Can someone please talk me out of wanting a fifth child.

[Bubble99]

A friend of mine is Pg with her third and I said today that she could have my baby clothes etc.

The thing is.....after meeting her...I wasn't sure that I feel my family is really 'complete.'

I don't want to turn into one of those Daily Mail families with fifteen children and four washing machines and a husband/partner that is met for half an hour at 8 O'clock every other Tuesday....

But I'm not sure.......

Go on, have another, you know you want to!

(Is this the kind of help you had in mind )

Have you achieved any real degree of closure or indeed satisfaction with the hospital this will be driving part of your emotions. IMO

Gosh.....
Can't get my head around wanting loads of kids at all am afraid....
Money issues
Logistical issues
Time issues
Quality time issues

Chocolate. I love you.

LGJ. Yes and no, IYSWIM. Closure and reparation (sp?) yes. Satisfaction? No.

MD. Thanks.

do you want a girl?

Ive always wanted 4
I have 2
my BF has 1 so I might end up with 3
definitely wont be having any more myself

Aren't you fucking knackered anyway???

There is some poor woman on today who is pg with twinsalready has three kids (under 4 I think) spd and potentially a third floor flat.

I would be in a lunatic asylum.

Some people find having loads of children a piece of piss.

My grandmother was like this. She had 6.

If you do, then by all means go for it.

Hmmmmm. Some days "yes," VVVQV.

But I have a really antsy relationship with my own mother so on a lot of days "no."

I know that history need not repeat itself but I'm 40 now and the prospect of standing in TopShop at the age of 55. post-menopausal, with a 15 year old daughter fills me with dread, TBH.

MD. Yes, knackered. But the best kind of knackered.

I need talking down, don't I?

bubble99 cant sorry as am in similair position...would love to have my fourth but know rationally we shouldnt especially as I have 3 very young ones at the minute so I should at least wait..but..............

Step away from the feeling...........put the emotion down...walk toward the contraception with your arms wide open. Embrace it, feel the unbroken sleep, feel the nice coming up for air and everything balancing out feeling.

Look into my eyessssssssssssssssssssssss

When you wake up, you will have forgotten this thread.

Am also in similar position - would love a 5th and dh wavered slightly the other day when someone asked if we'd have anymore.

I have given all the baby stuff away during a ruthless clear out but I keep thinking I could always start again.

Madness and realistically a very bad move as DS4 has SN and he needs lots of my time - I know deep in my heart that this is really it.

bubble, I think that Expat is right. and who knows, you might end up in topshop in 15 years and actually have a great time

Nemo. It's a big 'but' isn't it?

I keep thinking that nobody will go their death bed thinking ..." I wish I hadn't had little Johnny."

I am one of five.
I am the fifth of five.
go on, have another

I, on the otehr hand, have just been hypnotized by sherlock

I had a fantastic time growing up with four sisters.
and it's great now, too

tired tired tired
no sex (see above)
bedtime with 1 sick child (whinging and at beginning of illness), 1 child vomiting, 1 child asleep already and the other past it with exhaustion and baby crying for bf
camping holidays 'cos can't afford anything else
attempting weekly shop with more than 2 in tow
feeling even more depressed about body being worn out and used up (grey, sag, flappy etc)
more than one teenaged girl and too few bathrooms
dd's that start dating, and their 'partners'.
should I go on?

Bubble i think if it is something you want then go for it, you will only regret it if you dont do it but of course you wont regret iy is you do do it IYKWIM

Just kep in mind the thought of having 5 lots of homework to help with, 5 lots of hormones going on in the same house plus your own, 5 weddings to contribute to, the thought that it could be twins or more...............and walk toward long term contraception......................

Bubble I may wel have 5 by the end of this year. I have 3 already and at a 5 week scan was told I am pg with twins. Will find out for sure at 12 week scan.

I will have 5 children under 6!!! I'm absolutely terrified but hey - it's all good

Aw bubble

I never felt "complete" until I got pg with this one. Dh felt the same. However, I am adamant that this is the last one, and dh is already discussing getting the snip!

BUT - but but but but - some people never get that sense of "completeness" - and never will. I hope I always feel like this, it makes life a lot easier really.

AND - if you can afford another, and both want one, and are not bothered about having a girl or another boy, then why not?

pmsl - just read moondog's post

MegaLegs. Your son's SN must throw a whole different light on it for you. That must be extra tiring (but lovely, because you love him, does that make sense?)

Franca. You're Italian. You could stand in TopShop and make a carrier bag look stylish, I reckon. (Bubble brings out the stereotypes)

Sherlock. Get away from my head and put the pendulum down. You mad woman.