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To announce or not to announce on Facebook?

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NooNooHead · 19/12/2017 23:24

Had my 12w scan today and am v happy all is good with little babe and things seem to be progressing well.

I’ve told a few close friends and my family / DP that I’m expecting, but I am in really two minds as to whether to announce on social media or not... after my ectopic earlier this year, I am being very cautiously optimistic with this pregnancy and don’t want to tempt fate or jinx anything if I announce on Facebook. I am so excited yet scared at the same time, and really want to shout it from the rooftops! With my DD and first pregnancy, I announced very soon after my first scan. Now i’m itching to tell people but am not sure whether Facebook is a bit too ‘public’?

I’m going to look into whether I can create a group on Facebook and announce it to a few select friends that way perhaps...

What did you do? I’m keen to hear others’ views, as I know Facebook can be a bit of a no-no for some people.

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Moanyoldcow · 19/12/2017 23:47

I popped it on FB but I'm not a prolific sharer so there isn't a blow by blow account of the pregnancy.

Do whatever makes you happy - it just seemed the easiest way to do it for me.

GreenTulips · 19/12/2017 23:49

Why not tell people face to face? Or call? Then you can hear the reactions rather than a few 'likes'

Makes it a better experience

TheEdge266 · 19/12/2017 23:49

I was excited and loved sharing my news on Facebook both times. I am however very fussy with who I have on my Facebook so it doesn't bother me too much. We had a loss before ds and a loss before baby I'm currently pregnant with. Both times getting to 12 weeks felt like a massive safe zone and we couldn't wait to share.

DailyMaileatmyshit · 20/12/2017 04:19

We didn't share on Facebook until baby was born! I liked telling people in person.

Beakyplinders · 20/12/2017 04:52

We didn't share it on Facebook, I just find it a private, albeit lovely, thing so I didn't want every Tom, Dick and Harry knowing my business and frankly I'm not sure some of the people I have on there who I went to primary school with, for example, care either.

BunsOfAnarchy · 20/12/2017 06:35

I've told all my loved ones. The ones that matter. Got a wedding this weekend where a lot to extended family will find out and it'll be a lovely surprise.
I have ex work colleagues/old school friends etc who I don't actually talk to or care enough about to tell so I didn't put on fb.
They can find out when I've given birth.

BunsOfAnarchy · 20/12/2017 06:36

P.s it's nice having a little privacy. When people bump into me it's a nice surprise for them.

FairfaxAikman · 20/12/2017 06:39

I haven't shared a lot of my pregnancy (no scan pic etc) but I did a FB announcement.

I had my spaniel, who is notorious for stealing socks, hold a baby sock and captioned it "More socks to steal" with the expected month.

Was apparently far too subtle for some people because I kept getting asked if i was getting a new puppy

CrossFreelancer · 20/12/2017 07:03

We didn't share either of ours on FB. But I didn't keep it a secret either. When I had my baby shower people posted pictures and I think that's when my Facebook friends realised and started congrarulating me

JoJoSM2 · 20/12/2017 07:19

I won’t be sharing on Facebook. The nearest and dearest know as we’ve been progressively telling them.

Lillybilly20 · 20/12/2017 07:35

Honestly Facebook announcements are awful and showy! Why not tell people in person or phone call? And don’t forget it can be very distressing for people who have had baby losses - which you should understand having had a loss yourself xx congrats on the healthy pregnancy btw xxx

ClareB83 · 20/12/2017 07:38

Telling people in person is so nice and FB is so public, I'm trying to wait til after the 20 week scan to put it on social media. But so many friends know now (16 weeks) that it'll probably out sooner.

NoParticularPattern · 20/12/2017 07:39

I didn’t share on Facebook- still haven’t at 34 weeks! Mainly because I had a couple of losses before this baby and I well remember how hard it was to see those scan photos and the happy announcements that went with them. It wasn’t that I wasn’t happy for them, of course I was- they’re my friends. But it was yet another reminder of what I had lost and it bloody hurt.

I also didn’t share because I’m not a massive Facebook sharer. I have an account and lots of contacts on it, but I don’t really post a huge amount on there other than what automatically goes on from Instagram etc. I preferred telling people in person myself, but do it however you see fit! Congratulations!

