECV they are safe for you and baby but only have a 50% success rate as far as I have read.

@MadRainbow oh you sound like you're really going through it hope baby comes soon for you!

@Rae2017, the presentation scan shows my baby is still breech, although I think she's trying to move on her own... I'm booked in for the ECV tomorrow morning. The registrar who scanned seems to think I have a reasonable chance of getting her turned - the consultant who will do it has a good reputation, and although success rate is around 50% I think its worth it to try to have a vaginal birth... I'll just have to grit my teeth and bear the discomfort. I've read loads (probably too much) about how painful it can be!

@Bez9087, I agree with @Pumpkinma, you have to put your needs and your children first.

@MadRainbow, you poor thing. I hope everything goes smoothly between now and your induction

Thanks ladies. Thought that may be the case. I’m going to sit with dh tonight and compose a general message to all specifically stating what is gonna happen. I’m happy for people to come up the Saturday. Unless for any reason babies are in scbu then again visiting will be pushed back until our dc have spent time with them.
It’s hard as she always does it when I’m on my own as she knows I’m weaker and more likely to cave. Where as if dh was there she wouldn’t even question it. May get dh to send the text instead haha!

@rae2017 ECVs are not the most comfortable thing in the world but you are given drugs to stop contractions and have access to gas and air normally. ECV is such a beautiful skill to watch (some doctors are definately better than others). The chances of baby being unhappy is slim.

It depends how you feel about a c section scar- as there is a chance baby will turn and you may not need a section. If you have a c section that scar influences decisions on any more pregnancies you may have ie VBAC, won’t be able to have an ECV again if you have a scar.

Only you can make that decision and it will be neither right or wrong

www.facebook.com/iihamil/videos/2053871244830228/

This is a beautiful example of a skilled doctor doing an ECV x

36 week scan today. Scanner lady was lovely, we've met her 3 times before and she makes the scanning process very relaxing. Baby is measuring at about 8lb.

Then we had midwife clinic and finally met the consultant. I came out in tears having had my hopes of a home birth dashed. Consultant was very good at explaining things and made it all sound less scary than the community midwife does. However he was keen for me to have a stretch and sweep today. He sent the student to get the midwife to go ahead with it there and then. Luckily husband stepped in and said no as he knew it's not something I want and as I was in shock I was about to just go ahead with what was being organised. I'm only 36 weeks so definitely no need to rush into anything. We've got our next consultant appointment booked at 39 weeks. No more scanning required. He said due to size he doesn't want me to go over 40 weeks and would therefore be suggesting induction at next appointment and that's why he says having a stretch and sweep once or twice a week leading up to induction might help and might prevent the official induction process.

Good news is the scanner lady couldn't scan the head today due to position being so low down. Consultant says that is positive as baby must be getting into a position ready to come out so hopefully we can go ahead with a vaginal birth. I just want as little intervention as possible hence I wanted a home birth. So now we just need to start planning how to make a hospital birth as relaxing as possible. Husband is going to look at sorting some relaxing music and lighting etc

@rae good luck with the ECV, I've heard of them working so you may aswell give it a go if you think you'd like another option prior to section.

@bez my mother would be exactly the same regarding wanting to visit. I discussed it with husband last night and he said no visitors for at least 5 days. Which is exactly what I want too because I won't want anyone near me or taking baby from me. However, I know that my mother will never forgive us if we say that to her. She wants us to let her know as soon as labour starts and would come out in the middle of the night if we told her baby had arrived. I've considered just not telling her until a few days after birth but that will also cause a huge problem. I think we're going to have to put our wants to one side and let her visit because it's not worth the fall out if we say no visitors. This is only baby number 1 tho so we don't have other babies to introduce to it first. Number one priority is to ensure my dad or father in law don't find out or meet baby before my mum because again she will never forgive us for that either 🙉

@rosegarden45 a lot of places will let you bring your own pillows to help with making it feel more homely, I'm sorry you don't get to have the home birth you wanted but between you and your DH you can adjust and make it work so you're as relaxed as possible. Have you looked into hypnobirthing? The book I'm reading at the moment is really good for recommendations on how to achieve this (think it's called mindful hypnobirthing).

@Loosemoose28 that really is a wonderful video thank you for posting Our hospital definitely is struggling with keeping up to date, they've only just purchased two birthing balls for the labour room. I do like the idea of aromatherapy though, have you used it previously?

I've had friends tell me the waterproof mattress liner is worth it as you can use it later on to stop breast milk from ruining the mattress, that's even with using breast pads. Think there are a few breathable ones out there just have to hunt!

@Bez9087 I'm sorry you're Mum is behaving that way, that's really the last thing you need to be worrying about at this stage! Can you just say DH will text when all is well for visitors as you need to see how the girls (and you) are doing? Perhaps even so far as to say there are reduced visitors enforced by the hospital in those situations so DH can confirm...

Had a strange day today, ended up with an unexpected scan as I'd mentioned I'd noticed an increase in a clear discharge. Fluid levels and cervix checked so all fine, they've just said to keep an eye makes you paranoid though!

P.s welcome @Strongarms27! My DH works nights so once he wakes me up at 330/4am there is no way of getting back to sleep annoying when all people keep parroting is ooooh just you wait until baby is here....

