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very grumpy mamma to be

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scruff · 14/07/2004 13:45

Would someone please advise if this is normal. I have become very unreasonable about silly things and making dh life a misery. Foe example people have moved in to rent the house next to us and wouldn't cut their grass. annoyed myself and my husband so much and was even crying about if. So told landlord then my husband had a sharp exchange with girl nest door!!! felt really bad!!! Are these bad moods and irrational behaviour normal? I am 25 weeks Help!!

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Yorkiegirl · 14/07/2004 13:51

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lydialemon · 14/07/2004 13:52

short answer? Yes!

long answer? Definitely Yes!

Lupe · 14/07/2004 14:38

YES, YES, YES!

But try and keep DH happy, cos you'll need his support more and more as you move into late pregnancy and you don't want to use up all his reserves of goodwill

Plus men quite often have stupid (and not so stupid) worries and emotions of their own that they keep to themselves.

stroppy and niggly quite normal I think but just try to laugh your excesses off...

nutcracker · 14/07/2004 14:40

I was terrible when pregnant with Ds.

I managed to have a row with the checkout girl in Iceland cos the home delivery slots were full, shout at an old bloke on the bus cos he dared to comment on why my Dd was screaming and generally just had a go at most people.

I think my mom was scared to go out with me by the end.

Angeliz · 14/07/2004 15:05

I am an waful cow at the moment!
Am 7 weeks and dp is getting the most of my moody cow and tempers. I know i'm doing it but can't help it and i keep getting so angry i think i might spontaniously combust!!!

scruff, you're not alone+++++++++=

Jimjams · 14/07/2004 15:07

3rd pregnancy and one of the things I hate about being pregnant (one of many!) is that I spend the entire 9 months in a completely foul mood. Once the baby's born it lift instantly. For me being pregnant is 9 months PMT.

eefs · 14/07/2004 15:11

yup, have had completely unreasonable arguements with DP when pregnant. Have been told recently by a friend that she was scared to disagree with me when I was almost due as I was so volatile.
it will pass. try to count to ten and consider if your pre-pregnant self would have the same reaction before you, ahem, comment.

twiglett · 14/07/2004 15:13

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sponge · 14/07/2004 15:27

Perfectly normal.
Try apologising to dh in the calm periods in between episodes of picking on him - I found if I explained that it was hormonal and not personal then he coped with it better.
As for strangers - too bad, you'll probably never see them again .

blossomgirl · 15/07/2004 03:13

Hello scruff This might be a bit serious for this thread but I know what you feel when you talk about stuff making you cry. We've had a hell of time at home, have to live in a tough area because of work. Phew, moving soon but my point is this I only held onto the plot (v fragile at times) by going to Yoga, meditation classes, Alexander technique lessons and councelling. Quite a bag full but every moment you keep calm is one less moment you feed your baby your stress and that's worth it. Mine's an extreme example probably of seeking outside help, but do at least pamper yourself a little to stay calm. Everything I've read (another lifeline) on the subject confirms the old wives warnings that our moods and experiences in pregnancy programe our babies for life. And anyway you get to enjoy the attention on the way. My honest experience is that pregnancy might make things harder, but not impossible, and certainly not ok to become unreasonable, unkind or rood.

Well its a nice ethic even if it doesn't always work! (No angel ) and .. hope this angle doesn't p* you off! .

highlander · 15/07/2004 04:45

I cry every other day now, but telling myself "it's hormones, not me" seems to help (for 5 seconds!)

it's really impt to get your DH to understand that it is hormones - he doesn't even get PMT so won't have a scooby! Once they twig, the support can be amazing (if somewhat tactless, but hey, it's the thought that counts.........)

Samcj · 15/07/2004 12:17

Hmm, can also become incredibly annoying when you are very upset about something and DP turns round and says 'aww, it's your hormones isn't it?'. Never you bloody mind, I am upset/annoyed/cross whatever and I told want to be told why when at this moment in time I feel I have very good reason to feel this way... Is this post just another example of being hormonal and grumpy? Oops.

Samcj · 15/07/2004 12:18

Read don't want to be told why, just come of night shift sorry.

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