Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.
There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk

If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is
brilliant:
024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy#!scenario

I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

Hi all.

Just checking back in. Goodness this thread has got busy, im struggling to keep up. Sorry everyone is still suffering so much and that we have some new members

I got back from the Isle of Wight yesterday. God I'm glad I didn't try to go any further! I'm exhausted. We did quite a lot of walking and I think I overdid it. Although thankfully I only threw up once (strawberry fudge tastes awful on return), but had terrible digestive issues all weekend. Not used to eating out so much or such large portions, ended up leaving lots of food, skipping meals and generally feeling nauseous and bloated. Badly constipated although just had a violent evacuation this morning which, while a relief, has left me feeling sick and washed out.

Don't get me wrong, it was lovely to get away and I did have a good time - but I definitely should have taken it more slowly. I completely underestimated how much my fitness has dropped, I was very slow and lots of stopping. Plus nobody warmed me how many fecking HILLS there are in the Isle of Wight!!!!

Started to feel bad by Monday night and in the end paid to get a much earlier ferry on Tuesday, came home and slept for twelve hours straight! Thank god I hadn't gone abroad.

Knackered today. Back at work (still from home) but just want to go to sleep 😴 . Still, at least my vomiting inmych reduced so can't complain too much.

Any news from Peace yet?

Lemondrop Lovely to have you back. Is the Isle of Wight still lovely and old fashioned? We used to take DD there when she was little and we were still in London. It's been very busy on here indeed. Sorry you suffered, but I am glad there was only one vomiting session - people on these threads on holiday have been mistaken for holiday drunks when puking on the beach, etc. .

Ah, and no news yet from peaceloveandbiscuits. I hope all is well with her.

I've decided there is a hormone surge at every week of pregnancy. Every time I feel semi human for a day I end up feeling awful again the next day.

Glad you enjoyed the IoW Lemon we go there every year as DH has family there. It's lovely but it's like going back in time 50 years!

I can't believe how busy this thread is, I need to start taking notes as I'm finding it impossible to keep up and reply to people.

Seren your post made me so sad. How are we supposed to cope with HG when even the doctors don't have a clue?!

Welcome back Lemondrop!

Today was back to reality for me, looking after DD alone, managed to survive the day with no major disasters, getting fed up of constantly feeling faint, but hey, it's another day ticked off (well almost) so I'm happy....

Who was it who said they'd been surviving on dairylea but had gone off it now? I owe you a big thank you, had gone off absolutely everything else for breakfast but I can stomach this one for the time being!

Quick check in. DP is finally home, I've been that pent up that I burst into tears once we were through the door and I've not stopped since. So glad he's home, hormones are funny things. I'm in tears he's home while gagging over the sick at smell of his new meds. Normally I shoo him away while I'm sick but he was made to remain beside all the time. Poor guy.

I need your advice. Not sure how I can cope anymore. Got ondansetron but that doesn't help in morning as cannot keep anything down.
I get woken up wretching at 6am then it's a 2 hour battle to keep something down. I've tried all sorts of food. Banana, cereal, yoghurt, biscuits, bread. This morning couldn't keep anything down and was 30 mins late for work (they are understanding). Felt absolutely horrific until 11am. Then I saw some toast and had one slice which I could keep down. Then I ate a sandwich for lunch and vomited 1/2 up again. Then I feel ok until 7pm when it kicks off again.
The mornings are the worst. What are people's morning routines and what works?

I wake up 40 minutes early and lie nibbling oat cakes and breathing deeply to fight the nausea. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't but it's the best thing I've found x

I wake up 40 minutes early and lie nibbling oat cakes and breathing deeply to fight the nausea. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't but it's the best thing I've found x

Thingymaboob it sounds like your nausea and vomiting follows quite a similar pattern to mine, mornings the worst, followed by a slight afternoon reprieve and then ill again in the evening. I haven't found a solution, but my morning routine is:

• Wake up, down a glass of water, vomit (I find the water means it's both easier to vomit which is better on my stomach first thing and less acidic) - this sometimes means I can keep whatever I eat next down, but often not
• Eat, something small and sweet (ice lolly, or small bit of pop tart with a sip of pepsi, or recently I've gone off that so have opted for small bit of bread with dairylea.
• If that stays down I usually take my tablet then and then eat something else an hour or two later, and know that it'll be an ok day.
• If that doesn't stay down I know it's going to be a rubbish day, wait till I can try and eat and then something small again...

