Hi there, I really need some sound advice, because quite honestly I feel like I'm loosing my mind at the minute.
I am a first time Mother very eagerly waiting for my baby to appear as every other Mum to be on the planet. Since about the start of the third trimester on wards I started having really painful braxton hicks. I have been in absolute agony at home, when I've left the house, tried everything, baths, paracetamol, cocodomal, have been into the hospital/called midwives out six times now 
The only thing that helps when I'm having a episode is doing deep breathing, apparently I sound like I'm pushing when I do that, and that's not right because I'm not in labour.
Some days are better than others, some days I don't have pains at all, other days I have been screaming close to tears, just want everyone to leave me alone, and alas had my worried husband frantically rush me to the hospital/call for a midwife to come out. The pains usually come with tightenings, and the weird thing is that they're usually incredibly regular and mimic real contractions.
Yesterday was the sixth false alarm and definitely the worse I have ever been treated in the hospital. We got in, and I couldn't' talk properly cause it really hurt, I can't explain what it feels like apart from like I'm getting punched inside over and over again. About two hours after they started, I laid down on the bed and they stopped. The midwife put her hand on my bump to feel 'contractions' and of course they had just stopped so she felt no tightenings at all!! The midwife that saw me and my husband, quietly say to him that she thought I was just scared pretty much of childbirth and that's what was causing these trips to hospital 
As if I was putting the entire affair on, she wrote in my notes that I was tensing my muscles when the baby was moving and that they weren't contractions at all. She then had a chat to me explaining she knew what it was like after having three children, being so eager to meet your baby, as if I had been faking everything these last three months. She then gave us a number of an obstetrician saying if I have pains again to go to another hospital instead of the birth centre (after SIX FALSE ALARMS) (which is right round the corner from us, the hospital is about 30 mins away!) that basically I couldn't keep having false alarms at the birth centre!!!
It doesn't help that I used to have anxiety (which is in my notes) and they've wrote down that I used to be on medication for.. So she accused me yesterday of just being so scared of childbirth, that the pains were in my head. 
.I actually didn't want to go to hospital yesterday, but with my due date being today, my husband and MIL rushed me down there regardless. Usually I leave it longer than an hour to see if the pains settle down. It has been suggested that I have an irritable uterus, but have not received any treatment for this.
Basically I think now, that they've just made me out to be this neurotic heavily pregnant anxious young woman. I stopped seeing anyone for mental health well over six months ago now, I have had no need to be on meds for over a year, I have completed a full time college course at a distinction level the last nine months, run my own house, volunteer etc. I don't have anxiety anymore!
I am so horribly offended and disgusted by the midwife yesterday, my MIL wants to write in a complaint to the birth centre. The other staff there have been helpful and wonderful, but this woman was so horrifically patronizing, I felt like I was being spoke to like a child having a tantrum. Unless my waters go, I have no clue how I will no I'm going into labour, and now I feel scared to call the birth centre/hospital/anyone at all. I was actually feeling very positive about giving birth, I did a hypnobirthing class, we have everything ready for our daughter, I have lots of support behind me, not scared at all, just in pain.
I'm 40 weeks at due date today, so it can't be much longer now, does anyone have any advice?
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Six False Alarms. No baby. Ignorant Midwife?
user1467618369 · 16/07/2016 09:23
Thank you Meow. This thread definitely has some bulk now. Am going to really rest up now, Very exciting and emotional times! The sweep felt a lot more forceful than the last one- my OB did a good job. 
Hopefully things get going soon. A bit achy downstairs, I really hope this sweep works- the idea of going on a drip doesn't appeal to me at all. A bit nervous but excited to have her in our arms- seems like such a surreal concept!
Hey captainproton and Lj8893,- my baby as I found out yesterday isn't back to back or breech, is in the perfect position for birth but just doesnt seem to want to make an appearance!! Overdue 6 days now. Been getting very crampy yesterday but nothing major to go to hosp yet. My OB didn't agree with that midwife at all after seeing me yesterday- I should be able to give birth at the birth centre. I really want a water birth, and in the rooms at the birth centre, they have huge birthing pools and they put out fairy lights- to make it more relaxing! I'm really trying to stay positive, I never completed my hypnobirthing course, but the main thing I got out of it was to stay calm because the calmer I am the less the contractions will hurt. Keep loosing little bits of blood almost like a very light period, but nothing that's a cause of concern. MW is coming out tomorrow, that will be my third sweep! My little one just doesn't want to seem to come. Got told she was going to come early for ages by my OB and MW!! Fingers crossed these cramps turn into something a bit more hardcore. I really can't walk very well anymore. Thanks for replies 
Our NHS team is amazing in our location. They have extremely specialized services in our local hospital. We even got a hypnobirthing class for free! I don't think I'm getting a lot of sweeps because of being overdue but I don't know they're really trying to get this little one out.
I will continue to have sweeps according to my midwife every couple of days until the induction. Seeing a consultant under our clinic is very routine, its all part of the birth centre. very lucky to have such amazing care, makes me feel so confident. In our birth centre as well, your partner and whoever can stay with you overnight (no rules about visitors like on other maternity wards) They're really highly rated, which is why I was so shocked at the MW I saw last week.
Also I've had some minor complications in this pregnancy, I had very high fluid levels which required more growth scans- we must have had about 10 scans! Tested for gestational diabetes, luckily was all clear. Luckily my fluid levels settled in the third trimester. Also got diagnosed with anemia, had to have an iron infusion.. which settled that. And then of course all these horrible braxton hicks/false alarms- I think they think I have an irritable uterus but have never been officially diagnosed. (Think they're running out of room in my yellow book 
)I haven't been on bed rest, but I've been close enough to it. Had to take time off college really early compared to what I would take off working because of all of these complications. DH and MIL have been there through it all with me, very lucky for the support. Going to go round MILs house today and meet BILs partners' newborn. Getting there slowly. Woke up to some very period like cramps this morning and mild tightenings but again, unfortunately nothing major yet. Will keep you lovely ladies updated-thank you for checking on me
Weirdly I didn't hold the newborn. I'm not sure what overcame me today, been very hormonal and stuff all day. Had a massive cry earlier wondering if I was going to be a good Mum. I think a lot of it was tiredness from being overdue and the heat though. I haven't had any of these feelings since I first fell pregnant and after a nap feel tons better. DH was very reassuring, he was shocked I didn't hold the baby at all!! He said Ive been really weird all day- But again I think it's just my hormones and being tired. I was due my nap. Going to have a nice relaxing bath. Have cried everyday for the past week. Sometimes it's just because of how happy I am really feel all over the place. Know it's normal, BILs new baby is so adorable, she was so sweet and precious. She has lots of hair and a really strong grip for a newborn. Don't know what overcame me earlier!! err I hope our DD comes soon, fed up of all these hormones and crying episodes.
Love it...the old midwife stand by "wine and sex" lol.
Am following in wait of good news. Not much longer now OP, I know it's a long old wait when you're overdue though...been there and done that.
Alfienoisy best advice I've been given throughout my pregnancy. Thank you. I had a glass last night but DH and I got into a bit of a fight instead so the wine just made me crying: Going out to the cinema today with my mate, DH and I need some space. Thinks it's really hitting home that he's about to be a dad and is fed up of waiting as much as me and so he said some insensitive things that he shouldn't have. Will try to stay awake enough to sit in the cinema but wont be surprised if I fall asleep. Will probably come home to a very remorseful DH xx
I am literally checking in just to see if your DD is here yet or if she is still keeping you waiting.
for you either way.
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