30 weeks and so miserable

[Mandraki]

I'm officially over being pregnant. Everything aches, I feel so big and stretched (I know I will only get bigger!) it's hard to breathe, I feel overwhelmed at the idea of working for another 8 weeks, my hands and feet are swollen, not sleeping well at all now (waking up for a wee about 5 times a night, plus hip pain and leg cramp), can't be bothered to eat anything that isn't cereal or cheese (am trying though), just generally fucked off.

My husband has been incredible throughout the whole pregnancy, looking after me and the house and just generally being wonderful. I have been a big bag of whinge.

Don't really have a point to this post other than a little whinge.

Yep 31 weeks, spd, not doing this again. Out of breath is standard at this point I think. Had it both times. Anyone had braxton hicks yet? Im sure I had them by now with my dd but can't remember.

Ha! It's insane. Today is ever so slightly better. I've slept well (went to aqua natal last night then had a bit of a swim after the class) and the boss bought me a hot chocokate and a flapjack this morning from the bakery across from our office.

I've also treated myself to a spicy chicken sandwich some kettle chips and a Fanta for lunch. 😀

silkybear haha yes! The needing to wee but not being able to walk thing is disturbing haha I keep wondering when I will wee myself in the middle of the office, I feel it is inevitable haha!

29 weeks and I feel like an ungrateful shitbag for whingeing as my previous pg ended in m/c which has overlaid this whole pregnancy with a veil of - basically - terror.

Pregnancy after a miscarriage screws wildly with your brain; I'm so happy baby is ok but MY GOD the tiredness, the utter massiveness, the fact I feel like a shit mum to my DD (18mo) plus we completed an international move a few weeks ago and I'd give anything to return to the UK rightfeckingnow.

I'm also just IMPATENT as anything to meet my wee baby. 11 weeks to go and honestly if I could just coast through by doing absolutely nothing but watch box sets and consume pasta and Milka chocolate I'd be set.

My DD may be a bit neglected though

@legend can you make it a box set of disney movies and have DD gorge on the choc too? Then its a bonding experience....

This is my first pregnancy and I'm doing it a maximum of once more. Preferably sometime in the distant future. I agree with user who says people who "loved" being pregnant with no downsides simply didn't have a life beforehand. IABU but I'm knackered and uncomfortable so fuck it.

I can't even eat anything spicy or drink anything fizzy to cheer me up because if I do the heartburn gets so out of control that even the Gaviscon flees in terror.

I'm ready for this baby to arrive now (obviously not actually quite yet and I haven't even bought a pram so far, but still)

Can I join? I'm 33+2 and so fed up. I have actually had moments these past week where I've felt almost 'normal' again, I'd almost gotten used to feeling sick and knackered but no, had to breathe through a wave or nausea this morning. Woke up at 4:30am and couldn't get back to sleep. Baby is lying straight down the middle and I'm feeling really stretched and heavy. My feet are like balloons and I have painful piles. Baby is also causing IBS type symptoms which have me nearly crying in pain.
DP has just dragged me (almost literally) round B&Q looking at bloody plants, and saws, and shower doors, and just one more thing... I was nearly crying with needing to sit down but now I am home I can't get comfortable.

I'm dreading getting any bigger and just want to meet her now.

@Mandraki so, the potato.

I have been what I can only describe as phenomenally hungry for the last few days, shovelling carbs in as that's all that seems to fill me up... until yesterday when I decided that I'd like a baked potato with salad because I desperately wanted to feel less huge and a bit more healthy. So, I stuck a sweet potato in the oven.

Now, bear in mind I'd had a shitty day, AND I was tired, and it was getting late to be eating to avoid heartburn (8pm), and I was hungry, and Sainsbury's had sold out of ALL the good ice cream... Lo and behold, after 1 hour in the oven, the potato was...

Rock hard. Not even vaguely cooked. Not even a tiny fucking bit.

So, I decided that the best course of action was to bawl my eyes out and then sit sobbing while eating a crap sandwich instead, while my husband looked on thoroughly bemused. Bless him he even offered to buy takeaway which just caused me to wail 'but I was trying to be HEALTHY'.

And that, my friends, is how I cried over a potato

bumdishcloths omg I feel your pain and horror! The effort of trying to make something healthy, that isn't cheese or cereal, and then the disappointment of finding it ruined! I hope you got your healthy tea in the end.

bumdishcloths,

hugs to you. eat what you like

Bumdish I'm sorry but I had to laugh at that. Totally an acceptable reason to cry. I hope you got some dinner and feel better now. Crack on with the cheese and cereal if that's what you want!

bumdish oh man! That sounds awfully familiar. I cried at my dinner last night. Chilli and rice. Because it was so bloody tasty. I was just so unbelievably grateful to dh for making it I sobbed into it.

