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Bump Touching

20 replies

Littlejayx · 16/02/2017 11:38

Hi all,

How do you all feel about people touching the bump?

People I know, I think its lovely

People I don't know bit strange.

Am I weird?

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MumBeth · 16/02/2017 11:59

It's still your body and people should respect your personal space. I even get freaked out if my parents suddenly touch my bump. They've learnt now to ask first ot wait to be invited. So you aren't weird IMO. 😊

ColourfulOrangex · 16/02/2017 12:22

I absolutely hate it, this is baby number 2 and a friend actually lifted my top yesterday because there "is no bump" erm put my top back down maybe I wouldn't mind so much if it was on top of my clothes but I'm still kinda weird about it

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Littlejayx · 16/02/2017 12:24

Colourful,

Under the top? that's a tad strong isn't it?!

Like parents or friends or my partner I think its lovely, but random strangers in the super market ( as yesterday) so so so strange

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ColourfulOrangex · 16/02/2017 12:40

I was so shocked I actually didn't know what to do, I just sort of yanked my top back down, I'm 18 weeks so I know people will start wanting to touch etc but still...I do think it's strange when random people touch, someone in a supermarket? Wow that is strange

EggsEleven · 16/02/2017 12:42

I didn't really have this happen to me. Once from a colleague who I'm not particularly close to but don't dislike either. I didn't really mind. I suppose if random strangers kept approaching me in the street to do it I'd have found it a bit odd and irritating.

mistermagpie · 16/02/2017 13:55

The only person who is allowed to life my top up and touch my 'bump' is DS, but he's 19 months old and weirdly obsessed with my belly! I don't even like DH touching it really, let alone random strangers. Nobody has actually touched me though to be honest, but I'm 33 weeks now and literally every single person I see feels the need to comment on my size. I'm measuring a bit small externally (baby is 90th centiel though) because I'm tall and everyone goes on about it. In no other situation is it fair game to comment on or touch another person's body in this way!

drinkyourmilk · 16/02/2017 15:04

I've only had one person other than my dh touch my bump. She's been really persistent even when I've asked her to stop- last time I told her that if she kept doing it I'd have a feel of her boobs as to me she's just invading my space not touching my baby. Hasn't done it since.
Keep your hands to yourself people!

Redpony1 · 16/02/2017 15:13

Why the hell would anyone want to touch a bump? That's bloody strange! Not a chance in hell will anyone ever touch me without their hands being slapped away

Raffles1981 · 16/02/2017 15:38

I have never felt the urge to touch a woman's bump, not even when my close friends were pregnant. I am only 12 weeks, so my partner has ''talked'' to my slight bulge and stroked/kissed my belly - but we make love, so he has been more intimate than that and I don't mind him doing it. I am not really sure how I will feel about others touching my bump. I am a very cuddly person and tell myself it won't matter but in all honesty, I cannot imagine how I will feel when someone goes for it. I suppose it all comes down to personal space. But I do agree, why are people obsessed with touching baby bumps?

Jenbob13 · 16/02/2017 15:45

Im 39 weeks and can't even count how many times I have been bump fondled. I work in pharmacy and even had a random
patient lean over and give me a good stroke. I was like 😐.

Weirder still a work colleague (woman) started giving me a hug and a peck on the cheek before leaving every night after developing my bump. I am not a touchy feely person in the slightest. Freakin weird.

toomuchtimereadingthreads2016 · 16/02/2017 15:55

Sorry to go against the trend but I love bump touching from close people! Even from the women in my office, there are only 6 of us in this particular work space so we're pretty close :) although one of them was pregnant last year and said from the start she wouldn't let anyone except her husband so had to respect that and sit on my hands :)

Strangers definitely not!

ILoveCheeseMoreThanYou · 16/02/2017 15:55

Eugh I HATE it! Although I've never had a stranger do it, just friends and family

Hellmouth · 16/02/2017 16:01

No one ever tried to touch mine. DP says it's because I have that won't-take-any-shit-confident-independent-black-woman vibe lol

I don't think I would like it though!

Notyetthere · 16/02/2017 17:45

Nope. Nobody apart dh are allowed to touch my bump. I know MIL is desperate to touch and I remember her being like that with sil but I'm not comfortable with it. Not even my mum will get the chance.

Notyetthere · 16/02/2017 17:45

Nope. Nobody apart dh are allowed to touch my bump. I know MIL is desperate to touch and I remember her being like that with sil but I'm not comfortable with it. Not even my mum will get the chance.

mumonashoestring · 16/02/2017 17:50

After someone got a bit grabby in the lift one morning I very loudly explained at work that anyone touching my bump was giving me carte blanche to grab any part of them I chose and squeeze as hard as I liked for as long as I wanted. Never had a problem after that

I did have a couple of people ask very politely - one because she'd never had a close friend or relative who was pregnant before and had never felt a baby moving, and would quite understand if I didn't want her to (I let her), and DH's grandmother, who also liked to come round and just sit and listen to DS feeding after he was born.

Lunalovepud · 16/02/2017 19:49

I can't STAND bump touchers. It drives me completely bonkers. I'm pregnant with DC2 and am waiting for my bump to pop out and the bump touchers to come lurking...

MIL went on and on about it when I was expecting DC1, baby was asleep most of the time when she was around and she thought I was lying and keeping her from feeling her grandchild - entitled much?!! It's my body FFS!

I can't give you any advice as I am really obnoxious about it and don't want to be a bad influence.

I have done everything from swatting hands away, to shouting "Don't touch my baby!" loudly in public, to reaching out to touch boobs / balls in response. I have no shame.

Pregnantmumma123 · 16/02/2017 21:40

Close family or DH I don't mind at all...but I actually had a very odd encounter with a total stranger the other day who just grabbed my (pretty huge) bump...I was a bit shocked to say the least She then asked a few baby questions, due date etc and then held out her hand and asked for 30p!! was so bizarre I had to laugh!

InTheKitchenAtParties · 16/02/2017 21:50

I loved it. In fact I encouraged demanded it! I regularly pulled my top up saying 'look at my belly. Isn't it marvelous? Touch it!! Go on!'. I was very proud of my bump and wanted everyone to admire it

I would always ask before touching a pregnant woman though. Mumsnet taught me that.

Elkalv · 16/02/2017 22:18

I am not that far along so most people don't know that I am pregnant, but I worry I might punch if someone does it unexpectedly ))

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