The things people say to you when pregnant

[justwondering85]

I ran into some family members I hadn't seen in a while and they were like oh you don't even look pregnant from behind, mil was saying you were out to here indicating I was not only huge but wide but your not your neat. I'm actually lost for words.

Whilst heavily pregnant with my ds after I had endured four miscarriages, a neighbour said "Don't lost it this time!".

*lose

haha, Lemondrop09, so true!

I've had the one about work. From the man who comes to do plant garden. Lovely man, only too eager with advice:

"Oh, baby will want to spend the whole time with mum on the breast. Dad is really a little bit useless in that first month."
"Uhm, no it won't. And besides I don't want to breastfeed."
"Oh, but are you sure because the risk of infection."
"There won't be that big a risk as we don't have any other children and my husband has no contact with them either. Anyway you won't convince me."

"Should you wear those high heels? It's time for comfort now, you don't need to be beautiful." They were 1 cm max if that, I swear. And besides becoming a mum and being one shouldn't mean you let yourself go if you have no issues. (cross fingers)

Ive remembetd ive remembered.

We were buying a house when we found out and when we told MIl and Fil they were both shocked didnt really congratulate us. Fil said 'what about thr house?" To which i said "what about it we have to live somewhere"

Just nuts.

I just went to pick up my car from the garage today and the mechanic commented on my bump. What he actually said was " oh are you struggling??, is it just one or are you having twins??" I'm 37 weeks pregnant but measuring 44 as I have polyhydramnios so I suppose it's not unreasonable. X

My personal favourite:

5 day old baby still in hospital due to sepsis, I waddled spd to the day room. Lady says to me are you still pregnant? Looking at my bump. I said no baby is 5 days old.

She gets up and unties dressing gown at points to her belly and says my bump has gone already and I only had baby 2 hours ago.

Thankfully I manage to bite my tongue, she was visibly shaking and looked very young so I took pity and said boy or girl whilst in my head thinking I'm bloody 5 foot nothing and had a 4'8" waist the day I gave birth to a huge baby which wouldn't fit into newborn clothes. Got very sick with sepsis. And the reason your bump has gone completely and mine hasn't is you're 5'8" and at least a size 20 I'm a shorty and normally a size 8

When we told DSS (and then DSS's Mum to
let her know DSS would be having a sibling) she turned to me and said 'Aren't you a bit old to be having your first child? I wouldn't have one after 30' (I was 31 at the time) She then asked if all scans had come back okay because I'd be higher risk because of my age

I had daily messages from my MiL asking if the baby was moving yet (from 14w onwards) which culminating in me having to mute her on WA for periods of time because after 24w I was in the hospital a lot for reduced movement and my anxiety was sky high. In the end DS was C-section because of reduced movements but I wish I'd known that it was okay not to feel movement all the time if it was normal for baby, rather than worrying about the deluge of messages from MiL

I kind of hate the scare mongering stuff... haha you think you're tired now, life will never be the same etc. It might all be true of course but it's not especially helpful. Also, the questions about money, how are you going to manage financially...? (I'm self employed and the higher earner). Oh, thanks, I don't already worry about that 23 hours out of every 24. Also, irrationally, it does my nut that people are going ON and fucking ON about what a great dad my partner is going to be and no one is telling me I'm going to be a great mum! (Or if they are I'm not registering it...)
Sorry, ranty post!!

'do you think you'll cope when the baby is here and you're tired?'

Really wanted to say 'hopefully yes so I don't end up stabbing myself in the head'

WFT am I meant to say to that?!

"Was it planned?". Erm, yes- I've been with my husband for 10 years, I'm well into my 30s, secure job, own home, etc. Is it so inconceivable that we may want a child?! And also, how rude??

A family member shared my announcement on facebook and added a comment of Congratulations, followed by something along the lines of she would be organising her daughters christening for when I was near the due date so that I would be fat for once in all the pictures. I was a size 6 pre pregnancy...

Then most people throughout pregnancy would comment on how big I was and how I would have a massive baby, DD was 7lbs 10oz, I was big in that I put on 4 stone.... but I didn't need to be told that constantly.

