Worst comment you've ever received

[Hazandduck]

OK, so I have always been pretty sensitive about my weight. I just hate people commenting on it, because it really is none of their business, and I will torture myself for absolutely ages afterwards and feel hideous and self-conscious if someone says something negative about my size (even in jest.) So now I am pregnant, and so unbelievably happy to be so, and feel all glowy and loving the bump, but some people are just making horrible comments!

There is one woman in particular at work; I was sat at my desk this morning, and for the second time she loudly shouted "Oh wow, hi Fatty!" so all the office heard and I just went bright red and stupidly wanted to cry! I'm not fat, I'm bloody 27 weeks pregnant, and even if I was fat, why is it ok to declare it to all my colleagues? I just don't get why she keeps saying stuff. Of course I've gained weight, but why do people have to point it out.

She actually said to me the other day "Every time I see you you're bigger!" Duh. That's how pregnancy tends to work! And then she kept staring at my face with her eyes narrowed and said "I don't know what it is...your face has changed..." I tried to be blasé and said "Oh yes people have said I'm glowing," to which she shook her said and said "No it's definitely not that, your face has changed shape." It feels like she is deliberately trying to get some sort of negative reaction the way she keeps going on.

So what's your worst comment? And how did you handle it? I really can't see how I'll keep my cool for another 12 and a half weeks with comments like this...

You could respond with, 'Yes, your face has changed too. It's become even more ugly!'.

not in a pregnancy context but an ex boyfriend's mother once said "are you even good at anything? I mean, are you even any good at your job".

Same woman who criticised me for having a career (lawyer) and not having her son's dinner on the table when he got home.

Oh, and also said I wouldn't have to dress up on halloween (as I'm so pale).

Absolute cow bag.

Still fantasise about running into her now and telling her she's a dried up old hag!!!

thankfully my MIL 2B is absolutely lovely and couldn't be nicer to me!!!

Ive had the classics today OP...

"I've only just realised your pregnant you are tiny how far gone are you? i'm 8 months next week
You can't be!"

Cue 5 mins later

"Oh my god you are huge are you worried the baby is so big already?
Yeah i had a growth scan a few weeks ago and he was a lb over
Yeah you can tell"

Honestly your colleague is so much worse though!

My old boss said I was stupid getting a private scan to find out the gender as it'd would make me more attached and upset if I had a miscarriage. I was 22 weeks pregnant . I didn't go back to work for her after having DS.

Where do I start??

At 29 weeks "wow you must be ready to pop, you're huge"

Whilst battling severe morning sickness "if you don't eat something you'll damage your baby" and "why don't you eat better?" Literally just trying to keep food in me at that point, who cares if it was noodles!?

"Are you sure it's not twins? Like really?"

And my favourite "oh Bobbiepin you're glowing" followed quickly by someone else "No, she's just sweaty".

I had a medical student point at me and say 'bloody hell look at that'. I hope their bedside manner improved.

I also had a woman tell me at 34 weeks pg with twins that walking up
the stairs would do me good. They were already 13 lb at that point between them.

She sounds like a horrid spiteful cow OP, ignore her. People like her just want to be nasty, my FIL is not a very nice man in many ways but I always tried to overlook it. Final straw (or one of many in quick succession that broke the camels back) was him telling me I was 'looking very fat', as he waked out the door so I had no time to respond. I was feeding my 12 week old daughter at the time and had in fact lost 2 1/2 stone of my baby weight gain which was 3 stone in total and I was a size 6 before I got pregnant. DP bollocked him and I avoided him for months, still makes me cross though. Don't let it get to you OP.

I constantly get told my bump is small, I don't look as far gone as I am blah blah blah. I have no control over how big or small my bump is and by constantly being told its not very big only makes me worry and the compare myself to other pregnant ladies. (I must look like a complete weirdo lurking and staring at other bumps)
I've been asked if the baby was a surprise, if I know who the dad is and also do I have a preference on the sex..........So I take great pleasure in causing as much embarrassment as I can by bluntly explaining that I'm married and we tried for two years to get pregnant so yes the pregnancy was planned and no we do not care if its a boy or girl, we just want this baby.
People are idiots, as soon as you get pregnant its as if everyone has a god given right to comment on you and your body.

"Pregnancy is temporary, you're a twat forever" :p

I was neat until around 28 weeks last time but got huge after that. I got a lot of "where the hell did that come from!?" comments...

A midwife asked me if I was checking in for my booking in appointmetnt when i turned up for my sweep at 41 weeks. Arf...

oh yeah, just a couple of days ago, talking on Messanger to an old friend.
I am due any day and really struggling.

Me: "I had a really hot curry last night to try and get things going, my nose was dripping and my forehead was sweaty it was that spicy but I powered through."

her: "God it's so disgusting seeing pregnant women stuff themselves, they look like pigs at a trough."

*Messenger, obviously. Sorry

Oh god, why are people so awful. I had "it's a good thing you lost the last one because at least you're married now for this one." I lost my first at 12 weeks.

