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Can someone please talk me out of wanting a fifth child.

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Bubble99 · 28/03/2007 21:35

A friend of mine is Pg with her third and I said today that she could have my baby clothes etc.

The thing is.....after meeting her...I wasn't sure that I feel my family is really 'complete.'

I don't want to turn into one of those Daily Mail families with fifteen children and four washing machines and a husband/partner that is met for half an hour at 8 O'clock every other Tuesday....

But I'm not sure.......

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zephyrcat · 28/03/2007 22:17

I remember Bubble. I also can't believe how grown up Elijah looks already! They are seriously gorgeous!! HOw old are they?

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Bubble99 · 28/03/2007 22:18

LGJ. I know that I am so lucky to even be able to make the decision to have five. You'd have made a fantastic mother of four. Just as you do of one.

All of you.......

You're just waiting for my 'I'm Pg' post, aren't you?

You really are just cackling from cyberspace?

And when I post, bleary eyed at 2am with a non-sleeping baby, where will you all be? Huh? Huh?

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Bubble99 · 28/03/2007 22:21

DS1 is 9
DS2 is 6
Elijah is 2
Asher is 5 months.

I'm losing the plot here, aren't I?

If I get pregnant soon, as I would need to (I'm 41 in July) Asher would be under 2 when his brother (because it will be a boy) is born.

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zephyrcat · 28/03/2007 22:23

That's fine for ages - you have the two elder ones to help out and who are also at school, whch takes some of the pressure off. I'm looking at 5 under 6 and 3 under 2!!!

misdee · 28/03/2007 22:28

bubble, i want another, dh wants anoher, but we are talking post-tx here and we are still still trying to talk each other out of it.

Nemo2007 · 28/03/2007 22:29

aww would be great gaps..I have a 3yr old 15mth old and nearly 3mth old and am often bleary eyed at 2am..pmsl

When you have your none sleeping baby I will probably be in that lull of I reeeeeeeeeeallyyyyyyyyyy need another baby/am newly pregnant so dont sleep...whats a lack of sleep between friends!!!

ScoobyDooooo · 28/03/2007 22:30

I would never regret having a child i adore my kids, it is probably there fault i want another because i just look at how perfect they are.

Your kids gorgeous, & i have to say boys are fab if i have another i would love another boy but if i had a girl i would adore her too

SherlockLGJ · 28/03/2007 22:31

Bubble

I was not trying to guilt you.

Bear in mind you can hear me speak in your minds eye, what I was saying ahhh sure feck it, you may as well be hung for a sheep as lamb......

Spidermama · 28/03/2007 22:32

Bubble you'll be taking the new baby to his first day in reception when you're 45/6. He'll start secondary when you're in your mid fifties. If this is OK with you, go for it.

noddyholder · 28/03/2007 22:33

kitty where were you when I needed you!(seriously)

ScoobyDooooo · 28/03/2007 22:33

So whats the verdict?

misdee · 28/03/2007 22:34

the thing is, i'm with kitty, i would be a surrogate for someone but am so unsure of doing it before knowing your own family is complete IYSWIM

Judy1234 · 28/03/2007 22:36

I have five. A lovely number. I had lunch with someone today who was one of five - they used to have family holidays camping she said and had great fun.

Plenty of women start families in their 40s never mind complete them, some have babies in their 50s even. Of course your last might be twins like mine but that's even better...

JanH · 28/03/2007 22:37

bubble, I was 42 (nearly) when DS2 was born, I was 46 when he started school, he is nearly 14 now and we have a pretty good relationship (and he is nearly 5 years younger than his next sibling and he gets on great with all of them)

Go for it

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Bubble99 · 28/03/2007 22:38

S'funny. When I came home from hospital with Asher and all four boys were together I thought "OMG. I have four children."

Now that I'm used to it, I'm thinking "where's the other one?"

Again, Sherlock, this may well be down to the loss of Bo.

(For anyone who doesn't know, I lost a healthy full-term twin during a f*d up and labour in an NHS hospital two years ago.)

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SherlockLGJ · 28/03/2007 22:38

Whats the verdict ??

They are obviously at it now......

ENTP · 28/03/2007 22:38

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JanH · 28/03/2007 22:39

Bubble, Bo will always be missing, even if you had another Bo would be missing but that's not what this is about, is it?

hatrick · 28/03/2007 22:41

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Bubble99 · 28/03/2007 22:42

SM. That does cross my mind but, luckily, I live in the London borough with the highest number of older mothers so we'll all be creaking outside the reception class together.

Xenia. When I had one, two sounded scary. It's all relative, isn't it? Five sounds normal. [scares self emoticon]

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Nemo2007 · 28/03/2007 22:47

realistically though about school runs you will already be doing the run with Asher and Elijah so whats another 18mths or so???

Bo will always play a big part in your family but for some people there is also the 'need/longing' for more. I often wonder if I am trying to create a big happy family because I didnt have that??!!!???

Hatrick you deffo have to go for a quartet as you are the one to lead the way for me

ScoobyDooooo · 28/03/2007 22:48

Aw i really think you know the answer, i think you have made up your own mind, i will be waiting for your announcment, it will be fab, how does Mr Bubble feel?

Hatrick are you going for another is well?

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Bubble99 · 28/03/2007 22:48

misdee, Kitty. I think surrogacy is the best thing you could ever do for another (responsible) human being.

hatrick. G'wan, g'wan, g'wan.

Jan. Yes, he will, and he will always be with us. And no, you're right, that's not what it's about.

ENTP. The thing is, I would have been useless in TopShop at 20, let alone 60.

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ScoobyDooooo · 28/03/2007 22:49

Hold on a minute now you all need to wait for me, i wait no 3 but can't have one yet, now i am jealous

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