Think I might be pregnant big mixed feelings

[RedBlackberries]

...and too scared to do a test.

I'm about a week late, really sore boobs and I had unprotected sex mid cycle.

I don't know how I feel about it. . We definetly weren't planning another child and I've just got to the point where my dd is starting school and I can relax a bit.

On the other hand If I'm pregnant I'd be happy but worried and think it's just meant to be. Sorry it sounds a bit rambly but just need to get it off my chest. I can't tell anyone in RL until I know for sure and dh is just like every time I mention the possibility.

You need to take a test lovely, xx

Why did you have unprotected sex mid cycle if you didn't want to be pregnant?

The best thing is to take a test so you can deal with it either way.

I hope you get the result you want.

The sex thing makes us sound like a pair of idiot teenagers not a couple in their thirties but I didn't actually know I'd had protected sex till dh told me the next day. V drunken sex in the evening and he apparently asked to come in home and I apparently said yes. (Disclaimer: no weird consent issues, just stupid drunken sex).

Was there any reason you didn't take the morning after pill?

Sorry, that sounds like a criticism but just thinking of you really didn't want to be pregnant there were options right after the unprotected sex happened so maybe you wanted to conceive?

For the same mixed up reasons I'm feeling now.

Part of me thinks it would be great for dd to have a sibling. I think that's a big issue in my mind.

I don't understand why our partner is shocked when he knows you had unprotected sex. He must be aware sex leads to pregnancy

We took quite a while to conceive first time around.

Vent here but do a test. Your mind's all over the place until you know for sure.

You should take pregnancy vitamins especially Folic acid at least until you know what you are doing. It's important to do the test for that reason alone.

So it's a bit unexpected if you are pregnant then ? Do you think it's the shock of it ?

I do think you need to test - you might be worried for nothing !

I know I should get a test but I just do t know what I'll do with a positive result. I'm very pro choice but don't think I could personally get a termination. Or maybe I could. Argh! I just don't know!!!

The longer you leave it, the worse it'll be.

Are your cycles usually regular? If so, a week late is a lot, plus the other symptoms.

I'd say you are - but you need to test so that you can make a decision

Yes they're usually regular. I'll do a test tomorrow.

Stop catastrophising and do a test.

I'm pregnant

@RedBlackberries what was your first thought when you saw the positive test?

How do you feel?

Have you posted here about issues with your DH?

I think I muttered oh fuck and wondered if my healths up to it. (I was really seriously ill earlier this year).

Yes I've posted for help with issues about dh before and I'm worried about how this will affect him. He said congrats but asked if I can still get rid with a pill .

what was your gut feeling? Things can be worked out either way.

He's as mixed up as me about it but whereas I sometimes get broody, he's always like no way.

Cross-post. That's not very helpful from him. Do you have someone in RL to talk to?

I don't want to tell anyone yet. I'm still in shock.

So he's still using?

Will you be able to keep this baby away from the accoutrements?

(Apologise if I have you confused with someone else)