I'm not working as am a SAHM so make sure I have a babysitter/toddler at playgroup in the morning to let me do nothing. If I try and do too much in the morning my day is sure to be awful. When I was working last time they used to flex my hours, so I would start at 11am instead and make up time elsewhere. Sorry, none of that is probably much help...

Forgot to say, one thing I know for sure, from bitter experience NEVER eat granola on your yoghurt.... it can tear your throat to shreds on the way back up.

So sorry you're feeling rubbish though, I feel lucky to get a couple of hours reprieve in the afternoon most days where I can stock up on some more calories and rehydrate, but it's still hard limping along on about 1/3 - 1/2 of the calories you should be getting.

Same routine as Pippanippa. During my worst days I only eat grapes and Heinz tomato soup.. even when I didn't want to eat anything at all I somehow managed with the tomato soup. Thingymaboo b I really hope you have a better day tomorrow :(

Waves to all..I am in wales visiting family. Staying in an apartment with my mum, dh snd husband. .. they're being great at not minding me be like a moody teenage boy... sleeping lots and stomping out now and again to raid the fridge haha

*and 3 yr old son. I only have one husband thank god

OnNature'Course I am so glad that you are home and OH is okay-ish.
No wonder you feel emotional; hormones don't help...
Thingymaboob That seems to be great advice from pippanippa and FlapAttack. I was going to recommend coke and ice lollies, but it looks as if it has already been recommended. It's a horrible time of day to try that famous juice and maybe fruit of tinned peaches, but I wonder? Would nibbles of crisps be bearable? The opinion of those is mixed...Sometimes, I got away with soda bread (I suppose because of the saltiness). Others have not done well on it.
Oklahoma Fifty years indeed!
FlapAttack I hope you have as nice a holiday as you can. What part of Wales? I now live in Mid Wales, and spent six years of my later childhood in the Clywyd Valley.

Watch me cross post.

FlapAttack Ah, I just saw your typo. Imagine having to cope with two DH's, and Hyperemesis....

Never a second husband but I'm definitely on the market for a wife, they seem very handy lol.

Snap with the nausea routine, isn't that weird, awful in the morning slight reprieve in the afternoon and then rubbish again at tea time. There has to be something in that. I second finding a drink whatever you can stomach in the morning and just allowing yourself that vomit and it being less of that nasty acidic bile seems to make for a better day.

Tenby! Love it here.. my gran lives close by si always a good excuse to visit! ! Booked this before I was pregnant and was so worried I wasn't going to make it and so happy i have got here as the sea and being in lovely Wales has lifted my spirits

2 husbands. .. oh god no! Haha

Capri suns... honestly they are my lifeline... maybe a frozen one?

thingamyboob not sure if it's an option, but I started going into work later/ working from home in the mornings. Otherwise,similar to others it was a case of eating something to throw up and trying to regulate fluids with lucozade.

Hi all new man on the forum here my wife is suffering really badly with this has had two hospital trips and also had her medication increased and still suffering really bad. To the point of she is depressed I don't know what I can do to help her throu this as she is so upset over it

thingymaboob I sleep for as long as I can. When I was taking cyclizine I'd wake up about 6 take the tablet and fall asleep again so that I couldn't throw up. Seemed to work all the while the cyclizine was working. Same with the Metoclopromide. As for the ondansetron they work fairly quickly but I still sip Apple and pear squash until I feel fine. I've give up with the crackers as they no longer help. An ice lolly in the morning helps as well. Cold, refreshing, and I just love rocket lollies so there's no stopping me.
david hello! As someone who really doesn't like children and didn't want kids (still don't but here we are) knowing that my husband is supporting me by doing chores and making sure I'm comfortable is such a help! Having really bad sickness in general while on my first baby is not how I wanted to be eased into having kids but oh well.
Is there anything you know of that she particularly needs help with that you could do instead? I know you're probably doing everything you can already but if I was nearer my family having my husband speak to them to help out with housework without me having to ask or even getting me ice lollies because he knows I love them right now would mean all the difference.
It sucks that a stronger dose isn't helping though. I've just had to up mine because I can feel it wearing off now on the dose I was on before.
I've not admitted to anyone yet but I'm also struggling with fighting off depression. Was struggling before I got pregnant and now struggling even more because I can't do anything during the day while DH is at work so I'm all by myself. I find sometimes him just coming home and sitting with me and massaging my legs or back without asking just lets me know he s thinking about me. Hope she feels better soon.

