Staying posifrickentive- Thread 10 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH5]

I've made the new thread, hope I'm not stepping on anyone's toes... just wanted to make sure we had one.

HCG levels
4w+1 = 127
5w+2 = 2653
6w+1 = 17,487
7+1 = 47,969

www.babymed.com/is-my-hcg-blood-level-normal

This appears to be in line with the table on the above link but it's only just more than doubled in a week. It does say HCG production slows down.

This is great news purple?! Are you happy?

jpeg fingers crossed its just a blip. It's very common. Lots of thoughts xxx

I keep repeating to myself 'staying neutral staying neutral' only 7+2 yet so early days still.

That's brilliant purple! Now you can book your scan at least x

Thanks girls. I don't want to get excited tbh. Trying really hard not to. Still got another 5 weeks to get through and that's only the 12 week scan but yes I am grateful all appears to be ok so far. I don't mean to sound ungrateful.

I'll phone EPU now and book a scan.

Tomorrow I see the obstetrics consultant. Can anyone help me or give any advice of things I should mention? I'm going to ask about progesterone and aspirin. I'm not sure if I said but I've come out in a similar rash to a few weeks ago. The nurse yesterday mentioned it could be pregnancy related. When I had it a few weeks ago, I will have been only a week after conception. Perhaps it's related to all the hormone changes. I'll mention that too.

The consultant I'm seeing specialises in recurrent miscarriages as well as being the obstetrics consultant. I would've seen him regardless.

You could ask about being on steroids and blood thinning injections? I'm on both, along with progesterone. There is no medical evidence to suggest I need them but my consultant says steroids increases the blood flow to the placenta and the blood thinners, well, you know...

Also you should surely be eligible for early scans? I'm having them every two weeks under my clinic.

V pleased on your HCG. Know it feels like a long way to go. I feel the same but each day...

How are you otherwise?? You need some light in your life precious purple xxx

I've had quite a bit of spotting this time and had a scan at 6w which showed a heartbeat. They've put me on the PRISM trial which might be available in your area, and fingers crossed, i've had absolutely nothing since. Got a follow up scan this Friday when i should be 8+1 if all is well. Good luck jpeg

Great news purple!

Thank you ladies. EPU said they would offer me one early scan. I'm just wondering if I should see the obstetrician first before booking early scan through EPU.

I'm ok otherwise hopeful. Just feel a bit overwhelmed. We have family staying over so it's all very hectic. Hopefully time will pass fairly quickly.

If I were you I'd get the scan booked. If you are 7+2 it could take a week to get you a slot. Will be keeping everything crossed for you x

It's looking good Purple but I understand you being cautious with excitement.
Book the scan for next week and then speak to the doctor about getting another one in a couple of weeks time for reassurance.

Finally back from hospital - I was the last of a busy room of women to be seen, they were running over an hour late! Not that it matters really, but I am glad to be home, and hungry!

All ok as far as they can tell with the pg - MW had a listen in with the doppler and found the hb. I don't know what came over me as I am NOT a crier in front of people (massive crier alone!) but I went to bits and pretty much cried for the next 45 mins whilst she finished up/we waited for the consultant/consultant did her stuff. They were both really lovely about it and very understanding. Upshot is I am being sent for counselling/CBT with a midwife psychologist. I am officially nuts
It was really hard. All I could think as they listened in, was, I've been here before hearing a chugging heartbeat at 17 weeks, but my baby was already really sick, had stopped growing a couple of weeks before, was due to die in a couple more weeks, and yet another week later again would I actually find out. Yes it's great that the baby is still alive but I don't feel all that reassured that growth/health is on track because we just don't know that yet.

2nd attempt being made now for me to be scanned by the fetal consultant, I'm being put on his list for my anomaly scan so fingers crossed that actually happens. And then will see the consultant again a couple of weeks after that to check on my scattered marbles and hopefully arrange another scan to work towards.

purple your bloods look encouraging, I do understand the need to temper your reaction and play down the hope though I hope you can get a scan lined up for next week as the next mini goal. It helps so much to break it all down into little stages.

How are you doing jpeg?

kate I will be thinking of you tomorrow and wishing you all the best for your scan.

