6 weeks pregnant and feeling fed up

[bumblebee86]

Hi
I'm 6 weeks pregnant and everyone around me who knows is so excited and although I have moments when I am, I am mostly feeling really anxious, emotional and overwhelmed with everything.

I've been feeling sick all day and night and have really tired so perhaps that's why.

Everyone just says how lucky we are and how amazing and exciting it is etc, so why don't I feel overcome with happiness and excitement??

It's the hormones and the sickness. My mil went on and on about how magical it was cos apparently she was some sort of fertility goddess while pregnant but all I wanted to do was vomit on her.
I'm 13 weeks with dc2 at the minute and it's still hard to be excited. Try and sleep as much as possible. It gets better after the scans and midwife appointments start. Feels more real.

Thank you Roobix05.

Although this baby was a little bit of a surprise (as much as one can be!) I always wanted one and perhaps just didn't ever think I'd be anything but really excited and so maybe that's adding to it.

I can't help but keep thinking of the things that I won't be able to do now, when I should be thinking of all the amazing things that I am lucky enough to experience and I feel bad for that too.

Everyone I've known who is pregnant is beyond excited and I just wish I was.

Thank you Roobix05.

Although this baby was a little bit of a surprise (as much as one can be!) I always wanted one and perhaps just didn't ever think I'd be anything but really excited and so maybe that's adding to it.

I can't help but keep thinking of the things that I won't be able to do now, when I should be thinking of all the amazing things that I am lucky enough to experience and I feel bad for that too.

Everyone I've known who is pregnant is beyond excited and I just wish I w

We tried for both pregnancies and I still thought "oh shit" after the positive tests. I think it just feels so overwhelming at first. 6 weeks is still really early.
After my 12 weeks scan with dd I bought a pregnancy book that had a week by week brief about how the fetus was developing and that really helped me visualise an actual baby.

I assumed that when I got pregnant I'd be thrilled and suddenly all maternal and excited.

To be honest the first 12 weeks were full of anxiety and feeling shit. You don't expect it to be like that but I think that first trimester isn't much fun for most people.

Once you get over the sickness and get to scans and baby kicks it gets more exciting. My DS is 6 months old and a year ago when I was in the first trimester feels like a lifetime ago.

It gets better

Oh Hun ...

I felt exactly the same!! Once id seen the scan photo and was able to buy things ... She started to feel more real!

Like you ... Everyone around me seemed more excited whilst I just felt sick and nervous and shite! Try to concentrate on you and feeling better right now and don't let anyone else make you feel like should be feeling a certain way ... I stupidly allowed that to happen from select five and, with three weeks to go, am feeling pretty rubbish about things!!

Focus on you and your little one and doing things that make you feel well, rested and happy :)

Oh I totally agree with gunting - I was so tightly wound for the first trimester, any time someone attempted to say "Oh but it's SUCH a wonderful time" I wanted to throttle them.

Just try to ride the waves as they happen - it's totally normal to feel overwhelmed at times, and then excited at other times, everyone is different. I didn't get really excited for either of my babies until after they were born! It does get better, it does!

I'm 18 weeks and it's only in the last few days I'm actually happy to be pregnant. I was very sick and tired for weeks and feeling down because of that. I spent weeks with no energy lying in bed or dragging myself to work. No wonder I was a bir depressed. Even though I wanted to get pregnant I kept thinking I was after making a mistake.

Thank you. You've all made me feel better in that I'm not alone in feeling like this and I'm really hoping as time goes on it starts to get better and I start to feel better about things. It is overwhelming and I think it still doesn't feel real if I'm honest, although the nausea definitely does!

I'm so pleased to hear that even if you felt like that at first it turned out OK.

I've just been feeling so alone because no one around me has said they felt like that or perhaps they did but didn't want to say.

I think it's still a bit taboo (or uncool, at least) in some circles to not be wildly excited and immediately Instagramming baby clothes and scan photos. I totally remember feeling like I was harvesting an alien because I wasn't suddenly feeling all Earth Motherly as my friends had lead me to believe would happen!

It's easier said than done (and you will dislike anyone who says this), but try not to worry!

It was weird when people were congratulating me early on with big smiles because I didn't share their enthusiasm for my pregnancy!

I only told a limited number of people because I wasn't really in the mood to fake being happy to everyone.

I read an article somewhere that said "the window between the joy of a positive pregnancy test and starting to feel like shit is very short". It's so true. The anxiety about things going wrong started pretty much straight away due to bad cramps and the days of almost constant nausea and constant tiredness wore me down. At the weekends I'd literally want to fall asleep within an hour of waking up and often had to. It didn't help that I was sleeping terribly (those pesky hormones!) There was very little joy and excitment, even though the baby is much wanted.

Now at 16+5 I'm definitely turning a corner. The sickness has reduced to three very intense very short bursts per day which is manageable, the tiredness is better and I'm sleeping a lot better too. Hearing the heartbeat recently also removed a lot of anxiety and I'm starting to feel like everything will be okay.

You will eventually start feeling better and with it will come some of the happiness. Your 12 week scan will probably help with that too. Hang in there!