really need help! only male on mumsnet haha!

[CalvinLee]

Im a wanna be dad, only male on here! Haha, my partner and I have been trying to conceive she's been off the depo since last September we are trying so hard we've tried Agnus cactus, another one from Holland and Barrett's in a red pot can't remember the name they ain't doing a lot! Although she's had slight spotting and really deep red brown colour blood nothing regular can any help? We are so desperate, and could someone please let me know what opks are?

Hi again

Just another note, just because someone has regular periods does not mean they are ovulating. I did not ovulate for a long time even after periods became a bit more normal. Blood tests from the dr is the only way you'll know for sure but you can't have a blood test until periods are more regular as they wont give reliable results - the dr's also are unlikely to give you a blood test until a year after the last depo jab has worn off. Reference the tablets you are asking about, I know how desperate you are, I've been there (we had made our decision to start ttc after long discussions and saving up so we were ready for it to happen immediately so a wait of nearly 2 and a half years was horrible) I would suggest her taking nothing and letting her body get back to normal with nothing in her system. The agnus cactus is hated by dr's and could skew any blood tests you do end up having. The only pills that could help would be clomid but to get hold of it you'll have to be referred to a fertility consultant which is a long and arduous process, and that isn't even guaranteed they will give it to you. They actually would not give me clomid and I was having my pre IVF appointment when I had my BFP. I hate the depo jab and the torture it has put me through for the last couple of years. I hope your gf gets back to normal quicker than I did but for now I'd say don't bother ttc until 1. she has regular periods 2. She has tested positive for ovulation. After 2 years of timed sex or sex every other day because you need to, I can tell you it is horrible and does nothing but make you bicker when one isn't interested. I know lots of people are telling you to relax which is frustrating in itself as it sounds like you are very ready for this but they are probably right.