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Am I being paranoid?

15 replies

LMW86 · 29/03/2017 06:08

I am currently 6 weeks pregnant (first one) and googling basically everything as this is all so new to me. But as well as googling all of my pregnancy symptoms/what I should be doing etc, I'm also looking into miscarriage. I know I should just enjoy my pregnancy and whatever will be will be. I feel terrible for it but I was just wondering if any other mums to be done this?

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PrimeraVez · 29/03/2017 06:11

Yep...this is actually my second pregnancy but I have an unhealthy obsession with googling miscarriage rates and every real or imagined symptom I'm feeling. I'm currently 5+4 and will have a scan at 7w. Hopefully I will see the heartbeat and then I can maybe relax a tiny bit.

user1481490957 · 29/03/2017 06:21

Im the exact same, first pregnancy for me too. As soon as i found out any twinge or symptom id google, id constantly look up my chances of miscarriage each week and what could go wrong then babys chances of survival if prematurely born. Id look forward to big milestones eg 12 weeks thinking the worry would stop but then id do the same until 24 weeks. Currently 34 weeks and have had a very healthy pregnancy. I think its just our mummy minds getting ready for years and years of worry. I have atill managed to enjoy my pregnancy despite the worries. Its such a lovely time in pur lives but packed with unknow.

DinosaurFanGirl · 29/03/2017 07:21

I was a little like this but it was my partner who became obsessive over it. It really made him upset and anxious for the first trimester. Just have to remember that most pregnancies continue just fine. X

Lemondrop09 · 29/03/2017 09:52

This is very common. I've been quite anxious so far. I'm slightly better since passing 12 weeks, but not much! I had to stop myself googling, it's really not your friend and won't give you any actual answers. You'll just find thousands of stories of women, with different symptoms, some who turned out ok and some who didn't. It won't tell you what will happen with you, it'll just stress you out. Try and take a deep breath, realise what will be will be, and simply hope for the best.

GreedyDuck · 29/03/2017 10:31

You can google as much as you like, and stress yourself out in the process, but if you are going to miscarry in the early stages there is really very little you can do to stop it happening and it usually means that there was something wrong with the way the embryo was developing. I hope that doesn't sound too brutal (I've had two mmc) but it really is just one of those things.

I know it's very difficult when you're very invested in having a happy outcome but, honestly, you'll drive yourself mad. Time will never pass as slowly again for you as it does in the first trimester, it does speed up again once you get past the 12 week scan! Good luck.

Millie2008 · 29/03/2017 21:19

This is my first mumsnet post!! I literally found out I'm pregnant (still feels weird saying that!) Monday night/Tuesday morning. I'm absolutely overjoyed as was beginning to feel a little disheartened; but I'm also starting to feel so scared that I'm going to have an early miscarriage. I know this is pointless as worrying won't change anything, but I can't seem to help it. I'm also getting the impression from your posts that this anxiety never goes away. I thought I'd relax once pregnant, but now I'm thinking, "ok, I'll feel relaxed once I'm a week past missed period", then I'm sure it'll be "I'll feel relaxed as soon as I have the 12 week scan" and so on... It's just such an anxiety-provoking time - I keep running to the bathroom expecting my period to have started :-(

gigi556 · 29/03/2017 21:55

I think it's totally normal. Just try not to stress yourself out. I was extremely anxious and worried in my first pregnancy and ended up miscarrying at 7.5 weeks. I don't think the anxiety had anything to do with it though. I got pregnant again straight away and I'm now 32 weeks. I was actually less stressed the second time around. I think this might be unusual, but my attitude was that it was unlikely to happen again and also I went through what seemed like the worst case scenario and go through to the other side. There is really nothing you can do. Completely out of your control so try to relax.

PuddingPie16 · 30/03/2017 13:13

This is so common! I am like this too and as everyone tells me "Worrying whilst pregnant is just the start of being a Mum!". Just remember that each 'milestone' is a step closer to meeting you baby. I am 21 weeks though and I worry everyday but you have to just enjoy it as much as you can...40 weeks is a long time!x

Pixie106 · 01/04/2017 12:44

After 8 miscarriages, I've learnt that you can't do anything to stop them. That doesn't stop me worrying tho. Just found out I'm pregnant again and keep checking the tests to see if the line has gone or is fainter! Keep buying tests too to see if the line is getting darker (it's not yet tho😢) and scrutinising my symptoms to see if I'm still pregnant!
It doesn't stop, with my youngest who is now 21 months, I worried right up till he was born!
I don't enjoy my pregnancies until I get to see or feel them kicking. Until then, you just don't know what's going on in there 😳

Pixie106 · 02/04/2017 08:31

Just got my first positive digital, after several thin faint lines on others. Makes it seem real to actually see the word pregnant! I do keep checking tho as with my last pregnancy it never got past 2-3 weeks so I knew my hcg levels weren't rising as they should have been.
Wish me luck for next weekend when I hope to see 2-3! X

Am I being paranoid?
Pixie106 · 04/04/2017 07:50

Arghhhh! Can't stop taking tests and the lines are not getting darker! Surely the levels double every 48 hours so my tests should be getting darker by now. Help! 😢

GreenGoblin0 · 04/04/2017 07:52

please stop taking tests

Pixie106 · 04/04/2017 08:29

@GreenGoblin0 I know I should stop but want the reassurance that I'm still pregnant! But not getting the reassurance as I now think there's something wrong!
God, this is gonna be a long three weeks until my early scan 😖

GreenGoblin0 · 04/04/2017 11:02

the tests are showing you are still pregnant but are only adding to your anxiety. lines don't necessarily get darker and thr strength of the line isn't necessarily and indicator of your hcg levels. I know it's hard but repeatedly taking tests clearly isn't helping to reassure you.

Pixie106 · 05/04/2017 07:58

Not good news for me. Started bleeding so guess it's gonna be mc number 9. Might try again.
But good luck to all the other mums out there 🦋

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