3 potential fathers. What do I do??

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Please don't lecture me about unprotected sex with three different men. I know it's wrong and irresponsible. It was stupid and to be honest I didn't realise you could get pregnant directly after your period.

I don't know who the father of my baby is.. I'm 10 weeks pregnant. I know the baby was conceived during a certain week in February. But that doesn't really narrow it down, as the 3 men were within 48 hours... I don't know how to tell the 3 potential fathers (2 ex's and 1 current partner). Partner knows I'm pregnant but doesn't know that it's possibly not his.

How do I tell them/is there a way I can find out who the father is before birth? Termination is not an option as I don't think I could do it mentally.

I believe you can have pre natal DNA done but it's an invasive test with risk of miscarriage and you'd have to have samples from one or more of the men to compare with so you'd have to tell them....

Invite them all to your party on an island?

You should also consider STI testing, particularly if your current partner is not aware of the sitatuaton and could also be at risk.

Well if all the potential fathers are of different races... (kidding, mostly)

You're going to need DNA from each father to rule them out. do like in the movies and pluck their hair out without them noticing, always works for them

Bridget Jones handled it well, although there were only two men on the mix. Good luck!

My freind was in this exact situation a few years back. (Just two men though).
She said nothing until baby was born then did a DNA test (swabbed partners mouth whilst he was asleep drunk)
Luckily he was the biological dad.
They are still together but she didn't learn. She still cheats.

I think you are just going to have to be brutally honest here with your partner and go it alone if necessary.

There's no way of finding out and there will be a shit storm if you hide it from him. Best say it now I think, be brave

Patricia

Are you sure of your dates? 10 weeks pregnant means 10 weeks since last period so about 8 weeks since conception?
Would that help rule anyone out??

Jeremy Kyle

I've already had STI tests, I'm clean thankfully. I'm just going to be brutally honest and tell them all the truth. I'm definite on the dates.

I had an early scan and I'm 10 weeks

Yes just tell them at the start, better to go it alone than worry for all that time. This way you can enjoy your pregnancy and wait until after the birth to sort it out.

Yes but do you know that 10 weeks pregnant means 8 weeks since conception?

The weeks refer to your last period, so you would need to estimate approx 14 days after that for conception....

Yeah right. 🙄
You need to get up earlier to catch me out

10 weeks pregnant would mean you conceived in march btw...

presumably you be asking all 3 potential fathers their family medical history as the midwife needs to know this in case of hereditary conditions

Dixie the dates matter because the op says she is pregnant and conceived a certain week in Feb. However, she would have conceived in march if she was in fact 10 weeks pregnant. Might rule out 2 potential dads!

You can have your blood tested now, but I don't know if it can be done this early? Google it. And give yourself some head space. There's no point rushing into telling everyone - it's not like they need to know this week, you've got months.

I admire your bravery OP. Sorry to sound flippant but I would happily get an abortion rather than deal with this situation! I hope it all works out okay

Yes, as pps said 10 weeks is 8 weeks since conception.

Agree with others. If scan dates you as 10weeks pregnant then the sex that created this baby was carried out in March. Given the other 2 exes were slept with in Feb, as long as you didn't sleep with them again 10days or so later, it will be your current partner who's the dad. (Assuming there isn't a fourth in the mix )

older that was exactly my reaction when she told me.