I don't feel like I've bonded yet...

[Mermaidmagic]

Hi!

I'm 30 weeks pregnant. I really don't feel like I've bonded with my baby at all. I don't really feel pregnant and I'm not showing that much. It just doesn't feel like I'm having a baby in just over two months. I already have a DS who will turn one in a couple of months and I love him to bits, but I just don't feel like I can get excited this time around.

This pregnancy was a surprise and my DS was planned. So I don't know whether that has anything to do with it. Has anyone else felt like this?

Yes. With ds1 I'd bonded with him from as soon as I knew I was pregnant my feelings for my
Unborn child were so
Strong and when he was born my feelings for him were even stronger.

With ds2 it was different. I was going through a rough time in my
Marriage, dh was depressed and was renovating my house. I barely took time to consider the pregnancy. I didn't bond at all. When he was born my feelings weren't as strong as with ds1 and I felt guilty. But I did bond and within a couple of weeks my feelings were strong. It just took a bit longer. I consciously put more effort into bonding and in no time fell in love with him.

I'm due dc3 in a couple of weeks. I'm nervous again as I haven't bonded with the baby but I know that it will all Come when the baby is born.

Try not to worry.