Questions from strangers

[KittyKK]

Why do strangers ask when my baby is due and if it’s a boy/girl? I’m finding it really odd, as I’d never think to ask someone I don’t know such personal questions.

I suppose it goes along with “ooooo not long to go” and “is it just the one in there”. Be quiet strange people who I’ve never met before!!

I’m being grumpy I know. I might smack MIL if she mentions my size one more time (I now exclaim “no one’s allowed to comment on my appearance” whenever I see her).

Oh hey @nc1990, have you got any idea what happened to the post natal chat? Seems to have dropped off MN!

Yeah I think there's a clear distinction between polite questions that just show someone is interested and acknowledgding your pregnancy like asking for sex or due date, and then really personal, intrusive shit like "was it planned?", or unwanted comments on what someone looks like (I mean you wouldn't comment on someone's size when they aren't pregnant). At work I've had a few comments so far about me not showing and being too small...I'm only 23 weeks, it's my first pregnancy, it's winter so I'm tending to wear layers and large, loose clothing anyway, and pre-pregnancy I was a size 8-10, plus I actually lost weight in my first trimester due to HG which everyone knows about as I was off work for 10 weeks. So I don't think it's any surprise that I don't have a massive bump . And some people have been commenting about how slim I still am and basically congratulating me on it which I find really weird and uncomfortable even though I know they think they're being nice.

But anyway those things are very different to general chit chat about when baby is due and the sex, they are just standard questions which I don't think are intrusive and I don't think many people would find them rude or intrusive.