30 weeks and so miserable

[Mandraki]

I'm officially over being pregnant. Everything aches, I feel so big and stretched (I know I will only get bigger!) it's hard to breathe, I feel overwhelmed at the idea of working for another 8 weeks, my hands and feet are swollen, not sleeping well at all now (waking up for a wee about 5 times a night, plus hip pain and leg cramp), can't be bothered to eat anything that isn't cereal or cheese (am trying though), just generally fucked off.

My husband has been incredible throughout the whole pregnancy, looking after me and the house and just generally being wonderful. I have been a big bag of whinge.

Don't really have a point to this post other than a little whinge.

And bless you @Kittysparks1, well done for making it through the commute!

Have hope, I found weeks 30-38 far far worse than 38-40+.

It's still shit but in a very different way, as though you give yourself permission to slow down as you can't physically do half the stuff you could at 30.

Thanks for this thread it makes me feel normal. I share your SPD woes, i have a 22 month old who I usually take to the park 15 mins up the road but I just cant walk that far now. I either hobble out into the garden with her or play indoors/watch cbeebies. I feel like a crap mum as I'm not able to take her out/run around/do stuff with her like normal. Mummy is now a gigantic stroppy whale who can't get up off the sofa and uses peppa pig and bear claws in place of actual parenting

I am going to be extra miserable this weekend. On top of everything else, the MIL is down. Thankfully she is staying with her friend round the corner not our house. Within 30 mins this evening I was gritting my teeth to stop myself from shouting at her and telling her to get out of my house (she told my 4yr old off for not writing in her birthday card!!!! Grrrrrrrrrr!!!!) There is a chance I'll be seeing her everyday up to and including Wednesday!!!

Can you claim preg sickness/tiredness and slink off to bed for a few hours each day? Or get DH to take her out for the day without you as you aren't feeling up to it? Let him deal with her x

You're not alone silkybear - I also feel like a crap mum because I can't play with DD. Thankfully mine is nearly 5 and understands i can't do much because of baby/my hips. We can curl up on the sofa to read/do drawings, play board games etc but it's not the same. I can't even make fairy cakes with her!!
Funnily enough it's worse when other people come round and she practically begs someone to play with her! Makes me feel bad because 1) she has to actually ask and she knows she can't ask me and 2) certain people always say no!!! (E.g. bloody MIL!!)

Oh I will be playing the pregnancy card and sloping off silkybear - don't worry!! I'll have to seen as I can't drink.
When she comes over I often find an excuse to go into other rooms to do stuff, and make DH play host. Luckily for him he has learnt to tune her out over the years!!

30 weeks here and am pretty much constantly annoyed at everyone and everything!

I've been signed off work since 21 weeks for SPD so have been bored beyond belief due to not being able to be active, I keep getting UTIs, I've gained WAY more weight than I should have (could only eat bread and cheese first trimester, can't exercise because of SPD), and the summer heat is killing me and giving me daily dizzy spells (I had to lie down in the office of my 6 yr old's school when registering him for this coming year! So embarrassing).

I hate to wish time away, but I'm really looking forward to getting this baby out safely and having my body back, feeling normal, and having the energy to be a person!

It's funny, I've spoken to a couple of chums who've had babies not that long ago and the following factors tend to apply:

-Of the last ten weeks or so weeks 29-33 appear to be the biggest ball ache
-The dragging time feels worse if you have children already
-Of those who have children already the energy across the same weeks this pregnancy as the last is vastly less

Oh nursemama I feel for you. I've also been signed off with SPD since about 21 weeks. The only thing that has got me through these past 3 months being housebound is my kindle!! I've read a ton of books seen as I can't really do anything else!!
I'm so looking forward to getting my body back to normal. Little things like being able to nip to the shops instead of sending DH or my sister. Being able to make a decent meal on my own. Being able to walk to the loo without crutches lol.

