Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.
There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk

If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is
brilliant:
024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
links.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy#!scenario

I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

rae she sounds like the kind of person you don't need right now, even though you've invested do much of yourself in your relationship with her maybe in time she'll see how selfish she's been...

rae horray for new sofa! Make the most of it and don't let dh feel you have to share so sorry to hear about your 'friend'. Its so sad that it takes situations like this to find out what some people are like. Hopefully at some point she will realise how silly she has been to let you down and not appreciate you and then you can start again. Must be so hard though for you... don't feel like you've done anything wrong because you haven't. You sound like an amazing supportive friend.

lucinda thank you- think now we are so nearly in June I feel like its all real and happening which is exciting. Will be counting down the days.

eallison sorry to hear about your friend to - life just seems so unfair some times! Yes to the many pillows at bed time which doesn't help the heat but does make lying down possible! Realistically probably not many more warm ones to go at the moment!

amysmummy glad baby has moved and is a bit more comfy for you although these things are all relative at this late stage of pregnancy! Come on baby not long to go now...

I've managed to get lots of rest so just on countdown for next few days n5

Thanks amys. We've been friends for 10 years, it's such a shame.

ickle- thank you. I think I've let myself fall into an unhealthy relationship with her, it shouldn't be this one-sided. Taking a step back might be good for me in the long run- it would've happened anyway when the bay arrived and I had less time for her. So glad you managed to get some rest! I hope you've managed to stay vomit-free as well?

^baby, not bay 🙄

Evening from my own pillow fortress... The only problem is trying to heft myself from side to side through the night. I've completely overdone it and have spent evening throwing up/shivering and shaking, freezing cold (no temp though)/ lurching around wailing about how horrific I feel...
Think my blood sugar has dropped massively again due to not eating/drinking, DH brought me a banana and milk but it came back up along with meds so now I feel shaky again. In bed but cannot bloody get comfortable! Sorry I try to be positive but full of woe tonight, another day of solo parenting tmw and I'm worried how I will cope!

Weakly waves hello to everyone. amys not long to go at all, well done you. Best wishes for birth and safe arrival of baby.

Back soon xx

Oh mrsmonkey so sorry to hear about over doing it and shaky evening know the feeling oh so well... have you got any friends who could come over? Just having company helps me cope with ds no matter what mood he is in. Otherwise plenty of tv and rest for you and your dc!

rae I have managed an entire bank holiday weekend vomit free- now to do the same when dh is at work... really pleased you can see the relationship wasn't helpful for you and hope you have lots of really good friends who will support you over coming weeks and months.

Right managed to get marking moderation done this eve whilst dh was at football which was one big job for the week done and feeling much more on top of life. I will probably be the one crying from exhaustion tomorrow but will do my best not to!

mrsmonkey you poor thing, I will be thinking of you tomorrow. Hope you manage to get some relief tonight. I'm sure you've tried it all before but I find sucking on boiled sweets helpful when I'm at my worst- at least it gets a bit of sugar into me.

ickle well done on surviving the bank holiday and sorting the marking moderating. I have also stayed vomit free- I've felt absolutely shocking today though, I think that the early wake up call messed me up and it went downhill from there. Went for a ride in the car to a homeware store earlier but had to leave straight away and spent the whole car journey home trying not to be sick. It's nothing compared to what poor mrsmonkey has been dealing with though.

Hurrah for vomit free weekends ickle and rae!

ickle congrats on getting marking moderation done. Rest tomorrow!

mrsmonkey I sort of miSS my pillow fortress now ive been reminded of it! In fact I ran a 10k recently and partly resurrected the fortress to try to help me sleep with the oh so painful legs! I hope you get a restful nights sleep and tomorrow is a better day.

Dear all, congratulations for vomit free weekends for those who had them and solidarity with you mrsmonkey. On the boiled sweets, I have been having Fennel Drops from Simpkins that my mum found online; a little aniseedy so mind out if you don't like that, but otherwise great.

