baby sex

[mumma89]

im pregnant with my second baby and when i have my scan that tells me the sex im planning to keep it a secret thing is my mum is too nosey and will keep asking till i tell her so im planning to lie and say the babys legs were closed it that such a bad idea 🤔

Well you've got 3 options:

Don't find out.

Find out and don't tell (although I'm not sure what the point of the finding out is then)

Find out and tell her

Hi, we found out the sex but told no one, was tough at times but i refered to her as 'bean' throughout the pregnancy.
We wanted people to still have a surprise but also didn't want a ton of pink gifts, just in case

i wanna find out the sex so i can have the nursery ready for when he/she arrives but wanna keep it a surprise for the family everyone will be ok with it except my mum she feels like she has a right to know when she doesnt

If she comes round would she not want to see how the nursery is getting on?

The decision is yours but it may be hard to keep it a secret from her

I found out the sex of my little boy but didnt want anyone other than my partner and my dad knowing as my nan doesnt like to know until the birth. I didnt want to tell anyone other than us because i knew if only 3 people knew, it was easier to control what they said. My mam (i dont get on with, my nans like my mother) thought she had a right to know as its her grandchild and made such a fuss, i didnt give in and told her its not her choice who knows so to stop going on. She finally listened and stopped asking until he was born. I would say dont give in, if you dont wanna tell people then dont x

she is disabled so doesnt visit mine

Won't your mum be upset if she finds out you lied to her? Just might be unnecessary drama for you. Although I do understand why you don't want everyone to know yet.

It's a difficult one; If it was me I'd probably lie but PP has a good point. Would your mum not be really upset when she eventually found out you'd lied?
Could you not talk to her prior to the scan and tell her your intentions not to tell anyone. You could stress that it's really important that she doesn't pester you to tell. You can gauge her reaction and make your final decision based on what she says.

I wouldn't really class this as a "lie"
It's more a "fun bend if the truth"

I say go for it