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When did you set up your nursery?

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Kelsey28 · 28/01/2017 18:53

More out of curiousity than anything else :-). I am going to get mine next weekend I think. Will be 28 weeks pregnant and have just moved house so thought I would get it while I get everything else!

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welshweasel · 29/01/2017 10:27

raspberry don't discount having baby in with you. DS was in a cosleeper and we definitely got more sleep that way as didn't even have to get out of bed when he woke up. He was sleeping through at 10 weeks and I went back to work shortly after that, being in your room doesn't mean less sleep for everyone. Even now, when he goes through periods of rubbish sleep we bring him back in to our room, somehow having to trudge across the landing to his room when he wakes makes it so much harder!

Anatidae · 29/01/2017 10:32

The recommendation is that they share a room with you for the first six months. This lowers the risk of SIDS.

It's also a monumental pain in the arse to be listening out for crying and trekking over to another room every time they wake. And they wake a LOT. Much much easier to have them next to you so you can just feed them and quickly get back to sleep. Ds was pretty much attached to the boob for the first few months.

Stay flexible - it's nice to have a nursery but don't expect them to be doing long stretches in there until they are a bit older. If you have rigid ideas of what the baby should do and it doesn't do them you're setting yourself up for misery,

We had great intentions for a nice nursery. It's just getting set up now and he's 16 months old

Buy a sleepyhead type thing or a basket and carry them round with you. In the early days they need you a lot

jpeg28 · 29/01/2017 10:32

Great wallpaper!! And nursery looks lovely Raspberry.

I'm aiming for baby to be in with me for the first 6 months although that sounds like a long time!! But I'm a first timer so who knows!! And no cot bumpers for me after I did some reading about them this week. Just a plain white sheet will do!! I know lots of people who still have them though.

abeandhalo · 29/01/2017 10:32

I'm 30 weeks now & we've got built in wardrobes for all his stuff, the cot is up & the changing table will be up soon, so it will be useable but we've decided not to bother decorating it as he won't be in there for a while. We might put a couple of framed pictures on the wall but thought we could decorate it at the end of the year or whenever he starts sleeping in it.

RasperryInAMelon · 29/01/2017 11:08

Welsh and Anatidae he have read the various SIDS info and that of cot bumpers, but thank you.

I know it's not for everyone and each to their own, but my plans are to follow Gina Ford guides; which as I say have worked fantastically for SIL who is a newborn nanny.

In her and many of my friends experience, those few weeks of getting up and 'trudging' next door are well worth it once routine is in place and has usually worked within 6-12 weeks where they sleep through 10pm-7am, rather than trying to get them used to their room at a later stage once baby has had a chance to 'settle' in your room.

Even during the first few weeks when DD will be in with us in a Moses basket, all changes and feeds will be done in her room to ensure that she becomes comfy in there from day 1, we also have an angelmat system installed with camera and sound too.

We won't be doing slings and the like, DH and I will possibly be going back to work within 6 weeks and I work long hours in the City so as awful as it sounds - I can't have her getting used to being clung to me.

Different things will work for everyone though, and we are aware that our plans may not work for us, but if we don't try we won't know

Helbel82 · 29/01/2017 11:33

I'm 33 weeks and we are currently doing the nursery. We have luckily been given some money by family to do it and so thought it would be good to get it done now rather than worry about it after having the baby when money is going to be tight. Plus we have a single bed set up in there so when the baby has outgrown the Moses basket I'll be putting them in the cot and sleeping in there with them to save on having to buy cribs etc.. just personal preference.
At the end of the day it's what is going to work for you that matters. It's your home and situation and I do believe it's about trying these things out. I personally like to be organised and would like everything like this done by the time I go on maternity leave so that I can rest and not worry about it before baby is here.

Helbel82 · 29/01/2017 11:35

That should read I'll be sleeping in the single bed and baby would be in the cot, not baby sleeping in the bed

MumBeth · 29/01/2017 12:03

We hit the sales and bought what we needed when I was 10 weeks (we already had an early scan). But we said we would only buy stuff if it was in the sale and we needed it. So slowly we started gathering stuff and really shopping around to get the best bargains.

RasperryInAMelon · 29/01/2017 12:04

Beth we did the same, had already bought all the furniture and pushchair between 12-15 weeks because things were in the. Christmas sales!

girlelephant · 29/01/2017 12:08

We started on the nursery when I was about 4/5 months pregnant. I loved this as part of my nesting and liked that we could begin putting things away when people began giving us gifts and as we purchased things.

