Worst comment you've ever received

[Hazandduck]

OK, so I have always been pretty sensitive about my weight. I just hate people commenting on it, because it really is none of their business, and I will torture myself for absolutely ages afterwards and feel hideous and self-conscious if someone says something negative about my size (even in jest.) So now I am pregnant, and so unbelievably happy to be so, and feel all glowy and loving the bump, but some people are just making horrible comments!

There is one woman in particular at work; I was sat at my desk this morning, and for the second time she loudly shouted "Oh wow, hi Fatty!" so all the office heard and I just went bright red and stupidly wanted to cry! I'm not fat, I'm bloody 27 weeks pregnant, and even if I was fat, why is it ok to declare it to all my colleagues? I just don't get why she keeps saying stuff. Of course I've gained weight, but why do people have to point it out.

She actually said to me the other day "Every time I see you you're bigger!" Duh. That's how pregnancy tends to work! And then she kept staring at my face with her eyes narrowed and said "I don't know what it is...your face has changed..." I tried to be blasé and said "Oh yes people have said I'm glowing," to which she shook her said and said "No it's definitely not that, your face has changed shape." It feels like she is deliberately trying to get some sort of negative reaction the way she keeps going on.

So what's your worst comment? And how did you handle it? I really can't see how I'll keep my cool for another 12 and a half weeks with comments like this...

This was in Dublin in quite a posher part.
I was waiting for my daughter aged 4 to finish her ballet lesson. A mum I vaguely knew said "Oh your pregnant! This is my neighbour (she was also pregnant). Who is your consultant, you might have the same one?"

I said that I was going public and so turn up and take your chances. (It was at the time, might have changed a 2 or 3 hour wait queuing with up to 50 other women followed by a quick 5 minute check up).

This woman looked quite aghast and said "Oh I suppose it will turn out alright in the end" and then scurried away with her neighbour.

These comments are so awful - no one should have to receive them! Sorry to everyone who has.

I loved my pregnant body. I felt like whenever anyone else put out a bump photo, everyone said 'aw youre so beautiful'. But when i did, all i got were comments like this memorable one: 'It looks like you stuck a football up your dress haha!'
It really made me sad 😪

I generally had nice comments but I feel a bit confused when I had my third baby and the consulant said... while booking me in for a c section "So we should tie your tubes while we've got you open"

Reading these comments makes me feel lucky I never had any despite starting pregnancy at 18 stone! Some people are so fucking rude.

Byrdie your consultant has a god complex. If you want anything tying you'll be the one to tell him, not the other way around... X

When I was around 28 weeks pregnant with my son, my mum said "oh you've been at the pies!"... I was still able to wear a normal size 8 at that point, bump didn't actually appear until around 32 weeks... it was like there was nothing and then all of a sudden I was massive!! 😂

I had loads of 'big' comments but the comments that stung was when we had 'finally we are going to be grandparents' when we had had a miscarriage the year before. It just felt wrong to me, though that could have also been the comments in the time between the miscarriage and my ds pregnancy in which we were asked far too much when they would be giving them a DGC.

The other one was from a friend who, I can't remember the exact comment, heavily implied that now I had a baby I could finally get over losing the first. Really didn't help postnatal depression and anxiety.

The funniest was when dh was asked how much I was eating and his own dc (teen) piped up with 'nowhere near as much as you dad!'

Sorry should be that the funny guy's teen said that before dh could tell him to piss off.

And op you need to be as backhanded back to her tbh. Might shut her up. A friend kept telling me how well I was still looking after birth. Absolutely fine from anyone else but she makes a point of saying how when she uses the word well she actually means fat.

I parrot back to her how well she is looking and she hates it. Funny thing is to me well has always meant healthy.

I kept getting "are you sure you're not having twins" - even one woman told me to go back and check with my midwife a baby wasn't hiding in the scan.

It used to really wind my husband up, he turned round once and said she's not pregnant she's just fat, the shop assistant about fell off her chair!

My son was born 11.5lbs and I was measuring 51cm so I was pretty big, still I'm pretty sure I would of known if I was having twins lol.

A work colleague said to me when I was 36 weeks pregnant 'It's a good job you're finishing work soon cos you're almost too fat to fit behind that desk'. He was not exactly svelte himself so I replied ' I'm not fat, I'm pregnant. In a months time I won't be pregnant, but you'll still be a tosser.' That shut him up.

I'm a plus size gal and a few ppl asked if I would ever even get a bump 😡 Oh and the bfs mum said are you sure it's yours!! Some ppl just don't think!! Xx

I had lots of weight comments with DS, but the worst by far was from several family members:

"Don't you want to just get married first? You can just do a quickie wedding? How awful your child will be a bastard".

I cried and cried.

Lulu2515 in my experience religious people like that are judgemental idiots. Ignore them. Their opinions are all slavishly dictated to them by a dusty old book. A lot of my family are judgemental religious types. I went to a family wedding this weekend and my elderly DF commented nastily to me that he didn't see the point of them getting married now after living like that for (14) years (meaning 'in sin'). I just rolled my eyes. Pathetic.