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Stillbirth last year and now no heartbeat at 6.6 scan

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HomeIsWhereTheGinisNow · 25/08/2016 23:33

I suppose the title says it all really. It seems terribly unfair that this should be happening after what we went through last year.

I know that we're pretty doomed - the gestational sac is measuring five weeks and I was 6.6 when the scan was taken (used cbfm so I know when I ovulated). But as I've nothing better to do until my confirmation scan next week I thought I'd fish about for any stories of people with no heartbeat around seven weeks that ended up having a baby?

I am so very very tired.

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cantmakeme · 25/08/2016 23:38

I have read LOADS of stories like that, it seems to be very common for the heartbeat to be found later.

So sorry about the loss of your child last year.

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HomeIsWhereTheGinisNow · 25/08/2016 23:46

Thank you cantmakeme, I have been searching mn but can't find many that appear to be first hand experiences so thought I'd see if anyone wanted to share...

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INeedNewShoes · 25/08/2016 23:49

sorry that you have had such a horrendous time

Yep, there are definitely plenty of stories of no heartbeat at 6 weeks and then a couple of weeks later all fine and dandy.

All you can do is keep yourself distracted as much as is possible until your next scan.

Lilybensmum1 · 25/08/2016 23:57

home I'm so sorry you find yourself in this situation, like op said you will find positive and negative stories, as a nurse I have seen both sides some pregnancies go on to be viable sadly others don't.

Try not to keep searching and going over what might happen, I know after your stillbirth it must be really killing you to be in this limbo but you are only stressing yourself.

Be kind to yourself

Mumoftwoyoungkids · 26/08/2016 00:10

So sorry that this has happened.

FWIW - and I don't want to get your hopes up unfairly but my 6+6 and no heartbeat is now a very very noisy three year old boy.

I really hope you get the same answer.

LolaStarr · 26/08/2016 10:21

Can't give any advice, just wanted to say I'm so so sorry for what you've been through and I'm keeping everything crossed for you

DaniAlvez · 26/08/2016 11:17

What an awful time for you. If it gives any hope at all, I was in a similar situation and now have DD to show for it. I had a late loss at 5.5 months. Safely delivered DS and then tried our luck for number 3. I used the Persona ovulation monitor so was sure of my dates. Went for the 6 week scan and nothing. No heartbeat and told the sac was collapsing in on itself. Went back a week later and saw strong heartbeat and sac measuring correct for dates.

The first sonographer was so sure it wasn't going to end well but told me they had to have me back for a confirmation scan because every now and then, there is a good outcome. I actually asked for the drugs to induce the miscarriage at the first scan as I couldn't bear the thought of waiting a week So fingers crossed for you and I really really hope you are as lucky as I was.

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HomeIsWhereTheGinisNow · 28/08/2016 19:26

Thank you all for your kindness. So I wouldn't have thought this could get any worse but apparently it can. Had another scan last week, I should have been 7.3, measuring 6 weeks. There's a heartbeat all of a sudden but it's way too slow. They won't offer me the pills or operation as long as there's a heartbeat unless I opt for a termination which I don't want to do. So going back on Tuesday for another scan but was told I just have to wait for the poor little thing to die, but they have no idea how long it'll survive. So presumably we just spend the next few weeks (months?) having regular scans until the poor tiny baby's heart gives up. Nature seems terribly cruel to allow a pregnancy to progress if it's inevitable that it'll fail. Hopefully more news on Tuesday. I was so scared of getting pregnant again after our stillbirth, I can't quite believe this is happening.

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Pawprintz · 28/08/2016 19:30

So sorry. I've had four miscarriages and it's so traumatic.

PirateFairy45 · 28/08/2016 19:43

I'm very sorry for your loss. X

PeppasNanna · 28/08/2016 19:44

for you Op...

INeedNewShoes · 28/08/2016 19:46

Oh you poor thing. I'm so sorry.

It's awful. There's nothing else I can say. Anything said to try and seek out positives will just sound terribly trite to you at the moment.

The only thing I can say is that you will get through this. You've got through worse. Allow yourself time to grieve and look after yourself

IvysMum12 · 28/08/2016 19:54

Dear OP,
I had 4 early miscarriages in my very late 30's. My 2 healthy ds are now 26 and 28. I found out on my 40th birthday that youngest ds was on the way. Totally normal pregnancies. Please take care of yourself and give yourself lots of treats if you can- you deserve it! I do hope I have given you some comfort.
xx

maisybobbins · 28/08/2016 20:15

Just want to give you a hug and lots of strength to get through the next few weeks.

whirlygirly · 28/08/2016 20:18

Oh god, that's cruel op, and desperately sad. I'm so very sorry this is happening to you.

hootatoot · 28/08/2016 20:21

Couldn't read and run. So sorry

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HomeIsWhereTheGinisNow · 28/08/2016 20:29

Thank you all so much. The kindness of strangers to whom I can pour out the horrible details (I haven't told most people I'm pregnant again) is so soothing. It makes me feel less alone. Howling at the skies feels like my only option - most of our friends have no idea (and after the well-meaning insensitivity after our little girl died last year I don't intend to tell them) but I'm withering inside. I was so terrified of getting pregnant again in case this happened and now it has...

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hootatoot · 28/08/2016 20:56

Oh, home. I could cry for you. I cant imagine how difficult it must have been for you to lose your beautiful daughter, and to be suffering this blow too. You'll get through it. It will be shit, but you will. Vent, howl, scream. Do what you need to get you through, take time to grieve and don't feel that you can't. I know we're not allowed to hug on mn but I don't care, I'm sending you a massive hug

thatsnotmybear · 28/08/2016 21:24

I'm so sorry op. Same happened to me earlier this year - first scan showed an empty sac, second scan showed an embryo with a too slow heartbeat, and the third scan a week later showed no heartbeat, so it was only a matter of days after the second scan that the heart had stopped. Obviously it's not the outcome you want, but the waiting was so awful that the third conclusive scan was almost a relief, because the grieving could begin. I can't begin to imagine going through this after your late loss last year. I am very sorry

CinderellaFant · 28/08/2016 21:27

Oh home, that is heartbreaking. Life is unbelievably cruel at times. I'm so very sorry

Ilovewineandcrisps · 28/08/2016 21:30

I'm so terribly sorry, life can be so cruel

Honeybee79 · 29/08/2016 21:12

Just wanted to say that I am so sorry. How awful. Take good care of yourself.

raviolidreaming · 29/08/2016 21:37

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