Oh and my personal favourite, people telling me their horror stories of labour.

'Are you planning on feeding your baby?'
'Yes, at the very least, I will feed my baby'
'Oh, I meant BF...'

these are all my OH's mother btw

These are great. People in the office often marvel at my size. Comments include "are you sure it's not twins?", "are you going to get any bigger?" and my fav from my MIL at 20 weeks staring at my stomach "you're quite a size aren't you!" For the record, baby is measuring normal size at 28 weeks but I have put on 2 stone (due to all the cake I'm eating). It's as if pregnancy is a license to comment on a woman's size.

Friend: "Oh yes, I can tell you are pregnant now, you have a fat face"
Me: wtf?!
Friend: "well you were just so skinny before. A bit too thin."

We don't really see each other now.

I once had an anxiety attack at work over baby movement. Cue every single day after that being asked by every single female member of staff "Is she wriggling much today?" To which I felt I needed to reply with an enthusiastic YES every time!

Someone asked me if I'm sure DH was the father, because he's so slim and my bump is huge :/

Very bitchy old woman at work when I was expecting my 1st 'so was that planned then?' With a smirk on her face. Was too shocked to say anything at the time but in hindsight I now have a perfect answer should I ever get asked this ever again:
'Was it planned?'
'No, he was meant to put it in my arse but by the time we realized it was too late.'
Ought to shut them up 😁

ROFL sprite25 😂

Oh my god yes I am so fed up of idiotic people and their rude comments!

My nan- are you sure there's not 2 in there? (I'm 37 weeks and have spd so not loving so well. And it's my 3rd baby)

My mil- you're like the size of a baby elephant! (She is definitely undiagnosed special needs)

Random people - oh my god you must be due any day (when I was 30weeks), you must be crazy having a third, you're going to have your hands full (from a lady who had 4 children) you are definitely having a girl (why am I) what names have you got (why would I tell a stranger)

Sod off!!

I was signed off work at 35 weeks yesterday for thrombosis complications. Went in to collect my stuff, feeling a bit glum and obviously worried.

Stupid (childless, male and junior) colleague: "that's ridiculous. you're pregnant not sick"

Great, I was a afraid everyone would think I'm a slacker. At least now I know that's what they think. "Where is your medical degree?" is what I should have asked instead of just walking off and crying at home.

It doesn't stop after the baby is born.

My son was slightly premature and ill so had to spend a week or two in Special Care.

My grandmother (a strange, difficult woman)!kept banging on about how she was "surprised he didn't die".

I was a hormonal, traumatised new mother and I just wanted her to shut up.

I know you're supposed to hate all that tummy-touching and 'oh your bump is so small/big' pregnancy small talk, but I kind of loved it Am I the only person?

I didn't get any unpleasant comments that I can remember - only one strange, insecure woman telling me how much smaller she was and how she was climbing on desks in her heels at six months (umm, good for you...?). Everyone else just made comments about my size, and joked about twins (standard), and asked nice questions about baby preparation.

I didn't mind people touching my bump at all! They seemed so excited and happy. I was terrified and my baby was unplanned so it helped a lot when other people were so enthusiastic. Nobody tried to do it inappropriately though, and most asked permission first.

You probably make a good point that a lot of us are just grumpy buggers Fartniss

At the pub with family yesterday a random drunk man came up to me and pointed at my belly and asked "what's that?". Being polite I smiled and answered "a baby". To which he replied "oh no, it'll ruin you that". I'm 32 weeks so thanks for that, already feeling a bit ruined 😂. I was just a bit shocked really and was sat by myself when others were at the bar/toilet/mingling so didn't really know what to say! He just stumbled off again. What is wrong with people!

When I was pregnant last time, a colleague said to me 'you look like the human version of my car' ... he had a Renault megane. Cheers mate. And his brother said, (he also worked with me) 'your arse is massive now' again, cheers. Baffles me that people think it's ok to say such rude things to someone just because they are pregnant. If I had just been fat, no one would have said anything like that! Ah, the rudeness of people.