Hi David, what deaddoorpost says is totally true, doing chores without being asked is such a big help. Little things which you might not notice will make a big difference, things like:

• Emptying the bins/cleaning out the fridge so there's no awful smells
• Cleaning up food straight away, again to avoid smells
• Making sure there's a ready supply of snacks available of things she likes / can tolerate. It might change day by day so be prepared...!
• Cleaning the toilet / emptying her sick bucket
• getting a DVD or something to watch on TV, or setting up a radio if TV makes her feel unwell
• Understanding that she might not feel well enough to go out much, so trying to do things together which are more manageable (e.g. short walks in a park rather than going to a cafe)
• Probably not relevant for you, but if needed (and if she would find it helpful) advocate for her at appointments (sounds a bit weird, but I have a tendency to downplay things to dr's/put off seeing them altogether - something about the white coat just makes me say 'oh, it's not too bad, don't worry), my husband knows the truth and will say to the Dr he's worried about me or something like that - but like I say only after I asked him to help with this.

I'm sorry, a lot of that is probably really obvious and sounds mundane but seriously, it can make a bad day a whole lot better. Don't just do them once, but do them every day. It's easy to get used to someone being ill all the time, but remember every day for her is as grim as norovirus so treat her you would want to be treated in that scenario each and every day. It puts a big strain on a marriage, and I know it's very difficult for partner's so I hope that you're ok in all this too.

David42 that's lovely you have come.on here to help get ideas to support your wife.

Things my husband does thst help me are

Telling me I am doing a great.job.. even on the days I manage nothing but staying in bed being sick he tells me I am growing a new life and that's the most important job in the world and no one else could do anything more important for him than help build his next baby!

He stocks up the fridge with a variety of sugary drinks I can manage now and again and the snaxks I can cope with. Theb tells me I can what's app him from bed if I need anything... this sounds like I am a right princess but when I wake up from a nap I feel so low and weak and nauseous that I don't hve the strength to go get anything

He did everything with toddler and house pretty much as I wasn't capable of anything . Encouraged me to put my son into nursery on the days I don't work without worrying about us eating into our savings for a house . .. always reassuring me health is most important .

It means I rarely saw him but he made sure he set my son uo after his bath and pjs on so he could bring him into me so I could give him a cuddle and read him stories. And theb when he was asleep my husband woukd come in and we have chat . Do 3 positives and 2 negatives so we could keep up wits each others lives wven though o could never talk long. And all my negatives were about types of sick haha.

He encouraged me to get signed off amd try medication. . All the things I was feeling too guikty ti do for myself.

She also.may be getting a lot of "helpful" advice from friends and colleagues etc which is all well meaning but for us to heat is unhelpful and frustrading. Eg.. have you tried ginger. This ground me down a lot and I never knew how to handle how irritated they made me as I knew the person saying them only meant well. So I made a bingo grid of all the comments that irritate me and people.on here helped give loads too haha.. I find it helpful to have in mind now when someone says something. .. "Haha yes another point" rather tHan let I get ti me. I used to try and explain to people about why what they were saying wasn't right but when I was too ill.to do that or just too pissed off to try and explain it to someone who was adamant I was just a hormonal over reacting pregnant woman it's been really helpful. I attach it here.

There is a list of helpful comments above too like cleaning the loo so therr is a nice shiny lop to be sixk into and offers of hugs and just saying "sorry, it sucks"

Also your support in going to hospital and drs will be invaluable as you never know what the health professionals will be like.. some are great, some are awful and dismissive and you can advocate for your wife

Also take a look at the website on the original.post at the start of this thread... they are great. And pregnancy sickness support in Facebook has some great artless and blogs written by people from this thread and others which I always find helpful to read and reassuring that there are other people in the same boat as me.. also useful to hear how they cope and also their stories of starting to feel better

hi all thank you for you messages

at the moment my wife is getting all the love she can from me and im doing all her chores like horses food drinks and her mum does the day to day stuff while i am at work i got home last night and she just dident seem to be keeping her tablets down as when she takes them within an hour they are straight back up i know she is seeing the doctor again friday so i get the feeling this maybe a trip up the local hospital again as when she is there she get anti semetics that i feel work better for her and she picks up really well then when home give it three days and she starts to decline again