possibly pregnant, what do I do?

[thecolonelbumminganugget]

Hello,

What I'm about to post is going to make me sound like a numpty so apologies for that in advance

There is a possibility I might be pregnant which would be bad timing but overall after initial shock wore off would be good news. We'd decided to start trying next year but recently haven't been as cautious as we should have been. (Looking at the calendar in hindsight, 4 instances of not taking proper precautions, over the day 14 and 15 of my 28 day cycle).

Two questions: it's still too early to get a positive test but this week I've had light cramps, hot and cold flushes and have constantly had that feeling of about to be sick. this may be totally unrelated and my paranoia is putting 2 and 2 together but to those of you who knew you were pregnant before you could do a test, how did you know, what were the signs?

Also, what should i do? I have to wait another week to take a test that'll even have a chance of being accurate, do I just live life normally for the next week? What would you do?

Anyway, I think it more likely that I'm not pregnant and I've just been a bit under the weather but because of the couple of contraception lapses my brain has jumped to the wrong conclusion. But on the remote possibilty it isnt that and i am pregnant what should i do before i can confirm it either way?

TBH there's not much you can do, other than distract yourself whilst you wait it out! As you've said it wouldn't be the end of the world, then I would take the same precautions you would take if you were pregnant. So, stop drinking and smoking, check out the NHS advice on what foods to avoid and start taking a folic acid and Vit D supplement.

All of this is good advice to prepare your body for pregnancy in any event, so good to have on your radar for next year. In particular, they advise starting to take folic acid several months before you start ttc if you can and also to cut down on alcohol (but don't panic if you haven't! Babies are robust). Good luck. Hope you get the outcome you want.

TBH there's not much you can do, other than distract yourself whilst you wait it out! As you've said it wouldn't be the end of the world, then I would take the same precautions you would take if you were pregnant. So, stop drinking and smoking, check out the NHS advice on what foods to avoid and start taking a folic acid and Vit D supplement.

All of this is good advice to prepare your body for pregnancy in any event, so good to have on your radar for next year. In particular, they advise starting to take folic acid several months before you start ttc if you can and also to cut down on alcohol (but don't panic if you haven't! Babies are robust). Good luck. Hope you get the outcome you want.

Also, try to not pay too much attention to "signs". Lots of the symptoms of pregnancy are the same as the ones you get just before you come on your period. And your mind can play silly tricks. Honestly, you can end up driving yourself mad, so just try to focus on something else until you can POAS and get a definitive answer. Easier said than done, I know!

Thank you! I'll sit tight and steer clear of the pub. (And try not to drive myself mad second guessing).

I think you can risk a few drinks tbh, if you are pregnant it won't be sharing a blood supply with you for a while. Most people tend to carry on with life in the time between conception and a positive test, you'd drive yourself mad if you didn't.