Omg will someone tell my dp that housework isn't going to do any damage

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Sick of the same old.. You're doing too much when I'm at work. Leave it for me.
However if I waited till he got home and showered as he is caked in crap from work so would have to shower first. If he then did he housework it would be 10pm before sitting down
So I honestly have no issues in doing it. I've always been independent and just got in with stuff.
So he's getting narkky as I do it all. Hoover Polish floors bedding. Bathroom etc all the normal day stuff.
Plus things like defrost freezer clean out fridge.. Only thing I haven't is the oven due to high chemical fumes.
But he's like if you're not careful you'll do damage or something will happen.
He's not understanding it at all.
If I struggled for any reason then I'd ask but I don't.

Wanted to sympathise :) My DH doesn't want me overdoing. which includes taking his shirts to the dry cleaners. Which is at the end of our road. On my way to work.

I moved house with both our mothers helping, when I was about... 10 weeks. Literally shouted at both of them, which I've never done before- but apparently lifting ANYthing (like, a bag containing two pillows....) would do irreparable damage...!

It's done/said out of love, even if it seems supremely unhelpful :)

It's good DP training. It stops them getting out of housework later as they have already proved that they know how to do it all.

Errrrrm... actually, yes, it will cause lots of damage. Very bad.... must therefore do everything. Legitimate truth.

Jesus no one tell them that. I have mine convinced I must be waited on and given footrubs.

Oh and whilst we're on the subject, I heard making dinner can be deadly so best to avoid all together tbh. Better to be safe

On a serious note though, just let him do something! Leave something every day for him instead. I had this conversation with my partner. We're making babies and they feel pretty useless, so it manifests in weird and wonderful ways. I think it's healthier for them to feel like they're contributing in some way... and to be honest there isn't much else they can do to help, so let them feel needed by leaving the floors or whatever occasionally

Enjoy it while it lasts. In my first pregnancy DH didn't want me to lift a finger. This time around I'll be holding our toddler and he'll hand me another bag to carry

Second pregnancy here and I’m basically a maid that cares for a toddler and works part time running a pub kitchen - enjoy it while it lasts! They sharp realise you’re not made of porcelain

What are you complaining about? That sounds great . I'd love it if dh thought housework was off limits for me. Honestly I would be careful of some heavy bleach stuff. I get quite lightheaded cleaning the bathroom.

How far on are you? When I was about 38 weeks, I took a fit of cleaning. This obviously involved having to move sofas etc to clean under them. The next morning I had a placental abruption and very nearly lost my baby. You're not weaker when pregnant but you have something which may be damaged. Or someone.

I’m in the same boat as you as my dp doesn’t even want me to empty the dishwasher, cooking dinner is a no no aswell I know he is doing it out off love but it can get really annoying, which my mum finds highly hilarious as she said as a teenager she couldn’t get me to do any off these things and now I’m moaning that dp not let me as the fear that I will break

Absolutely not. There is a very, very small chance that he knows my DH and I don't want that message being passed on.

My DP says this too... Then when I do leave a chore chances are he "doesn't notice" it needs done and I end up doing it the next day anyway.

He wants to help but I genuinely think he's blind to the little things I notice, but I'm quite OCD so I do try not to go all crazy hormonal lady on him.

Can I borrow him?!

It's great that you're cracking on but please make sure you have some time to relax before the baby is born! Don't look back and think 'why didn't I sit and watch lots of Netflix while eating chocolate?' Congratulations BTW.

I haven't told my OH that washing up no longer makes me puke (was bad first trimester).

I have no plans to tell him. Still doing everythinf else though.