Daisy91 · 20/12/2017 07:41

I’m not going to post online. I think it’s a bit cringe and it’s all about how many likes you can get. I especially would never post a scan photo! I’ve just been telling people face to face, old friends who I no longer talk to will probably just find out when baby is here. We’re quite private people though so I think it’s nicer that way :)

Rebekah120517 · 20/12/2017 07:49

I’m very quite picky who I have on my Facebook, If I don’t care for you and know you personally I wouldn’t have you on fb. We made an announcement on fb with a baby vest which said ‘let the adventure begin’. I haven’t overly shared my pregnancy on fb or other social media other than putting photos on if we are going out or anything then I haven’t. What I really don’t like is every detail, bump pictures and an update every week.

lynmilne65 · 20/12/2017 07:59

Not

SurreyMay · 20/12/2017 08:10

I posted something on FB at 17 weeks after a gender scan. It was nice telling people as and when I saw them and I wanted the pregnancy to progress a bit. It got to the point where I had to "go public". People at work who found out through the grapevine didn't feel they could talk to me about it as I hadn't told them (I wasn't going to tell literally everyone I came into contact I was pregnant). Plus my nan was putting cryptic things on FB about my pregnancy and didn't know what to tell people when they asked questions. Once I put it on FB it was like it was all out in the open. Not that people really care and I haven't put anything up about the pregnancy since.

Sharl2017 · 20/12/2017 08:11

We didn't tell anyone until we was over 15 weeks and even then it was just family. My team at work all know 16 weeks... I'll be telling friends over Christmas and then when return to work after Christmas it'll be common knowledge in the office at work. I'm not posting on Facebook until after the 20 week scan.

Juststrugglingabit · 20/12/2017 08:13

FB isn't for me. After a horrible late loss and then infertility, I found it so hard to cope with other people's news that I now feel really sensitive about who I tell and how I do it. Both because I am frightened of hurting anyone like I was hurt and because this pregnancy is very, very special to us. As it turns out, that has made sharing the news a very special experience because we have told those who know in person.

Juststrugglingabit · 20/12/2017 08:15

That's not to say I judge anyone who does do FB announcements - that's my baggage and your situation may be very different!

museumum · 20/12/2017 08:21

I said something on fb after the 20 week scan when everyone I saw / spoke to knew already. It wasn’t a big “announcement” just a mention.

peachesarenom · 20/12/2017 08:32

I think it is so sweet seeing people's reactions in person! Some of my friends have been overwhelmed and cried and stuff! So cute!

I lived far from home when I got engaged and I was so upset that I missed out on the face to face. I was very excited so told people over the phone.

harrietm87 · 20/12/2017 09:32

I haven't. I have a lot of fb friends I'm not really in touch with and I took the view that if they're important enough to me I will tell them personally, either in person or just phone/text. It's much nicer to break the news to people that way. Also allowed me to be considerate of those who have had previous losses, whereas a surprise post can just be like a punch in the face.

elmo1980 · 20/12/2017 09:37

I told family via our whatsapp group and friends face to face. Anyone else on fb aren't close enough for me to worry too much so they can find out either when baby is born or when my other half puts up a msg after our 20 wk scan (hes a much more prolific fb user than me and has 100s of 'friends which pisses me off as a load of randomers are going to know our business but that's up to him).

mindutopia · 20/12/2017 14:23

We shared it on Facebook, but we live far from most family and close friends. My family and all my long-term friends live in another country and some of them I haven't seen in years as I can't travel back very often. Even our friends here most of them live 2 hours from us and due to work schedules and childcare, we literally see them each like twice a year. If I saw someone I told them in person and we told a few people face to face just because they were there at the right time. But honestly, I don't have time and energy to be emailing and calling everyone I know. I'm happy to tell close family and a few friends in person, but everyone else can find out on Facebook.

Also, I think because I had a mc before this pregnancy (like literally right before, the month before I got pregnant), for me making a low key public announcement was really cathartic. It felt like a huge relief to let go of that fear that maybe this wasn't real and it was all going to happen again. It felt like a huge weight off my shoulders and very healing.

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