How do you descibe how "far along" you are???

[dejags]

I am confused. I am 24 weeks pregnant and for the most part when people ask me how far along I am I tell them exactly that. Problem comes in when people say - oh so you are six months then? I have to agree because 24 / 4 = 6 but then they say oh so you are due in August then - they look very confused when I explain that I am due in September, as if I am being dishonest about my dates...

At 24 weeks pregnant how far along did you say you were in months?

It is confusing - with pg being 40 wks, that means it's a 10 month job doesn't it? (If we go by 4wks per month.) I tend to stick to weeks rather than months, mainly becuase pg brain won't let me remember 2 figures, so I either remember how many weeks OR how many months, not both!

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I say '27 weeks so about 6 months, due in August'. Bit of a mouthful. Then I get them looking at my HUGE bump and saying 'are you sure?' grrrrrr

Hello Dejags

I would tell other PG women/mums the number of weeks and the rest of the herd I would just tell them when the baby was due

First pregnancy I used to say how many weeks. Second preganancy I was a lot vaguer and would say things like "about 4.5 months" or "nearly six months". I don't think people who haven't been pregnant relate that easily to the weeks thing - in most people's head pregnancy lasts nine months and anything to do with weeks either confuses them or they don't understand the relevance of a week either way.

24 weeks = 5.5 months (or close enough). Because 26 weeks=6 months (how else does 52 weeks = 12 months=1 year, and not 13 months?). Don't make the mistake of thinking 4 weeks=1 month.

Thanks for that - I must seem so dim - am fully aware that there are more than four weeks in a month () but people just automatically make the assumption...

I'll stick to quoting weeks to other pg mums and educated parties and giving a due date to the rest of the population...

dejags

I talk in weeks to anyone who has had a baby and add "that's about x months" to anyone who hasn't.

I do find they are more interested in whether I know it is a boy or a girl than how long along I am. When I say "we are not asking" they tend to say "oh yes, I think that is best" - so why did they ask?!!!

Exactly my experience Beansprout! When people asked if we were going to find out and I said yes, I couldn't believe the number of people that were really hostile and made me feel like we were already bad parents to bump! Why do people ask that question and then have a go at you when you give them an answer?!

Beansprout - by law, when you are pregnant, you must be asked everyday the follwoing:

1. When are you due?
2. Do you know what you are having?
3. Thought of any names?
4. Are you allowed that drink/soft cheese/egg etc?

1. Don't you miss alcohol? (or perhaps it's just me and I'm perceived as an complete wino)

6. Are you going back to work?

1. Are you going to have any more?

ffs let me get this one out first

And of course "no you don't look fat, you look pregant" accompanied by give away relieved look that they don't look like me.

Is there actually a law against hitting tummy touchers? I mean, is it actually written down anywhere?

Piglit - in answer to your other question as to why people insist on asking, my considered opinion is that it is because they are bloody nosey!!

...and whenever you are eating, even if its a banana or something small and healthy 'oooooooooooh, eating for two I see'

And if you don't eat loads you are picked up on that as well - "aren't you supposed to be...?"

Or - "should you be eating that?" Aaaarghhh!!!!!

And of course, don't forget the expert view on the size of your bump. Yesterday I was told I am probably expecting twins AND I am tiny. FFS!!

I am tempted to start shooting up in the office actually.

A friend of mine did find out but then didn't want to tell everyone. Boy did that annoy them!

Sorry, have really hijacked this thread!

1. (for mothers with one or more small children already) "Boy, your hands will be full, won't they?"

I'm opposite from everyone else (yet again). I quote it in months except when forced to speak to a midwife/doctor, when I tell them I think it's about X...! Because I can't keep track of the weeks, but counting in whole or half months is easy.. just count months backwards from the day of month when due. I don't think it's anywhere as exact a science as they pretend, anyway.

Oh it really bugs me - EVERY time I go to midwife/GP, they ask me when I am due and then get out that silly little wheel of fortune and tell me how far along I am (by a different reckoning every time!) Grrrr!

That's just it, Beansprout -- why should I keep track of weeks when the midwives and consultants can't keep it straight, either? And don't you find Health Visitors are even worse after the baby is born?... When they calculate the age and it's actually more than 4 weeks you can put a 1-3 week error bar around whatever they say.

I cant bear the constant commentary. Somebody in the office just said to me - look at your bump, I can't believe how big it is. I felt like saying - well there is a 5.5 month old baby in there - what the bloody hell do you expect?? My newest and best bugbear is the fact that people automatically assume a look of disappointment on my behalf when I tell them that I am expecting another boy - they look at me in disbelief when I say that I actually wanted another boy... I despair that people are already treating my beloved baby boy bump as a second class citizen.

I have a policy of not commenting either way when dealing with other preggie mums - beyond telling them that they look gorgeous.

Occupational hazard i guess...