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Think I might be pregnant big mixed feelings

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RedBlackberries · 21/08/2017 10:06

...and too scared to do a test.

I'm about a week late, really sore boobs and I had unprotected sex mid cycle.

I don't know how I feel about it. Sad. We definetly weren't planning another child and I've just got to the point where my dd is starting school and I can relax a bit.

On the other hand If I'm pregnant I'd be happy but worried and think it's just meant to be. Sorry it sounds a bit rambly but just need to get it off my chest. I can't tell anyone in RL until I know for sure and dh is just like Shock every time I mention the possibility.

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RedBlackberries · 22/08/2017 14:24

No it's me. He's still smoking daily. Sorry to sound thick. Accoutrements?

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Slowcookerheaven · 22/08/2017 14:25

Didn't your dc play with a Grinder? Orget their hands on weed or something ?

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RedBlackberries · 22/08/2017 14:26

Um no!!

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Slowcookerheaven · 22/08/2017 14:27

Ah sorry I've confused you it someone else

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RedBlackberries · 22/08/2017 14:28

No worries Smile. I've always made him keep his smoking box out of reach.

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RedBlackberries · 22/08/2017 14:28

I can't believe this. I can't believe I'm actually pregnant.

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RedBlackberries · 22/08/2017 14:29

2-3 weeks which means 4/5 weeks pregnant. I can't terminate.

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Slowcookerheaven · 22/08/2017 14:31

So. What's the state of your DH and the state of his relationship with you?

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RedBlackberries · 22/08/2017 14:32

He's better than he's been for years but I'd be lying if I said I'm not worried about how the stress of this will affect him. He wasn't the most involved dad in the early days.

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RedBlackberries · 22/08/2017 14:32

We're happy and good together. Dd is still mummy's girl but their relationship is much better.

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RedBlackberries · 22/08/2017 14:34

I broke up with him at the end of last year and he changed but I know the stress of me being pregnant will affect him.

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PurpleDaisies · 22/08/2017 14:34

I can't believe this. I can't believe I'm actually pregnant.
But you had unprotected sex at ovulation time. You chose not to take up mormkng after pill. Confused

Your best bet now is to get some impartial counselling to help you work out what you want to do. Good luck. Flowers

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RedBlackberries · 22/08/2017 14:35

That's what I'm using mumsnet for!!
I do want a baby I think. It's just so different from last time when I was overjoyed and crying with happiness.

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RedBlackberries · 22/08/2017 14:36

I know it sounds stupid but I just didn't think one slip up would result in pg.

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RedBlackberries · 22/08/2017 14:36

It took us ages forty time round.

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RedBlackberries · 22/08/2017 14:36

first time round

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Slowcookerheaven · 22/08/2017 14:53

Oh come on. You were saying in here you wanted to have another baby and your DH was against it.

This in a deliberate oops moment.

cakesandphotos · 22/08/2017 14:57

I would go and make yourself a cup of tea or better, hot chocolate Smile have a piece of cake and give your brain a chance to process. Flowers it's a middling time!

LexieLulu · 22/08/2017 15:05

Congratulations OP, the baby must be fate! Take one day at a time, everything is early days. Maybe look through some pictures of your DD when she was a baby and see if it makes you and partner excited?

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RedBlackberries · 22/08/2017 15:08

Ah that's a good idea. It's stupid because one of the big plus points is dd having a sibling but I'm also sad for her that she'll have to share me! She's a Velcro child!

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LexieLulu · 22/08/2017 15:15

My son is very much a mummies boy. I was really worried about having a second because of this... but turns out it was really good for him.

He's super affectionate, and is always caring for the baby. She's walking now and he follows her round making sure she does fall. (He's 4 btw).

You'll be surprised, your daughter will probably love it x

temporarilycross · 22/08/2017 15:38

I'm surprised that you are surprised that you are pregnant after you had unprotected sex. Your husband should also not be surprised seeing as the whole unprotected thing seemed to be his suggestion.
You'll be fine, enjoy your new baby when s/he arrives

petalsandstars · 22/08/2017 15:54

Has he been better financially Red? Keeping the weed away from you and DD? Is this the final line? That he will have to step up and support you properly? I do hope for your sake he does, but I bet he's not worried about your health/wellbeing as much as you are about his.

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RedBlackberries · 22/08/2017 16:16

It's sinking in a bit more now. I know it's stupid to be so surprised. My boobs have been sore for about a week so that was a big clue.

petal he's been much better but I've already told him that he has to step up this time and be more hands on from the start. I want to be supported with night wakings and the like. He said he'd be completely different this time around and even said he felt a little bit excited Smile.

A second baby was never part of the plan. I was happy with having just one but it's a blessing g really. I'm just a bit scared (and tired)!

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EllieQ · 22/08/2017 16:25

So he wants to to 'get rid of it with a pill'. That doesn't bode well.