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Sex! Who's having it?

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RubixCubes · 05/06/2016 09:33

I'm now 14+3 and not even the slightest inclination to have sex. I think DP thinks this will pass as he's heard about the the second trimester horne stage 😳

In my first pregnancy (not with DP) I skipped that stage. Didn't want nor have sex for the entire pregnancy.

So... Anyone else on the celibate bus for pregnancy or are you all at it like rabbits as the bloody book the midwife gave me which DP read would have you believe?

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RubixCubes · 05/06/2016 09:33

Horny*

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0hCrepe · 05/06/2016 09:36

Same as normal for us!

socktastic · 05/06/2016 09:37

Sex? What's that? At 36 weeks I think we've dtd maybe 4 or 5 times during the entire pregnancy! I do have raunchy dreams though but when I wake up I realise a) I can't be arsed and b) the mechanics of it are just too difficult!
Maybe if in the next few weeks I want to get things stared then I may pounce

mirrorballs · 05/06/2016 09:39

My libido has plummeted, in early days I felt horrific, them once over that the tiredness hit (and hasn't gone away) and I just don't fancy it! Poor DH, he's great, not pushy but I know he's missing it. Last time we had full sex was 3 weeks ago, although I have helped him out a couple of times since then

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RubixCubes · 05/06/2016 09:45

DP is away Monday morning - Friday teatime. I work full time and DD(5) is here 7 days a week (as in no contact with ExH) and quite honestly by the time Friday comes round I'm a zombie. She has swimming on a Saturday which means up at 7am and I'm not sleeping great during the night anyway.

I think my point is. I can't be arsed with anything to do with sex. Not even a tiny twinge.

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mirrorballs · 05/06/2016 09:50

I'm 19 weeks BTW so the second trimester horn hasn't happened here!

Junosmum · 05/06/2016 10:58

3 times entire pregnancy. (once each trimester!) I got in the mood around 35 weeks but logistically it was hard and I gave birth at 38 weeks.

seven201 · 05/06/2016 11:37

Completely went off it and I'm 37.5 weeks now

thisisbloodyridiculous · 05/06/2016 13:21

I'm only 9 weeks but constantly either nauseous or exhausted so no sex here!

Fizzyjo · 05/06/2016 13:42

Im not sure if I'm the only one whose partner is freaked out about having sex. He's paranoid it will hurt the baby and even when I've said and shown research to say otherwise he said it makes he feel icky that there is a baby inside and he'll be.... (I will limit his exact wording). Anyone else haha!!

Wellthen · 05/06/2016 13:52

My libido has rocketed! But the tiredness and sickness definitely got in the way, I don't think we have had sex as much as we would have if I wasn't pregnant but I had the same libido. Solo action has seen an, ahem, increase more than anything. Blush Although DH is working away a lot as well.

If anything DH hasn't been as keen, I think he finds the bump slightly distracting.

I definitely didn't expect this and you shouldn't beat yourself up about it. Its a few months of your life, he can go without sex! Before pregnancy I wouldn't say I had a very high libido - I could happily go without. So its all relative as well.

newmummy580 · 05/06/2016 14:34

My DH is the same as yours fizzy! We haven't really had sex for months, for exactly the same reasons as you. I took it personally to start with but now I am being more sensible about it. The only thing that worries me is that post pregnancy I won't be able to have sex for ages either, for completely different reasons. It is such a long time to go without for both of usSad

FellOutOfBed2wice · 05/06/2016 14:37

I had some bleeding early on and was told not to til 12 weeks. Did it after the scan and bled loads- had to have the anti D as I'm RH neg and we decided it wasn't worth the trip to triage for the injection each time so we are off it. And I can't say I care very much. DH is being very understanding and not nagging. The occasional other activity instead but I've have HG so having a shit time anyway and he's a good guy, he wouldn't ever put any pressure on.

Pinkheart5915 · 05/06/2016 14:38

I'm 30 weeks now and sex has been same as normal for us all through pregnant about 2-3 times a week.

wigelspigels · 05/06/2016 15:01

DH gets put off a bit with a bump. DS2 is 2 weeks old and we had very little sex from 2nd trimester onwards. Was the same with DS1.
Only thing is not to take it personally, easier said than done sometimes when there is so many extra hormones.

CakeLady456 · 05/06/2016 15:20

Nearly 16 weeks here and still waiting/hoping for a horny stage!!!

Zoomtothespoon · 05/06/2016 15:22

Certainly not me! Grin

17 week and can't think of anything worse than having sex Blush

Jenjen85 · 05/06/2016 16:26

I had early bleeding and sickness/tiredness so nothing until around 18wks im currently 27+4 and i think we've had sex 4 times in toyal. The last time was last week and it was very uncomfortable for me and im not in any hurry to do it again. Feel bad for OH as he would like to but I have zero interest in it. It was the same when I was pregnant with DD but I was SO horny at around 4weeks post partum im hoping ill be the same this time round

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RubixCubes · 05/06/2016 16:46

Glad it's not just me!

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scrumptiouscrumpets · 05/06/2016 19:55

We have had sex a handful of times, currently 27 weeks. I have a high risk pregnancy and that's put me off. During my first pregnancy we had sex as often as beforehand, though I can't say I had a particularly horny phase. Now I just don't feel like it at all!

Whatsername17 · 05/06/2016 20:25

Only 6 weeks but we've switched to doing everything but penetrative sex. Don't want to give up completely but also don't want to risk bleeding.

Osirus · 06/06/2016 10:22

38 weeks here and done it twice (not since before 20 weeks). I'd give it a go but my DP seems uncomfortable with it. We were fine before the bump appeared and I think it puts him off. I've not put pressure on him at all - he can't help how he feels.

He does say about starting up again as soon as we are able to so I'm not worried yet!

flowerpower10 · 06/06/2016 11:13

I wish I could get my hubby to have some actual sex he says it just feels wrong I can feel baby girl kicking me when I try very off putting plus I feel like I am crushing you he gained daddy to be weight I have had hypermis so because I haven't been able to eat much I keep feeding him but I miss it

emcee56 · 06/06/2016 14:01

I had no libido until about 18 weeks and was actually repulsed at the thought of sex. 18 weeks it was like someone turned on a switch and it's getting steadily stronger every week. It's frustrating though as at 26 weeks I'm pretty limited in what positions I can do, but my other half seems pretty happy he has such a randy partner. Making the most of this 2nd trimester surge... Guessing it will be downhill from 3rd trimester and birth though!

smellsofelderberries · 06/06/2016 14:26

NOPE. 17+2 and we've done it twice since BFP, both times within the last month. First time was fine, second time I had a bit of spotting and was crampy all day, so I'm not going to instigate anything for a few weeks again I think. Had lots of bleeding in the 1st tri so it was upsetting to spot again and made me super anxious.

Sadly, even more unappealing than sex right now is the thought of BJs. Used to enjoy doing that and just can't face it.

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