Blimey whatser no you are not moaning, that all sounds very scary, what a horrible shock that they had totally failed to spot/monitor any issues with your DD, thank goodness all was ok that time and I'm so glad they are on it this time. What's the protocol for treating pre eclampsia? My knowledge of it is based on the Call the Midwife books and I v much hope they have more tricks up their sleeves than in the 1950s! Have they given you any advice about how to reduce your risk/stop it getting worse? ((handhold for you))

Thanks butterfly. I'm glad you are going for counciling - it really helped me. CBT is no nonsense too. Practical and proactive rather than making you dwell on things that happened in the past and making you talk it. It suited me because I didn't want to talk about my feelings. I'm not a public crier either! The consultant just told me to pay close attention to any symptoms and try not to get too stressed. The thing is, with dd I felt fine. The midwife underplayed my bp, it was only when I got to the MAC that I realised how serious it all was. I'm not sure I trust my body anymore and that is scary. I'm going to try and be positive though.

The consultant did say that thr fact that i am a healthy weight and physically fit (sort of) is helpful so at least I can focus on eating well and gentle exercise which makes the control freak in me feel like I'm doing something.

Hello, can I join you ladies? I just got a BFP this morning at 13dpo. I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks in April. If all goes well, this one should be due about the same time next year. I feel cautiously optimistic as I've already had a much stronger positive than last time. We are on holiday at the moment and I'm tempted to get one of those clearblue with week indicators, but I know they will take blood at my first appointment anyway.

Thanks for the messages..... I'm doing ok, no more spotting but just driven 4 hours home from the Cotswolds and I had lots of cramps, still have them now. Don't know what that means I guess I have to wait and see. I was supposed to stay another day as tomorrow is my birthday but I just couldn't stay wondering so I've come back to an empty house, a curry and ice cream for company. I just keep going back and forth between being convinced it's another MC and then thinking everything will be ok. I'm only 4+4 so would this even be a Mc? Or a chemical?

Great news purple those figures look amazing... Good luck for scan, everything crossed for you.

It could be implantation jpeg. I had awful cramps for the first few weeks. Have you been checking your cervix? I'm pretty sure I irritated mine by over checking.

No i haven't... What should it feel like? Thanks x

It will feel lime a wet pair of lips. You should feel a line going down the middle that is firmly closed. It will be lower at this point. I wouldn't recommend feeling it if you've had spotting though, you are likely to trigger more which will make you worry. If the spotting has stopped and if you don't have any more in the next few days then it is implantation. Take one day at a time and try to focus on getting to the end of the day. I've been there, it is scary, shitty and completely unfair but you have all of us. Honestly, my cramps were constantly for the first few weeks. Ironically, with the baby I lost at 13 weeks there were no cramps and no bleeding. You never know for sure what any of it means.

Thanks whatser I would really love for it to all go away when I wake up tomorrow! I know it could be completely normal and all I can do is wait.

Fingers crossed for you jpeg and welcome bertie, good to see you again - I remember you from the TTC after miscarriage thread.

I had my 16 week midwife appointment today and was reassured that the midwife got the baby's heartbeat first go, as soon as she put the gadget on my stomach. Everything else also looks good, booked into ante-natal classes now which added in a welcome reality feeling. So far, so good.

Congratulations Bertie, welcome, nice to have a good mix of newbies and people 'futher along' offering hope. 5 weeks today for me, basically symptomless after some initial tender breasts, so anxious as other than postive tests I have nothing to reassure me I'm pregnant! Am going to phone midwife tomorrow to 'get in the system' so to speak, but if I don't get offered an early scan (only had 1 mc so am not sure they'll give me one) I will probably get one privately around 8 weeks. I keep thinking that last time the pregnancy ended around this time and I wandered about for another 4 weeks before finding out, thinking I was pregnant . So can't really bring myself to believe at this point. purple for you, I totally understand your caution but the levels do sound encouraging.
jpeg fingers crossed for you for no more spotting and the cramps settling down. Kate good luck with your scan tomorrow!

abutterfly glad they're sorting out help for you & hope consultant is sorted soon. When I did CBT over a decade ago we used a book called Overcoming low self esteem which is really Cheap on Amazon. I still use it now & friends I've recommended it to has really helped them.
Don't have to try it but could help bridge the gap while you're waiting.
& for anyone else dealing with issues.

Good luck tomorrow Kate!

Sorry you're spotting Jpeg, cramps can be normal around that time.

Welcome Bertie.

Hope everyone else is doing okay & haven't missed anyone!
So knackered, went to beach & only got back a hour ago. My right leg now goes dead if I sit down on the floor & can't lean over that leg.

Symptoms have faded a bit aside from massive hunger. Have definitely popped now, so hard below belly. 8 days until next scan. Trying to think positive but it is hard.