men at a baby shower? aibu?

[willothewisp17]

aibu to think there is no reason not to have men at a baby shower? I'm due August 1st and probably going to be having a baby shower and just wanted to see what other people's opinions are of having men at a baby shower? my husband will absolutely be attending as why should I get all the fun and attention and gift giving 😂 it's just as much his baby as it is mine and I find it extremely unfair for him to be sat at home while I'm having fun at a baby shower! my uncle and dad both think it is ludicrous to have men at a baby shower 🤔 am I missing some stupid unspoken rule??!

My husband and a few friends' partners are invited to mine. They've arranged to take themselves the pub! It's an odd one!

Yanbu I thought about this the other day as my friend is having a baby soon, and invited me to her baby shower. Not that my DP would necessarily want to go, it wouldn't interest him, but I can't see any reason why you can't both share the celebration together. Like you said it's his child as much as yours and there's no reason why your partner shouldn't be there with you. Its not just a woman's thing!

The only baby shower I have been to was men and women. It was fun and definitely suited the parents and their mix of friends and family.

I personally hate babyshowers and would never have one, however as you are going to I do not see any reason that men should not be invited as well.

there are some elements around pregnancy/childbirth that frankly I don't want DH to know about (he prob already does and is too polite to mention)- Tena lady anyone? so I probably wouldn't talk as candidly if men were there. Apart from that, can't see any reason for them not being there.

The only shower I had was for dc1. Both genders were invited. We had a racing competition for fun with anything baby related. There was a run with prams, putting nappies on dolls and some intellectual multiple choice questionnaire. A winner got a prize. My dh organised it. Afterwards there was wine and beers for non pregnant people and just fun. There was no belly measuring games, colour coordinated cupcakes and so on. It was all about company and not presents and so on.

• Soft drinks for pregnant people ;)

Your shower, do as you wish. Most blokes I know wouldn't be interested, but if you want to invite them and they want to come, why not! And it's quite common to have mixed sex family members and friends where people choose to do a gender reveal. This is just one in probably a long kind of people expressing their views about how you do things with your baby, ignore them and do it your way!

My baby shower is next week and my dad, old friend who's a man (we used to be a group of girls plus him in school and he is honestly still more girl than any of us) & my boyfriends cousin will be there. I just don't understand why it's "only for girls", although I know it's a tradition I just think it's a bit weird. I think men should definitely go x

I wasn't keen on a baby shower and DH was. So we compromised by holding a get together in a park (summer), with friends and family invited, both men and women. Everyone brought food and we had a barbecue too. Some people brought baby presents, which we opened together. It was nice in the end. DH enjoyed it too.