Do you or your midwife make a big deal on the weight you put on while you are pregnant ?

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Midwife asked my weight when I had bloods done, that was it.
To be honest, I have been the worrier more than midwife, as my BMI was 30 when I became pregnant. She tells me not to worry about my weight - so long as I don't suddenly have a huge increase along with increased blood pressure or fluid retention. I have put on 7lb in 27 weeks, and if this pregnancy follows the pattern to my first, I will probably put on about 14lb total.

No alcohol and smaller portions have helped enormously.

Although chocolate and cake probably haven't!

Although somewhat biased in places, this webite is an eye-opener about weight and pregnancy.

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I was weighed at my booking in appt and that was it. I was slightly overweight then but piled on a further 4 stone . A lot of that was fluid though, my hands and feet swelled up sommat chronic, My midwife kept an eye on the swelling but never said anything about the weight gain (I never saw a doctor). DD was a healthy 7lb12 - bang on the 50th centile - so I don't think my weight gain had any effect on her size at all.

Dont feel pressured, they are actually doing this for your own benefit. I wish my MW pressured me more as this can be life threatening if you put on too much weight.

I was weighed at 16 weeks when i transfered from NHS to private care (having being weighed by my GP when i told him i was pregnant)I was a slightly heavy for my 5ft 5 height 66kg.

So there I am in the waiting room at this private doctors and the nurse asks me to jump on the scales so she could weigh me... So on i get and she immediately says, no no no that must be wrong, try again. so i get off the scales, wait for them to reset and hop on again. AGAIN she says no, that cant be right that is WAY TOO HEAVY. I could have died..... (I am sure i heard a size 6 slip of a thing with a basketball stuffed down her top sniggering - yes i am jealous!! )3rd time lucky, when she realised the scales werent broken, went bright red when she saw that yes i really did weigh all of 74kg!!!!
I wouldnt have minded but i dont think i am as huge as she made me feel Ok i put on a lot of weight in my first trimester eating flakes, of all things, but i am being very good now, and if anything paranoid to put anything in my mouth!!!

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They never mentioned it and I was never weighed once. I put on 3 stone and 2 stone was in the last 8 weeks. It has been incredibly difficult to lose the extra weight and because I have a small frame it has been really noticeable. Next time I will be a lot more careful.

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Summerfruit: don't do it to yourself!

Promise yourself now that you won't weigh yourself again until at least 3 months after the birth.

Then have a Cream Egg.

Blimey Bertieboo, I weigh that as a starting weight, so I wouldn't worry

I wasn't weighed at all during my last pregnancy, in fact I think it's now thought to be unncessary.

ISTR reading some research which suggested a link between maternal weight gain in the first trimester and the baby's weight. I was delighted by this as I didn't put anything on for the first 4 or 5 months with ds3 and only about 1 1/2 stone overall so I thought he'd be a tiddler, unlike the first 3. How wrong I was - he was 10lb 13oz

I'm only 5ft 2" and I put on 4stone during preg!!! I had lots of commments about how big I was which I didn't mind too much but did not like the 'helpful' one from boss when I had gained two stone of 'oh your baby isn't that heavy you know' (she can talk - she's fat and NOT preg!!!!)

When DS was born and they announced he was 7lb 2.5oz I turned to hubby and said oh christ I've got nearly 3.5st to lose then!!!

I live in Japan and here they are obsessed with weight during pregnancy.
The doctors tell you to gain 15-22lbs. (I'm skinny so was told 27lbs would be ok)
Here you get weighed each month and doctors can be quite strict if they think you're gaining too much too quickly.
They don't say this because it affects the weight of the baby, but because being overweight leads to more difficult births. That pattern does seem to fit with my friends' experiences.
In the end I only gained 15lbs, but that wasn't because I wasn't eating. DD popped out in 4 hours weighing 7.2lbs and I'd lost the rest within 2 weeks.

My MW never ever weighed me, or commented on my weight. She was very overweight herself and I wondered if this was why she didn't talk about it, but then decided that it was just because there was nothing to say on the issue.

In my first pregnanct I was weighed at every midwife appointment.

With my 2nd pregnancy I was weighed at my booking in appointment and that was it, although I used to ask the Gp to weigh me when I went for my check ups because I was curious to see how much weight I was gaining, I was careful not to over eat but certainly didn't try not to gain any weight.

I was told that they don't weigh at every appointment now because pregnant women were getting obsessed about gaining too much weight.