A question for the experienced: while Cyclizine seemed to sort me out to start with, the last couple of days I have been sick more times (twice or three times rather than once) and this morning threw up a little acid for the first time since I left hospital. Does this sound familiar and should I try something else or does it sound like I have just had a bad couple of days and will get back on track?

almond it might be worth going to see your gp and discussing options. It's not unusual for something to work for a while but as your symptoms get worse that med gets less able to alleviate them. There are plenty of other options.

Thanks eallison. Seeing mw on Friday so will chat to her then and seeing GP next week.

In mood news, I am feeling a bit sad about missing out on a more typical second trimester. I had naively thought it would be all glowing and shopping and getting ready for baby and doing yoga, but here I am barely able to get upstairs I am so weedy. Anyone got advice on getting past this?

almond I would imagine the level of sickness continuing is probably what is bringing you down about 2nd trimester. Try and get that under control and it won't feel so bad. I know some ladies do 'bloom' and have more energy but many never do. Try not to beat yourself up about it- do what you can and feel proud of yourself for small achievements. I didn't have hg last pregnancy but still never felt well

almond I agree with what others have said- please go back to your GP and ask for more help. I was on cyclizine for 3 days but still very unwell- I'm now on cyclizine and ondansetron which is much better.

I totally understand how you feel about the second trimester. I'm in the same boat, feeling sad that I'm not all glowy and happy. I also kind of feel like I'm almost in mourning for my 'old' life- I used to be a workaholic, do loads of exercise, spend spare time socialising- and now I'm exhausted by working 8 hours in a week, haven't exercised in 2 months, and one of my best friends got engaged on Saturday and I couldn't go out to the pub to celebrate with him. I know that your life changes when you have a baby, but I wasn't expecting so dramatic a change so quickly!!

for you, it's not easy. If you feel really low then I think you should speak to your midwife too.

almondbutter I so agree with others about asking for more meds before things get bad again, and they sound unpleasant enough now.
I so agree with you and Raeskywalker and others, this is all such a shock that it is hard to adjust,and it's particularly hard if the Hyperemesis lasts well into the second tri. It's hard to find a Pollyanna Plus Point in this. 'This Too Will Pass' but it is very hard to bear at the time. All you can do is lie on a sofa (nice that Rae has a new one) and emulate a Delicate Victorian Bourgeoise...
mrsmonkey Sorry to hear of miserable symptoms yesterday. I hope you are managing OK with LO today.
icklekid It's exciting it approaches.
amysmummy I so agree with that.
Waves to eallison and everyone.

almond a chat with mw might be useful, but they can't prescribe anything so you will be better with your gp for new meds.

Haha Lucinda, I'll need a costume then!

almond yes I agree do revisit the meds with GP, cyclizine may not be enough. Can't rem how many wks you are but I went downhill at 11 wk
Many sympathies to those in 2nd trimester and not getting to bloom, have energy etc. It's so tough. Hang in there and try to find things you can do even if it's just watching good telly and browsing nursery decor on Pinterest...
rae if any consolation I was like you pre baby, workaholic etc. I've changed my outlook so much since having DD and can honestly say I'm generally happier for it. Change can be so worrying but you'll feel so much better once baby is here.

Alas I'm writing this from a hospital bed 😟 Been admitted for fluids, hopefully will get home tonight. Poor DD I had to ring my sister in a panic and get her to come to take care of DD.

Oh no mrsmonkey, I hope you get home to your DD soon

.... And thank you. I'm a bit of a perfectionist and tend to go at everything at 110mph so having a baby about is likely to change my world view significantly. Just wanted to get my feet under the table more in my new role- I only got promoted a month before the HG kicked in!

Thanks rae - at least you got your promotion pre HG! Having babies has been career suicide for me, sigh. But at least it's helped me readdress my priorities! DH turned up at hosp altho I told him not to, so that was nice, I'm trying to drink some water but it's hard going, going to ask if they can get me some milk!