I cried over a supermarket employee who serves us in Morissons, he's just so friendly and always is, and I got a bit overwhelmed! My poor husband just looked very bemused 🙈

I just told my DH that I feel like a balloon with all the air let out.

His response? "Really? You don't look like it".

Someone tell me why killing him is a bad idea...

Bobbiepin, totally acceptable reason for murder - if one more person comments on my size I'm going to permanently sit on my hands!

I have finally had a baked potato and it was lovely

I have found my people!! Can I join in with the ranting??

I'm 33+1 and was so ready for this pregnancy to be over with bloody months ago!! Thankfully my first pregnancy was pretty good (if it had been like this one I'm not sure I could have gone through it a second time!)

Up until 12 weeks = all day nausea and debilitating exhaustion
12-16 weeks = really bad headaches/migraines daily
16 weeks onwards = really really bad SPD (on crutches if I attempt to leave the house for something exciting like the school run or midwife appointment. Can pretty much only manage to get from sofa to look and back throughout the day. Cry my eyes out climbing the stairs most nights).

I've been off work sick for 3 months now as I haven't been able to walk. I've been pretty much housebound / bedbound in those 3 months. I'm bored shitless and itching to take the dog for a walk through the fields or having a wander round the shops!!

I am lucky that I've had a lot of support from my DH, parents and sister but I've really had enough of having to rely on others people. I just want to crack on with stuff!!!

I can't remember the last time I slept well. I wake up every couple of hours to pee. If I attempt to move even 1cm in my sleep I wake up in agony. I have bad heartburn so sometimes I wake up to bring up acid. As I sleep propped up sometimes I wake with a stiff neck. And for the last month I've had a horrible cold so I often wake up having coughing fits!! And then you have all those stupid people saying "get some sleep now - you won't get much when the baby's here" - do you know what I'll probably get more sleep!! And at least I won't be in pain!!

Oh and my skin is ultra sensitive this time. Face stings every time I use a moisturiser, no matter what I use. I once stupidly did a face mask (that I've done many times before) and my whole face and neck swelled up and went bright red. I'm definitely not glowing!! My nails look pretty good but my hair is just one giant puffy frizz ball!!!!

So yeah.....had enough!!

Coldfeet I want to give you a hug. You poor thing. I hope baby makes a swift arrival and you start to feel better soon.

OMG Thankyou to whoever started this thread- am 32+3 first pregnancy& felt alone- now I know I'm not! Not sleeping well at all, got lower pelvis and inner thigh pain, no appetite at all, gaviscon is regularly being consumed due to heartburn& I have a 7 yr old step son to look after for a week at a time because I'm a teacher and therefore am available for the entire summer ..... 😩😩

Thank you bobbiepin - I am pinning all my hopes on feeling like me again within a couple of weeks of baby being born!! And keeping my fingers crossed that baby will come early!!!

@coldfeet if you're in that much pain and misery can you ask to be induced?

When I saw midwife last week she said they wouldn't consider inducing me because of the SPD until I was at least 37/38 weeks. I'm seeing my normal midwife next week at 34 weeks and again at 36 weeks. I'll discuss it with her again. I had DD at 39+3 so part of me is thinking there is no point in being induced at 38 weeks.and with the way I'm feeling I'm not sure I'd get to full term anyway. For the last couple of weeks I've had aches / cramps like I'm on my period which and baby has already dropped lower. I was 2/5 engaged at 30 weeks!! Baby has moved lower since then

@ColdFeetWarmHeart for you, what a shit situation fingers crossed for a speedy delivery!

How can something as simple as turning over in bed make me so bloody cross? It's like a bloody driving manoeuvre, the mattress based three point turn 

Also if all of my petty anxieties and insecurities could just piss off until baby is born that would be fabulous.

Can I join in the whinge fest? I nearly peed my pants in the street today walking to my 28 week midwife appointment. Baby was pushing down on my bladder and every step was agony, I seriously considered knocked on a random house to ask to use their loo. How can this go on for 12 more weeks?

Pingus I did pee my pants. Walking home from work I was about 26 weeks pregnant and was wearing grey trousers and didn't even feel it coming. Haha I then had to tie my jacket around my waist and carry my bag directly in front of my crotch and Continue my commute that included a train journey. It was painfully embarrassing. But luckily not peed myself since, it seems to have been a one off, touch wood.

I've had several near misses too @PingusMistress ... and my husband is amazed at how often I need to pee. Probably especially as in the first trimester I didn't have this at all, I think it's as you said, when Bubbabean leans (or kicks) on my bladder they invoke a dicey game of 'will I won't I bring hideous shame on myself' 😂😂