I gained 35 pounds, going from 112 (8 st) to 147 (10.5st). I had a tiny less than 6 pounds baby. I lost 9 pounds with the birth. Then over the next two weeks, I lost another 16 without in any way changing my routine, exercising, eating less - I had a c-section. I plateaued at about 3 weeks, and have not lost a single pound less, so I now weigh 122, 8st 10, at 5'2".

Here's the thing. I was warned several times about my weight gain being too much. I had very bad morning sickness, and if I wasn't eating olive oil baked breadsticks all day, or some other crispy thing, I puked or wanted to puke, and so I just gained and gained. And now I weigh 10 pounds more, my baby is 11 weeks old.

Big deal. I had a BMI of 20.85, now I have a BMI of 22.7. If I could be arsed, I could diet. By the end of summer, I'll be walking further, doing more exercise - the weather here is horrible, and I'm a bit snowed under with work and baby work and don't get out much. I expect to lose about another half stone with no effort, maybe it'll take a bit more effort to lose the last few pounds. So yes, I would agree, it shouldn't be an obsession. I've got a perfectly healthy BMI now, I look a bit chubby, but hey, I had a baby less than 3 months ago. I think it was kind of unbelievable that I was being scolded for gaining too fast.

I was 22 and a size 8 in clothes, 5ft 8 1/2, 8 stone looked anorexic lol within 4 months of falling pregnant i was a size 16, 14 stone and looking like a healthy human again lolol. By the time i was 8 months pregnant i was wearing size 24 clothes ARGHHHHHHH but had a tiny baby of 6lb 7oz and that was full term. My sis on the other hand was a size 16 followed strict rules of what a pregnant woman should or shouldn't eat stayed only up to an 18 and had a 7lb 14 1/2oz baby. I think the mums natural build adds to wieght gain or not. I was underweight and gained a lot, my sis was the right weight and didn't gain much at all.....

i was only weighed at my first meeting with midwife. all she said was- you don't need to eat for two, it's more important to be healthy, because it's not good to be very heavy during / after pregnancy. i put on 2 stone, and have lost 1 and half stone, but i'm pregnant again - so stuff that last 7lbs!

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I live in Austalia and my obstetrician didn't weigh me once. He just warned me not to go crazy because it would be hard to lose excess weight afterwards! I must admit both times it took me 2 months to get back to prepregnancy weight and that was still eating a cake a day (for the breastfeeding of course!)

2 months! Very impressed. I take the "9 months on, 9 months off" approach and so was pleased to get back to pre-baby weight after a year of not really trying.
Pregnant again - not weighed once by midwife (mw led hb again here!) and feeeling fatter - but also aware that I'm not eating as healthily as I'd liek to/normally do (it's just EASIER to buy chocolate in an emergency!)
Hoping against hope that being a SAHM with this baby & ds will mean more physical activity & a return to 'me-size' a little quicker though.

had hyperemesis for first 4 months and managed to lose 1.5 stones (had to be weighed at the hospital!) but did not weigh myself for the rest of my pg and i am sure i put on at least 3 stone, didn't stop eating as soon as i had stopped throwing up!
My ds is 3 months now and i know i don't fit into all my old clothes yet but dont want to start stressing about my weight til after i have stopped bf so won'y weigh myself til then!

I feel very reassured reading this thread! I went from 8 1/2 stone to over 11 1/2 stone and was huge but mostly my bump! despite this, my dd was 7lb 2; when my waters were broken, everyone was swamped. dd is now nearly 6 months and i have about 5 pounds to lose once i stop bf. I really enjoyed those carefree months of eating exactly what i fancied.
to those being hassled about their weight.

Think they only monitor your weight if at the first midwife appointment you are either very underweight or very overweight.

This time round I was underweight for my height at the first appointment. The midwife said I would have to be referred to the eating clinic where I would be regularly weighed and advised on healthy eating !(presumably the same would happen if you were overweight).

I managed to talk her out of it saying I was healthy and she had a good look and agreed. Haven't been weighed since which I believe is normal unless they had concerns.

Both my pregnancies followed the same patern- lost weight at first, put on a tiny bit by 20wks, then really piled it on in the last 20. Put on 2 stone with my dd (7lb13.5oz) and only 1.5 stone with ds (9lb3oz)which didnt make much sense to me!! (probably chasing around after my dd I suppose, fell preg again before she was crawling- gulp) Was weighed once with both pregancies- at the booking appointment and then not again. Isn't it strange how everyones experiences vary.