Well done to your DH

Yes I said to my DH last night (somewhat dramatically) that HG is single-handedly destroying my career. Oh well, there's not much I can do about it now- I think work appreciate that I'm trying to come in at least.

Hope hospital hasn't been too dispiriting today mrsmonkey and you're feeling alright.

Thank you everyone for the meds advice and the cheering up/constructive thoughts re: my mood.
Like Rae I am very used to being super active, very social, travelling a lot and working hard. I also get a huge amount of pleasure from cooking and eating. So, yes, this is the same loss of self that lots of you describe and feel.
The best thing I can do for now is rest and eat what I can when I can and, as ickle suggests, feel chuffed with small victories.

I am a bit ratty today too, which isn't helping. A few people I have had to call/email have
A) suggested f-ing ginger
B) said that incredibly helpful thing 'oh, poor you, I didn't get any morning sickness at all.'
IT IS NOT MORNING SICKNESS AND I DON'T CARE SO PLEASE BE QUIET.

almond we had a bit of a funny moment in Saturday when we went out for a bit. I'd literally just said "I will go bananas at the next person who suggests ginger". Went into village shop, lovely lady starts banging on about ginger. I smiled and nodded sweetly whilst DH chuckled.

HG did have a small benefit for me today- I needed to move a spa day I had booked with my Mum for this coming Monday as I'm too poorly at the moment. They charge you a fine if you move your booking so I called up expecting to have to put the charge on my debit card.

I told the woman I was pregnant and too unwell to attend so asked to move the spa day to August. I said I totally understood that they'd charge me. She said she'd get me out of the fine because her best friend had HG and she knows how awful it is. Really nice of her. So it sucks to have to postpone our day out but at least I'm not out of pocket as well!

Hello to everyone on a very wet day where I am.

Commiserations mrsmonkey, a hospital admission at your stage of pregnancy must be even more frustrating. Hopefully you aren't too disheartened and that the fluids are making you feel a little perkier.

Well done to ickle on resting lots and having a few days vomit free. Long may it continue although I hope childcare this week doesn't push you over the edge. Not sure if Mr Tumble & Something Special is a hit in your house but it gives me a good 10-15 min respite as DS is mesmerised.

Sounds like you overdid it a bit last week rae. Combined with your 'friend' and her behaviour, I'm not surprised you've felt down again. You've got so much to deal with, pregnancy is hard enough. When combined with HG all you need is a little compassion and understanding. It does sound like you are better off without her. Luckily you have all of us on here to help a little with trying to keep your spirits up.

almond re the cyclizine - I found it worked for a few days before the sickness crept back to a level of unable to move without being sick. The doctor tried me on a variety of different ones until after a second hospital admission a combination of cyclizine & ondansatron were tried and was successful. Now at 21 weeks the meds keep it under control (in the main). I would suggest you def speak to your GP to see what other meds you can try. However the acid vomits sound like heartburn related so it may me a combination of cyclizine and omeprazole (or similar) might help too. I also sympathise with the ginger comments... It doesn't help with HG and burns like hell on its way back up.

As for me, despite being really busy with childcare over the weekend, things have been pretty good - however I have felt rough today. Tired and rather nauseous again. I know I have overdone things but hard when you're working nearly full time and looking after a toddler. Had to make myself slow down at work today after braxton hicks started up. I had them last time but not this early. Bump goes rock solid which isn't pleasant. Also been back to docs for repeat slapped cheek bloods today, as I wasn't immune they want to make sure I didn't have exposure in the week or so after my last test. I know it's a good thing they are being cautious but I do feel like I spend my life either at the hospital or doctors surgery - which considering I'm 'low risk' is ironic. No swab results from the hospital so hopefully all the spotting is just the polyp.

Hi to everyone else, including lucinda.

Cross post rae - def try and postpone until after pregnancy if you can. You can't take advantage of everything while pregnant and having experienced a baby free day a few months after having DS it was absolute bliss!