FIL also kept calling me "a big woman" but it was misguided reassurance. He was trying to say i'd be fine in labour because I had "childbirthing hips". No matter that I was size 12 and finished pregnancy the same weight i started due to sickness

In a way it's horrible, but I'm glad I'm not the only one! I've had the usual 'expecting twins?' from a couple of colleagues - but the worst is from a friend who is also pregnant with her third.
I've had really bad morning sickness that keeps coming back, rib aches, back aches, nausea etc etc and have a full time job I'm trying desperately not to call in sick for - but she keeps telling me I'm so lucky as I don't have a child to look after already and she wishes she could switch with me all the time. This despite the fact she's not had any sickness - not even a stretch mark!
While I appreciate having a toddler already poses its own challenges, I don't think it's fair to minimalise what others are experiencing.

Someone offered me condolences when my ds3 was born (because he wasn't a girl)

I was proudly showing off my scan photo of ds1 and someone told me that ultrasound was bad for babies and I should have an x ray instead

My ds4 was diagnosed with a cleft lip at the 20 week scan. Someone said they hoped it was a boy as it doesn't matter if boys are ugly.

I'm a nurse and I was working a shift with a pain in the arse colleague. We were paired for breaks etc. It was the end of the shift and we were doing handover, a patient had left chocolate or biscuits or something and I was having one. She said "youve already eaten enough today, you shouldn't eat that". I had three while looking at her.

My mother is bad for the same stuff. She always telling me what to eat and not eat. I'm a grown ass woman. I see red when people say things like that.

At the pool a few weeks ago a mother whispered to another mother (but I still heard them) "can you believe she has another 5 weeks??!" And made wide eye facial expressions. I ignored them but I forget NOTHING.

Oh yes indeedy. As if some bastards aren't rude enough anyway, some do love to make some lovely comments when a woman is 'pregnant.'

I got a number when I was pregnant, (been a while now, hope you don't mind me joining in anyway!)

When I announced to work that I was pregnant (at ten weeks in,) one woman said ' I knew it! I thought you were looking more round faced and bloated.' (I was 10 weeks pregnant FFS!)

Another woman I knew (a neighbour,) announced that I was massively fat for only 6 months pregnant, and she said gleefully (with a snort and a grin,) 'I bet the mattress springs are screaming in pain at night!' HAHAHAHA FUNNY!!!!

When I was about 8 months in, I was out with DH and his brother and SIL, and my husband's brother, dragged me back to a full length mirror we had just passed in a shopping centre, saying (REALLY LOUDLY) 'look at the size of you! LOOK LOOK LOOK! You're like the size of a jumbo jet!' About FIFTY people looked. I went flame red and said 'can you not please?' He carried on and said (with a huge grin!)'YEAH but I never noticed how massive you were before I saw the reflection. I thought it was a hippo!'

Apparently, I should not have been offended, because I was pregnant and not actually 'fat.'

A few rude comments came in several weeks after the birth too, (from a couple of people,) about how I still looked pregnant.

Some horrible comments on here that people have had to tolerate by the way. Why are people so mean and hurtful? I have never ever been so rude to anyone.

Someone made an off-the-cuff remark at work about me looking a lot smaller one day than I did previously. At the time I hadn't felt baby move yet and had weeks to go before my anomaly scan. It triggered weeks of anxiety and having to convince myself baby was indeed alive and growing else I'd know something was up.

Some people just don't think, others are purposefully nasty bastards.

I've always been rather well endowed in the bust department despite being a size 10 elsewhere... Comment of the day "look at the size of your boobs - They're massive. Carry on like that any you won't be able to breastfeed"
WTF?!?! When did it become okay to comment on breast size regardless of pregnancy etc.

Also if one more person tells me I look "big" for how far along I am I may well batter them to death with my shoe (FWIW I got measured yesterday and am right on cue)

I wasn't pregnant at the time and had a stranger in a shop ask me if I was due soon!

Announcing pregnancy at work after 5 yrs ttc and 2 rounds of IVF. I'd been open about my fertility struggles as had time off for minor ops before infertility diagnosed.

One guy asked if I knew who the father was. Ffs been together 8 yrs. I just said 'unless there was a mix up at the IVF clinic with his jar of jizz then, yeah I'm pretty sure I know who the father is!'

@Mehfruittea - What a monstrous thing for them to say! Have to say your response was awesome however!

I would shove my pg belly right in her face and say "what's your problem?". I know that overly aggressive, but she would have seriously pissed me off.

My MIL is one for commenting on my size (although not lately). When I was 8 months with dd, I have my feet resting on a footstool. It was quite an effort to lift them off, and she said "You need to work on those tummy muscles!" I was a bit

This is because women's bodies are considered borderline public property in any case, and even more so during pregnancy.

I've been getting praised for having such a 'neat' bump throughout this pregnancy. I'm sure each individual saying it means well, but the social perspective which informs it is basically saying: "Well done on achieving the womanly objective of procreating, whilst also not failing at the other aim of being constantly slim/desirable."

I have a neighbour who is the worst for this, she even stopped me in the street to tell me at length she couldn't believe how small my bump was... while I was on the way to the hospital for an urgent growth scan (baby is totally fine, BTW)