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3rd child help

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L1021 · 30/01/2017 17:56

Wondered if someone could help me please. I am 5 pregnant with 3rd child but husband thinks we should terminate this pregnancy as our other 2 are now almost 5 and 7 and feels we would be going g bavk to the beginning. We live in a small 3 bedroom house and it would be so tight on space but I don't feel I can go through with a termination. Just the thought of saying that to the GP gives me shivers. I just don't know what to do as I feel so alone and stuck. Please can someone offer me some advice xx

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Crumbs1 · 30/01/2017 17:59

I would not go,forward with a termination if you were not convinced it was right decision for you. A third baby might be a challenge but nowhere near as hard as living with a decision to terminate you felt pushed into and didn't want.

Ilovecaindingle · 30/01/2017 18:01

Maybe keep the baby and get rid of dh?

Heratnumber7 · 30/01/2017 18:09

Termination isn't a method of birth control. If DH didn't want more children he should have taken steps to prevent pregnancy.

Chosenbyyou · 30/01/2017 18:28

Your DH is perfectly entitled to hold that opinion!

I would think it through myself and be happy with my decision. Then I would arrange a time with him where it is just you two and go through your thoughts and feelings in a very controlled manor. If he is stuck with his point of view and not willing to consider yours I would say - we will discuss this again in a week but I am highly unlikely to change my mind so please could you think on this for a few days.

It's harsh to judge the DH here and he is entitled to whatever opinion he has, as are you!

Take care xx

ExpectoPatronummmm · 30/01/2017 19:02

I'm pregnant with my 3rd
Also I'm the 3rd of 3 kids
I had to share a room growing up which was fine
My own mother was one of three and she had to share a bed with her two siblings!

I think 3 will be harder work yes, less money yes. But more fun, all 3 will have a different character etc.

Also had my Mam only had 2 kids she would never have had grandchildren as my bro and sis haven't had any and never will.

babynelly2010 · 30/01/2017 20:25

I am pregnant with my 3rd, surprise pregnancy. I am also a middle of 3 children. We also recently moved in new home that we sat up for us and 2 children. Getting bfp was scarry but we could not stop the pregnancy. It took few weeks to adjust but I can honestly say now, this baby was missing from our family and I can not wait to meet her. We just rearranged the house to make bedroom for baby and I think it is actually much better than it was before. My kids got lovely bunk bed and baby a whole own room. Our first 2 children did not have their own room until later in life and for the first time I actually have a whole room to decorate just for baby. My dh is also so excited which I did not think he woould be but somehow I feel it's all coming to a full circle at last.
I would really think hard of this and try to predict how you will feel if you staid pregnant or stopped. Just because dh does not want to continue its not good reason alone there are has to be stronger reasons for wanting to not keep the pregnancy. 3 bedrooms is plenty of room for 3 kids if arranged properly. My famy shared a studio flat once when we immigrated out our own country and it was fine.

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