Hope you get through the last 10 weeks with no further uti's etc x

Can I join you all? 32 weeks tomorrow and suffering from extreme anaemia so feel pretty shocking constantly. Out of breath all the time and just want to sit and do nothing. DH is working all hours he can to save for my maternity leave - which I am unbelievably grateful for as he wants me to have the full 12 months - but it does mean I'm doing all the childcare of 4 year old Ds as well as working full time. I'm about ready to give up.

DS1 was born at 27 weeks so I have no idea how to get through the third trimester - in my head I should be done already.

I didn't get truly fed up until 36 weeks, which thankfully coincided with coming off work so at least I could be aching and miserable in the comfort of my own home.

My biggest issues are
Hip pain when trying to sleep
Heartburn and acid reflux while trying to sleep
Still having random periods of bad nausea
Oh and being five days overdue now 😭

Can I please join the pity party? 33 weeks today and last night I opened the cupboard to get a glass out and just started crying at how fed up I feel. Just want to hibernate until it's time for him to come out (which I hope is sooner rather then later)

I get your frustration and it's okay to feel frustrated.
I'm 29 weeks and I feel so uncomfortable and I think I have 11 more weeks to go.
People expect you to be loving the whole experience but sometimes it's tough!

I'm so happy this pity party is here! So reassuring to hear from you all and feel less alone. Last night at 5am when the hip pain woke me up again I spent several minutes mentally designing a "pregnant woman bed winch" to help with turning over and getting comfy in the night. Reckon I've got a shot on Dragons Den.

I also got a bit emotional the other day when the fruit pot I bought in the Tesco meal deal had a plastic spork included in it - so thoughtful of them!!! Ridiculous.

I can't wait until my body feels a bit more like my own again.

Oh my gosh.
Sleeping is a nightmare. Please enlighten me to your dragon dens idea!

I can so relate to everything you said. It's nice to know someone else feels the same.

OP are you me?! 😂

I'm 31 weeks and had enough. I have 8 weeks left to work and don't know how I'm going to manage it without a breakdown! Takes me 57367 years to turn over in bed, when I finally get comfy I need a pee! I feel like I have a make believe baby in my belly and hes never going to come out and this pregnancy is never going to end 😭

I'm not pregnant any more!!

Baby boy came at 4.56 this morning, helped along by forceps as he was 8lb 11!

Yay, congratulations!

Congratulations Ninamarie!
Can I join this pity party please? I'm 28 weeks with twins and I'm really struggling. Signed off work a few weeks ago due to health issues. Can't sleep, worried about everything, often in pain, enormous, drained, fed up, then feel guilty for feeling like this.

Oh congratulations Nina!

How far gone were you?

I'm 36 + 4 today.

To give you ladies some hope, I don't know if I just got used to the misery that is pregnancy or I'm having a second wind (technically 1st wind as felt crap whole time). But I feel a bit better. Walking is main struggle! But the insomnia, heart burn, spd, bowel issues, back pain, constant seeing etc are now just becoming part of life for me.

On the upside, been off work so house is tidy, getting to spend lots of quality time with my dog, don't give a shit how much weight I've put on so have eaten everything, I've been spending more time cooking good food, I've never been so relaxed. Because I can't leave my house!!

Oh and dp has been an absolute legend I've never felt so close to another human being in my life.

As pp said, I do think around weeks 28-35 are the worst.

Sending hugs to all suffering

Congratulations NinaMarieP! Hope you're feeling OK?!

I was 40+6 when he finally arrived.

I'm feeling pretty good all things considered. Had a snooze in theatre as they stitched me up with an epidural.

Congrats Nina!

Can I join the pity party? Almost 33 weeks with DC2 here and SO over being pregnant. I've had vicious headaches all the way through and baby is currently enjoying getting her bum and legs all up in my ribs - spend most of the day feeling breathless and lightheaded, and if I dare to try and use my stomach by filling it with food then there's no space left for my lungs at all!

Had to do some partner work at preg yoga yesterday, for some reason had had the rage all through the class and was not in the mood to 'connect with my partner' or 'feel her breath' - luckily she was 33 weeks too and just muttered to me 'I really can't be bothered with this today' - preach sister!

Congrats @Nina!