How pregnant should I consider myself?

[Johno85]

Hello. It feels a little surreal to be writing in the pregnancy forum; after 10 months of ttc I got my bfp this week ! Ironically I was waiting for blood test results to see if I was ovulating and we had recently received "sub-optimal" sperm analysis results.

My cycles have been irregular during ttc, thankfully shortening more recently. My last cycle before bfp was 31 days.

Now I understand the whole concept that to start off your pregnancy is counted from day1 of AF (for me this was 30th sept),however I ov a bit later than normal and fertility friend puts my ov at cd19 which was 18th oct.

If I go from cycle day one I'm technically 5 weeks pregnant, however if I go by aprox conception I'm only 4 weeks and 2 days.

I'm not too worried about how far along the GP and midwife go by, but what I'm trying to understand is how far along should I consider myself in terms of symptoms and how my little cub is progressing?

Any words of wisdom would be greatly reciebeived.

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Congratulations!
When you see the midwife she'll date your pregnancy from your last period and then at your scan they'll date it from the size of the baby and that's the date they'll use.
If I was you I'd consider myself 4/5 weeks.

Go by your period. Congratulations! Wonderful news !

Congratulations- I think I is always measured from day 1 of AF.

With regard to symptoms though, there is no common pattern so what one woman experiences at 5 weeks, many won't.

Due date They always do from the first day of your last period. That's what Midwife's/doctors go by etc. But officially you are less as officially it is the date of conception, which will normally be around 2 weeks after missed period, but in your case could be slightly longer given your non regular/slightly longer cycles. If you download the pregnancy apps, it explains why the professionals go by date of last period and tells you day by day official baby growth from conception dates. Hope this makes sense?

Digital clear blue is good for letting you know - as this tells you how many weeks since conception based on how much hormone there is. Congratulations!

Wow, talk about quick responses ladies! Thanks so much for all your replies. I downloaded an app and it gave me the choice of working out due date by af or ov but wasn't sure which one to follow. I did a CB digi this week (as I could justify the price after 2 cheap bfp!) and it said 2-3 weeks on there. I am kind of hoping that it means they'll schedule me for a scan before Christmas! Just trying to stop worrying and keep calm over the nex few weeks. Who knew you'd spend so long stressing ttc and when you do that's equally as worrying!

Thanks for all the congrats x

I found when I used an app I put in the date of my last period, then it auto filled the conception, which was bang on accurate too! So conception or date of last period you will get the same result of how far gone officially you are.
N hey ho course we're gunna reply fast, eager to help! As when u find out your pregnant you want help/answers fast. You don't want to be in limbo with it all. Plus good news always brightens days :-)

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I used the apps 'pregnancy+' and 'what to expect' I liked those and found them really interesting/helpful and easy to use and look around on.

Yep - go with first day of last period until the 12 week scan, when you will be given a more 'official' due date based on the size of the baby (which will of course reflect late ovulation!). Congratulations!!

With both of my pregnancies, I have insisted on being dated from my approx ovulation date as I have really irregular cycles. I temp though so had a pretty good idea of when it occurred! If you have a normal-ish cycle, go with the usual estimation. Congrats!!

Don't know if it's already been suggested. But when I was pregnant I went to pregnology.com which tells you exactly how pregnant you are.

Right I have my to do list of things to look at now lol 😂 Just putting one foot in front of the other until I get to the scan! Eeeeek!

Well, in answer to your op you can consider yourself completely pregnant! Congratulations! With regard to symptoms and progression a few days either way is too shorter time to really make a difference! Some symptoms you might get, some you won't.

Congratulations! At this stage you will be dates from 30th Sept regardless of when you calculate ovulation to be. Therefore your 12 week scan will be due almost bang on Christmas. At this scan they will adjust your due date (sometimes a week or more each way) and that will be the dates you work with for your whole pregnancy. If you can afford to (75 pound approx) you could book a private scan for around 7-8 weeks (So about 2-3 weeks time ) to get an idea of dates and check everything is looking as it should. You'll still be dates officially at your 12 week NHS scan. Dont have a private scan before 7 weeks though, as tempting as it is, because it can sometimes cause more stress if its hard for them to see things due to the miniscule size.

Thanks desmond for the info about the private scan. You're spot on, they do them locally for £75. I'll discuss it will dh and see what he says then maybe call to see when they suggest to go in. Just trying to keep positive and smiling!

I really like Ovia Pregnancy app, I used the Fertility one when ttc and bother great. Free, helpful, friendly, loads of little insights.

Super congratulations, what lovely news OP.

Has anyone here had an early scan and if they did, did it help with the nerves?

Ah johno!!!! I cannot believe it! So happy I clicked this thread to see you got a BFP!!!! Congrats lovely, I know it's been a long time coming. I had an early scan on Monday (dp wanted it because of the previous mc and I wasn't really keen) but I'm so glad no that we did, it's really helped my nerves and now only 3 weeks to go til the next scan so doesn't feel like forever waiting to find out if everything is ok.

Aww congratulations lovely
My last period started 30th sept too, I've worked out an approx due date of 7th July. This will probably change though when I have my scan xx

I knew that I had had a long cycle too. Even though I explained to doctor, the hospital would only go by date of period so gave me a date for first scan that I knew to only be 10 weeks, which was too early to do the screening measurements, so had to go back for a rescan 2 weeks later. Quite annoying and waste of resources. Due date was put back by a couple of weeks once they had done the scan.

moonlight congrats to you my lovely! Had started losing the will to live with ttc so slipped into the background on the ttc thread. How far along are you now? Glad your scan went well- I've just booked us in for 26th Nov which will be 8 weeks.

bump I think I'll be in the same boat as you- even though I'm all for more scans I'm not sure work will be too pleased about needing more time off especially as I work in healthcare myself.

littlemiss we technically have the same due date then! However if I go by ov it's technically a few days later.

Feeling much more relaxed now I've booked the early scan- 3 weeks wait is much more bearable 😊

Thanks :D! I was wondering about you and if all was ok. I'm 9+5 today going by the scan on Monday (they put me 4 days ahead of where I thought even though I was doing bbt so I know ov date exactly so don't worry about a few days either side anyway!) Glad you've decided to book one, keep us updated

My midwife dated me from first day of my period but with a 35 day cycle as that's what I had been having. When I went for the dating scan she was right.

There is a secret Facebook group with about 30 of us in (so far) all due in July.
It's lovely to share pregnancy experiences and get to know people a little better if anyone wants to join?! xx