My DS is under 6 months so still sleeps in our room but I take him through regularly as some of his toys/books are there and it's a lovely relaxing room where we kept his nursing chair. His nursery is in the room next to our bedroom so we did all the night-feeds in there once my DH was back to work so the other one could get a sleep

YokoUhOh · 29/01/2017 12:11

DS2 doesn't have a nursery (8 months). DS1 is 4 years old and prefers my room... Needless to say we have a super king size bed and a sidecar cot!!

YokoUhOh · 29/01/2017 12:13

PS your baby won't have read Gina Ford and might be a Velcro baby like my two, in which case you'll probably be making 3am sling purchases

YokoUhOh · 29/01/2017 12:14

(Was talking to raspberry in that last post!)

RasperryInAMelon · 29/01/2017 12:19

Yoko she won't have much choice. I could be going back to work within 6 weeks so she'll be with a childminder or in nursery.

RasperryInAMelon · 29/01/2017 12:22

I also don't think IMOO that it's healthy for a four year old or for your relationship with DP to have your kids in your room all the time.

When do you get time for the two of you?

likeacrow · 29/01/2017 12:28

I'm 35 weeks and the nursery is pretty much there in terms of stickers on wall, wardrobe and drawers full of baby clothes. The plan is to have baby sleeping in our room until she grows out of her moses basket then she'll sleep in her cot in the nursery, but like sniffftest said, it's nice to have a room to store all her things and we will spend time in there with her, changing her etc.

Rainatnight · 29/01/2017 12:30

Rasperry do you have any flexibility at all if things don't work out as planned? I see you say you 'could' go back after 6 weeks, so I wonder how definite it is?
You may find that she doesn't settle or you might not feel ready.

likeacrow · 29/01/2017 12:37

I think **raspberry and every other mother to be in the country has heard the advice about keeping baby in same room as parents for the first 6 months. It's her baby, her choice. I didn't get the impression she was asking for advice. You do what works for your family raspberry, I'm certain your baby will be loved and happy

YokoUhOh · 29/01/2017 12:50

raspberry we don't have much time for each other. But that's just how it has worked out with having little ones, and it's not forever, they're young for a short time. I know that most people judge me for it but I'm past caring, it works for us.

I'm sure your LO will be fine going to a childminder/nursery. Separation anxiety won't be a problem because it doesn't kick in until a few months old.

Blueskyrain · 29/01/2017 12:57

Ah the bashing of everyone who doesn't slavishly follow 'the advice' begins.

The advice changes every few years, and the research that I've read actually tends to show very little. If it's statistically significant and excludes factors such as social and economic factors, likelihood of adherence to other advice etc, then maybe listen more, but a lot of it actually means very little once you drill down into the detail.

Most people never read the research behind the advice, and yet feel able to criticise those that don't follow it.

Baby in your room, baby in a different room, it's personal preference at the end of the day.

RasperryInAMelon · 29/01/2017 12:59

Rain my DH may be being made redundant which will mean financially we can't afford for me to stay off, we will need both of us to be working to enable us to put some money away with the uncertainty of when he would find a new job - no not just that she may have no choice, nor may I.

It will of course be heartbreaking to leave a 6 week old, especially as this is our first - but we need money just as much as she needs her mum. It won't be a decision which has been made lightly that's for sure.

Thanks Crow as I say - not something we want to do, but at the same time I think it's important to try and establish a good routine if you can from the beginning. Like they say, you can't lay the foundations once the house is built.

As you say Yoko it works for you, DH and I are newly married and have only been together for 3 years and don't want to give up each other if we don't have to and have something that works for us to be able to still have our own time and space.

likeacrow · 29/01/2017 13:04

Love your post blueskyrain, I need to remember this when I start feeling anxious about all the advice!

Rainatnight · 29/01/2017 13:34

I'm sorry to hear that, Rasperry, that must be stressful. Fingers crossed he gets good news

AmyG87 · 29/01/2017 17:11

I'm 26 weeks & the nursery is almost all set up. The baby will be in a Moses basket (if it will sleep in it), for the first 6 months but I plan to do the night feeds & changing nappies in the nursery so that the baby can get used to its own room :-)

I know it's early to set up but I am super organised so wanted to get it sorted. We've also bought quite a lot of things in the January sales.

As this is my first, I am really excited about it all but that suits me to have it sorted x

Sparklyuggs · 29/01/2017 17:21

Raspberry that wallpaper is lovely! Where did you get your furniture from if you don't mind me asking?

Not sure when to do ours, not due until July so have ages but was hoping to be opportunistic about buying second hand dresser and cot (new mattress before anyone tells me). Baby will be in with me for the first six months but if we don't change the room before he comes then the spare bed gives our relatives ideas about staying, so if it's a nursery they have to stay in the b&b up the road.

Any advice on how to decorate in a rented property? Landlord won't even let us put up pictures but we're tempted to flount this.

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