@WonderfullySunny i've realised of clear discharge as well on myself , i've got scan tomorrow booked for a growth scan tho it wont be able to do it because i had one last week as well so I'm gonna ask for fluid levels to be checked. Have got doctor on wednesday so will mention it again. I dont have it everyt time i go to the loo tho so i think it's just body getting ready

Glad everything is ok on your side

Had my 36 week growth scan today, baby has dropped on my chart quite significantly so was sent to day unit for assessment...noticed reduced fetal movement, long story short I might be being induced at the end of the week...I'll be 36+5 and I'm terrified.

It does all depend on the results of the 2 ctgs they have asked me to come in for (tomorrow and Thursday). I've got a consultant appointment on Friday and of they aren't happy then there is a distinct chance I'll be induced. Which means no more birth centre and no more water birth for me, I'm sad about it but at the end of the day baby safety is paramount and all I want is my baby here safe and sound, if that has to be early then so be it.

Frantically washing all baby clothes and packing babies bag just in case. Hubby is collecting the pram and stuff from my in laws to make sure we are fully prepared just in case.

If I'm honest I'm totally freaking out about the prospect of induction but I'm trying to stay calm and not get to upset but it's really hard.

@Loosemoose28, that video is amazing! Thanks so much for posting it. I hope mine goes as well although I doubt I'll film it!

@WonderfullySunny I haven't slept well almost the whole third trimester, but I'm now on maternity leave so I plan on getting into a hardcore nap routine for as long as I can!

@amysaurus87 Oh wow that must be scary! Try to relax as much as you possibly can. And hopefully the two ctgs will be okay and baby was just being naughty today! They don't like to induce early so will only do it if totally necessary! Hope you're okay! 🤞😘

@DaisyLand if you think there's any chance you are leaking fluid then ask for it to e checked using a speculum and not just scan. My water levels were fine on the scan but I'd actually been leaking for over a week hence the rush job in the end. Always better to check even if its just to put your mind at rest.

My 5th grandchild is due April 23rd

Will do tho I think I’m not. Had a pad yesterday and it was quite “clean” by the time I took it out hours after.

Hope little one is doing fine !

Amy hope your ctgs go okn!

Thanks @Pumpkinma and @daisyland I'm just relaxing at home, it's crazy I had my baby shower yesterday and now there's a chance baby could be here this time next week!

Hmmmm pretty sure I've just passed some mucus plug...sorry for tmi but consistency of snot if that is about right for anyone with previous experience?! Currently googling like mad and seems if it was clear likely to grow back as I'm only 34+5... We don't have midwives here, my hospital is 1hr 20min and my DH is at work with the car...lol remaining calm honest!!
@AnnaMadden they scanned me today for the loss of fluid and all was fine but no speculum, did you have to ask specifically for it?

@rosegarden exactly the same here. She tends to throw the toys out the pram and expect to get her way but myself and dh are quite head strong on this. We have sent the text out to all family stating what’s happening and that visiting is fine for the Saturday and Sunday if I’m still in. Least at hospital it’s more controlled like two hours in afternoon and two hours evening so I know I’m not gonna be over doing it with everyone there and will have breaks between well breaks with newborns haha!!
@amysaurus try not to worry too much. I’m having a section Friday and I’ll be 36+6. They have said babies should be fine and not need special care etc and mine was predicted about 5lb each the other week. I physically can’t see how they are that size but who knows. My left one has dropped consistently every time but the last week she seems to have maintained where she last was. Fingers crossed the ctg monitoring goes okay tomorrow.

Wow, it sounds like you're all about to pop! I'm 37 weeks today and don't have any of the signs of impending labour, though I can well imagine myself being one of those women who just doesn't realize until the last minute as I don't know what they're supposed to look like or feel like. However last week the doctor said my cervix is still long, closed and hard, and that the baby seems to have moved higher up, so I'll probably still be waiting to give birth long after the rest of you have delivered!

@rosegarden45 and @Bez9087 This is one of those situations where you have to put yourself first and do things your own way. You need to be able to relax as much as possible without having to worry about things like this and your mums should understand that. It makes me kind of glad we don't live anywhere near either of our families.

Bez and rosegarden, I’m sorry that your families aren’t being supportive when it comes to introducing them to your babies. It’s such a shame they can’t respect your wishes and are making you feel guilty. It’s very unfair. Stick by your guns - these are YOUR babies. You will have just given birth. They have absolutely no say whatsoever. I’m also sure that once they set eyes upon your little ones, they’ll forget any grumpiness they felt towards the situation. Well, in an ideal world 😬

Harry, I feel like I’ll be waiting for my baby forever as well. I don’t know why, he just seems too happy and settled in there 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

WonderfullySunny, can you give your midwife a ring and just see what she thinks?

Welcome strongarms! It’s always lovely to welcome a new face to the group

amy, I really hope the ctg’s show reassuring results and they don’t have to induce you. You’re right to remain calm and remember that whatever is decided, it’s for the best though. Wishing you all the best lovely x

Rae and strongarms, I can’t offer any advice on an ECV I’m afraid. I don’t envy you both the decision as to whether to go ahead with it though - good luck with whatever you both decide! x