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Push Present?!

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GTS · 07/01/2017 16:45

Apparently this is a 'thing' now. Did your partners buy you a present for having their child?
On baby number three now and didn't get one for the first two....think I might need to request a triple value push present?!

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meditrina · 07/01/2017 18:07

The newfangled name is hideous.

But giving an eternity ring to mark the birth of the first child is something that's been fairly widely done for yonks.

If rich, then earrings, pendant/necklace to match for subsequent children but that was always lesser than marking a rite of passage to maternity.

CocoLoco87 · 07/01/2017 18:11

Ring for DC1 with birthstone in it. Naice watch for DC2. Planning what to have for DC3

thecatsarecrazy · 07/01/2017 18:13

I would just be happy with help doing night feeds and nappies

Ilovecaindingle · 07/01/2017 18:13

My ex bought me a sack of potatoes when I had dd.

Mil bought me a non stick frying pan.

Divorced him and never looked back....

sj257 · 07/01/2017 18:16

Nope, due DC3 any day

Whatsername17 · 07/01/2017 18:22

Dh read about this when I was pregnant with dd and surprised me with a certificate for a full body massage. Really sweet, but I couldn't stand the thought of a stranger massaging my post partum bod! By the time I was ready the company had gone out of business! I'm currently 38+1 and dh came home with a coffee maker and said he thought I might need it in the next few weeks. Id been moaning about how much I missed coffee! I wouldn't say 'push present' and I certainly didn't ask for or expect anything but it is nice to be given an unexpected gift!

kel12345 · 07/01/2017 18:24

I didn't want a present. Dh got a bear for the baby, and I got a beautiful bouquet I roses, but I wouldn't expect anything.

Christmasbaby16 · 07/01/2017 18:38

@capricon - surely a healthy baby and mother at the end is all that matters - what a shame for you DP to be made to feel as though he owes you something on top of that

Strokethefurrywall · 07/01/2017 19:28

Oh pipe down Christmas for goodness sake.

Yes of course the main thing is that the mother and baby are healthy, but it's no different from a husband buying a bunch of flowers or delivery of the mums favorite meal when she comes home from hospital.
All are tokens of appreciation, just in totally different price ranges!!

When you've been through pregnancy and childbirth, I don't think it's at all unreasonable to expect a token of appreciation, be it a bunch of flowers or a diamond ring (depending on budget).

LauraK1987 · 07/01/2017 19:51

Both my best friends got "push presents" with their children, these included a Gucci ring, a Gucci change bag and pandora bracelet/charms....when I (half) jokingly mentioned these to my bf he looked at me in all seriousness and said "well technically you didn't push did you" (I had emergency section) so that was the end of that coversation 😂! 5years later I'm 14+4 with our second and I'm not holding my breath haha!

kmini · 07/01/2017 19:52

It's lovely thought if funds permit at the time. DH bought me diamond and sapphire earrings to match my engagement ring. I treasure them and they'll always remind of those early days with our DS. This time round, it will be smaller!

Surreyblah · 07/01/2017 19:55

I made DH buy me posh flowers a few days after I got home!

HeCantBeSerious · 07/01/2017 20:08

DH wanted to buy me an eternity ring, but there wasn't much point given neither of us wears a wedding ring.

So he bought me a kitchenaid instead. It gets used every day.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 07/01/2017 20:14

Ugh I would never use the ugly term push present but DH gave me a ruby dinner ring for DD1 and an emerald / diamond eternity ring for DD2 (emerald is her birthstone). Both girls will inherit their respective rings when the time comes. I never expected to get anything but DH is great with presents and always spoils me.... it was his idea and a lovely surprise each time.

Stormcloud10 · 07/01/2017 21:34

I got a horse. Which sounds totally posh and over the top but he was a 3 year old mental ex racehorse straight off the racetrack that I'd been going on about for ages (I have horses, it wasn't totally random and he cost a lot less than jewellery or a handbag lol) unfortunately unsuspecting and not horsey DH thought they had the same lifespan as a dog or cat and was horrified when I got him home and told him he would probably be around for the next 30+ years

Nishky · 07/01/2017 21:39

No present but a bunch of flowers with a card written as if my dc was writing it.

Sounds a right pile of wank now I have written it down, but I was really touched and still have the card 15 years later.

SerialReJoiner · 07/01/2017 21:41

Commercialism claptrap.

Hulababy · 07/01/2017 21:44

Dh did buy me a gift but this was 14 and a bit years ago and wasn't a planned thing. He was just so excited and happy, went into town on the way to the hospital and bought a coming home from hospital outfit for Dd and bought me a lovely bangle. I still wear it for evenings out now, it's beautiful. It wasn't planned. It wasn't because it was expected or anything either. It was very much spur of the moment.

Hulababy · 07/01/2017 21:47

It certainly wasn't a push present ether - horrid term. I didn't do the push but anyway - 50+ hours after a failed induction and hours of pain and sickness it was all over with a quick op.

It was purely an expression of love and nothing to do with the expectation and meeting social media demands.

Only1scoop · 07/01/2017 21:48

Ugh Vile term

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GTS · 07/01/2017 21:52

you got a freakin' HORSE stormcloud?!!! I love that! It made me nearly choke on my tea..bless him he didn't realise it would be around longer than your actual child!
Yeah the name 'push present' is pretty vile tbh. But I like that there is some kind of appreciation in whatever form. Even if it's just a heartfelt 'thank you for being so incredible' and a well deserved cup of tea.
Doesn't sound wank at all Nishky, the fact it meant so much and you were so touched by it is all that matters IMO.

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carrotcakecupcake · 07/01/2017 21:54

Another one here who hates the term, but DH did get me a gift following the birth of our first child - a simple necklace with DSs first initial that I wear all the time.

LastGirlOnTheLeft · 07/01/2017 21:54

I hate this term. It implies women are so shallow that we need and desire material goods for absolutely everything we do, even having a baby who surely should be enough!! We have a glorious baby, yet we expect a gift to make It worthwhile? I just do not get it at al!!

If men want to show gratitude and appreciation of their partners for going through the pain and stress of childbirth, then I can think of better ways to show it than buying some trinket.

Want2bSupermum · 07/01/2017 21:55

DH got my a gift after each birth. I think it's a nice way to recognize that you have been through nine months of hell which cumulated in 22 hours of hell followed by a CS for me.

Hulababy · 07/01/2017 21:57

Tbf lastgirl DH also showed his appreciation in doing his share of looking after our Dd when she was small, even after he returned to work and even now that she's a 14y teen he still does his equal bit in bringing our child. Him having bought me a gift didn't prevent his total support as well.

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