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Can't agree with sonogropher!!!

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Cwhits87 · 23/06/2017 10:14

Hi!!
This is my first EVER post on here so please bare with me! These forums have saved my life with our first son, you know those grim evenings.... It's 3am and you feel like you've been constantly breastfeeding for your entire life so you Google how to cope or how to progress things?! These places gave me hope back then!!
But here we are now expecting our second child (currently 20w+3), I was pretty certain what sex this next baby would be and was shocked at the answer I got from our sonogropher last week!! The fact that I never got to see our babies bits doesn't help but he so quickly looked then changed the view!!! So I'm left in doubt! I honestly don't mind either way, I'm so relieved baby seems healthy, but to expect one thing and then be told another... It's hard to get your head around.
So for a bit of fun (I'm not sure if I want to pay for another scan to find out) .. What would you guess from this?! This is was at 12 weeks as I have no shots of the bum area at 19 weeks 😢
Thanks!!

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DoubleHelix79 · 23/06/2017 10:18

I would trust the opinion of a trained professional who has probably seen thousands of scans over the guesswork of random strangers on the internet, but that's just me.

blueskyinmarch · 23/06/2017 10:20

So let me get this right - you think your knew the sex of your unborn child based on a hunch and you don’t believe the sonographer who is actually trained to look and ascertain this?

How very odd. How on earth could you be certain about the sex of this baby?

Soubriquet · 23/06/2017 10:20

Without seeing a potty shot, I can't really guess but I think the lines indicate a girl to me

PinkHeart5911 · 23/06/2017 10:21

I agree with DoubleHelix a trained professional will of seen thousands of scans and I'd trust what they was saying.

I think maybe you convinced yourself this baby would be a certain sex and your struggling to accept that isn't the case.

You have a healthy baby an whatever the sex of the child that is something to focus on

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Cwhits87 · 23/06/2017 10:22

wow, how incredibly mean spirited from an online community I thought would be understanding.
Thank you for making me feel like crap, well done.

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blueskyinmarch · 23/06/2017 10:22

FWIW i have had three children and each time i was convinced i was having a boy. Three girls is what i had! No gender scans in my day though.

Oysterbabe · 23/06/2017 10:24

I think it's a girl.

SleepFreeZone · 23/06/2017 10:24

Pmsl. This is a very mean spirited forum, I expect you're new and didn't know this!

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Cwhits87 · 23/06/2017 10:24

Thank you Soubriquet, was just to see how my guess varied from others.
With our first baby they took a longer look in that area to be sure and that didn't happen, maybe it was just more obvious!

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Soubriquet · 23/06/2017 10:25

Have a Google of the nub theory x

FeckinCrutches · 23/06/2017 10:27

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SuperBeagle · 23/06/2017 10:27

Those scan pics look like a girl to me.

If you're not convinced by what the sonographer determined, perhaps look at booking a private scan?

Also, to those PPs, these "trained professionals" are still humans and are therefore susceptible to making mistakes. I know a baby born less than 10 years ago who was "supposed" to be a girl, according to the scans, but who is, in fact, very much a boy.

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Cwhits87 · 23/06/2017 10:28

Thanks oysterbabe!
Sleep free zone, this was my first post so yeah... Clueless. I should have known really, this is why I can't stand most playgroups... Some mothers seem to thrive on pulling others down. I just try to avoid it and I've walked straight into it here haven't I 😂
Thankfully we're not all like that!

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ScarletSienna · 23/06/2017 10:28

What did they say? I'd trust whatever they said at 19 weeks over looking at 12 week scan photo. It may have felt the sonographers only had a wuick look but they wouldn't say anything if unsure, they'd just say not clear.

DoubleHelix79 · 23/06/2017 10:30

OP, sorry if you feel attacked, but we're just trying to save you further disappointment. I don't know what your background is, but if you have a specific reason to want either a boy or a girl then it will only get harder the longer you convince yourself that the sonographer is wrong. I personally wish you all the best - perhaps this is one of the rare cases where the gender scan turns out to be wrong. Congratulations on your pregnancy by the way, I hope you get to enjoy it regardless of the gender!

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 23/06/2017 10:30

You were expecting one sex to be told it was another? Wtf?

How could you be "expecting" a sex based on, idk, a "feeling"?

The sonographer does this all day, every day. They'll know what they're on about.

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Cwhits87 · 23/06/2017 10:31

Oh OK, I will do thanks Soubriquet!
Haha thanks FeckinCrutches
Thank you SuperBeagle, I might just do that! Been on the fence about it but, might be nice to see baba again regardless!!

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ScarletSienna · 23/06/2017 10:33

Super - I imagine that more hunches have been wrong than sonographers though ...

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Cwhits87 · 23/06/2017 10:34

It was based on what we could on the 12 week scans and what we weren't shown at the later scan- WhatToDoAboutThis2017
I'm not disappointed at all DoubleHelix79, just surprised!

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WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 23/06/2017 10:34

Oh okay that makes more sense I thought this was one of those "woo" feelings threads and I can't stand those

Defuzzing · 23/06/2017 10:35

There's always margin for error. I remember ndn was told she was having a boy. She decorated everything in blue. Baby was a girl. Luckily, she had a daughter already so had all the pink bits at home. My friend was left in no doubt as there was a very clear scan picture of her ds's genitalia.

Soubriquet · 23/06/2017 10:36

Not necessarily

My dh had a hunch from about 8 weeks with both of my pregnancies and got it right both times

Sometimes you just think you know. No raising your hopes or what not in case you're wrong but there's no harm guessing. Passes the time away doesn't it?

Sonographers are not infallible either.

So if she wants to have a guess what is the harm? No need to rip her down.

She knows we can't say yes that's definitely a boy/girl. She's just asking for guesses like loads of other people do. They don't half of this abuse

Soubriquet · 23/06/2017 10:37

Dh also thinks a girl too btw...and he hasn't been wrong with anyone's pregnancy yet

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Cwhits87 · 23/06/2017 10:40

Defuzzing, haha yes that is a worry 😂

Soubriquet- I honestly don't mind either way. We've always said we would like two kiddies regardless of what sex they turn out to be and that's that! Healthy is the aim here at the end of the day!

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alltouchedout · 23/06/2017 10:41

I wouldn't guess the sex from a 12 week scan, I may as well flip a coin and give you an answer based on that!
With all three of my babies, it was so obvious at the 20 week scan that they were boys that we really didn't need to be told .

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