How old is too old to be a mum?

[Naisie]

Hi, I'm interested in honest opinions on how old is too old to have a child.

I'm 46 and my DH is 47, we don't have children as I can't. We did IVF when I was in my 30's. We never used donated eggs and stopped when the money ran out. We both really wanted kids but got used to the fact that it wasn't meant to be.

We now have the money to try again, which would be IVF with donor eggs.

My problem is I really can't get my head around my age! I'm fit and healthy and right now could cope with a baby. So it's more that I keep thinking about being 60 when the child is 13, which just feels wrong.

So I'm wondering if there are other older parents on here that can give me an honest opinion on whether if they could have seen into the future before having kids in their late 40's would they have chosen differently.

There are lots of older mums around now. I was really surprised when my friend told me she was late fifties, she's 61 now, with a 17 year old and 19 year old. I'd assumed she was my age when I first met her, mid forties. But her mother is in her 90's and maybe she will also live to a healthy old age.

Tbh if you still can't decide i'd leave it
Sounds like you've decided not to

I know lots of childfree women with good jobs and happy lives. I'd embrace it 100% if I was childfree. Enjoy your life. 25% of women in their 50s are childfree now. Embrace it