Are we crazy having three?

[99redballoons]

It was a big decision for us as we're very comfortable with two and weren't quite sure if we could afford three, but we just couldn't help ourselves and thought we'd just go for it and see if it happened. We thought six months of trying and we'll accept whatever happens. Low and behold we're pregnant the first time of trying (this has never happened before for us, usually atleast 7 months!). So we were surprised but pleasantly so.

Everyone we encounter seems to say "was it planned"..."are you surprised"..."how do you feel about three"... And no-one has just said "how lovely for you".

Is having three really such a brave (?) thing to do? Will having three really change our lives that much? (must admit the money side of it does worry me, but money isn't everything right?!) With all these comments I'm starting to feel like, what have we done?? Was it really the right thing to do? Reassuring comments needed

completely insane - and you chose to be in this position?

nutter

however congrats - hope all goes well - joy of joys and all that - but you did ask

PS: I assume you already have one of each - if you didn't, people would be asking 'I expect you are hoping for a boy/girl then?', not 'was it planned'. Believe me, being asked that question is the most annoying thing ever!

Enjoy your pregnancy

To answer sonnie's question, my upset at being asked 'oh, so you're desperate for a girl then' was the implication that I was in someway feeling short changed by having 2 boys, which was completely untrue, and as if it was the only possible reason for wanting a third. My BF had the same thing when she was pg with her third and had 2 boys. I also know mums of 3 of the same sex who had people coming up to them comiserating, of all things when the thrid was another boy/girl, on this assumption alone (as if anyone could be disappointed with a healthy baby...)

Ruby -- I'm laughing out loud over the university comment. So true. I was thinking the same.

If we have no. 3, I'm just planning that chaos (our life today) plus more chaos (adding baby) can only equate to a different form of chaos. Louder? Yes. Busier? yes. But it's already loud and busy here. Bring it on!

The withdrawal method seems to be a reliable method of contraception for me I've been waiting for a whoopsadaisy baby for five years.
I'm dying for number 3 and dh won't hear of it.
Congratulations 99redballoons.

hi im now pg with no.3 [possible 3+4!!] i cant wait i already have 2 girls wo are 5 and nearly 2 and cant wait for the baby. Everyone keeps saying oh i bet you want az boy now but i will be more than happy if i have another girl. I have always planned on having at least 3 children i think you can always stretch the money and there is always plenty of love for free!

Rather strangely, it seems on reading this thread, I don't think anyone has ever commiserated with me on having 3 girls, or suggested I might have wanted a boy.

Can only conclude that I am emitting ultra-strong feminist man-hating vibes, so it it apparent to even casual observers that I'm aiming for an all-female world takeover

we had 3, we both decided 2 was easy, we didnt want it easy. dont worry about what comments people make. i am sure they make coments on the 4th and 5th!, unles they have large families themselves. someone said oh 3 isnt much different than 2 is it, and i believed her, more fool me, but like i say, we didnt want it easy!
it's good to have somethign to moan about too, family tickets, family holidays, blah, blah

I'm in a real quandry. I thought we were finished and all happy but this week I've been in tears cos I want another!
Just can't decide.