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Hiding pregnancy @Christmas Party???!?

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CookieKatie · 25/11/2015 13:13

I've seen a couple of these posted already so sorry to repeat.

I've just realised i have no idea what on earth I'm gonna do to get around my works do without my not drinking looking obvious

It is on a Wednesday which helps but we get drinks on arrival. Plus my lovely colleagues know I'm a wine lover Wine

Excuses please!

Ps. I work in the NHS and some of my colleagues are nurses and very good friends so not above asking the question am I preggo
Pps. Gonna use the horrible cold i have as an excuse to get out of drinking with them this Friday and I used 'trying to remember everything' from not drinking on my wedding day last week, thinking a third time not drinking will be super obvious.

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Tottyandmarchpane1 · 25/11/2015 13:15

I used to clutch a glass of wine - no one will notice if you are not drinking it - could easily be your third or fourth glass. Then get rid of that and go onto sparkling water - looks like g&t.

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CookieKatie · 25/11/2015 13:17

Thanks for your suggestion Tottyandmarchpane1

I probably should of mentioned it's just the 5 of us at a Christmas dinner followed by dinner. So I can do that during the dancing part but how do I get away with it on the

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Nicknamegrief · 25/11/2015 13:17

You are on antibiotics for something or other.....

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CookieKatie · 25/11/2015 13:18

Table... Sorry I pressed post by accident Confused

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Whatsinaname2011 · 25/11/2015 13:18

ALWAYS accept a glass of the arrivals drink. Nurse it, tip some down the loo and then just leave it on a table somewhere.

If you say you don't want it they'll know immediately.

Once you're holding it nobody will pay attention that you're not drinking it, especially if you can get the level down a bit down the sink

Whatsinaname2011 · 25/11/2015 13:19

Ah didn't see the bit about the table. Not sure what to do with dinner

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CookieKatie · 25/11/2015 13:20

Followed by dancing! (Is it too early to blame pregnancy brain) haha

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MrsLeighHalfpenny · 25/11/2015 13:20

If you say you're on antibiotics, EVERYONE will guess that your preggers. Wouldn't it just be easier to just tell them??

Raxacoricofallapatorius · 25/11/2015 13:20

You don't need to hide it. Nothing says pregnant like a woman making repeated excuses about not drinking. Think about it. Will you be monitoring other people's drinks? Keeping count? No.

Just enjoy the party. You can take a glass of wine and just lose it later if that helps. Order your own drinks and just don't think about it. If people offer a drink say yes please a coke or no thank you I've just had one.

Have a lovely party and congratulations.

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CookieKatie · 25/11/2015 13:21

Ohhh thanks Whatsinaname I will try my best to accept and chuck

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Pootles2010 · 25/11/2015 13:22

Depends who it is, I used to say I had a dicky tummy and that used to stop people asking any more! Appreciate you might not want to tell people that though Grin. Also useful for covering up not being able to eat certain things, morning sickness, etc.

CottonSock · 25/11/2015 13:22

Me too, and its a German party where I will be handed a massive stein of beer that was included in ticket price. If it was wine I would probably just pretend I drunk some, but my giant beer will be so obvious

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CookieKatie · 25/11/2015 13:24

MrsLeiahHalfPenny

Thanks for your suggestion, I'll only be 8 weeks and we aren't planning on telling our family till after christmas (we'd like our nephew to have his first Christmas without stealing the thunder)

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MrsLeighHalfpenny · 25/11/2015 13:26

I get your problem Cookie, but if you're going to avoid alcohol you need a better excuse than dicky tummy or antibiotics, or they'll guess anyway. You need to find an answer to the "are you pregnant" question that will no doubt arise.

randomsabreuse · 25/11/2015 13:30

Drive... or early drive next day!

Clobbered · 25/11/2015 13:37

Just take the welcome drink, have a sip and lose the rest. Ditto wine at dinner. Your glass can just remain full. Will your DP/H be there? He could help by glugging some of yours. Try not to draw any attention to your not drinking - excuses definitely a no-no and likely to backfire on you.
Are you pregnant? How about a Miranda style "Rude!" and laugh it off. "The diet starts tomorrow, ha ha" - plenty of things you can say without actually lying to anyone (if that bothers you).

fruitlovingmonkey · 25/11/2015 13:50

What about telling them that you're ttc and have decided not to drink? I found this was a good way to avoid lots of questions from people I'm close to. The other good one is to pretend you had a very boozy night the day before and you can't even look at a glass of wine.

Jibberjabberjooo · 25/11/2015 14:03

Antibiotics is the worst excuse ever. Everyone will guess!

LibrariesGaveUsP0wer · 25/11/2015 14:08

To really good friends, saying that you are ttc can work well.

Otherwise, drink a sip and ditch.

glasgowlass · 25/11/2015 14:10

I couldn't use the antibiotics excuse as I often have a glass or 2 on them (I know, I know) but what I did do was say I'd just taken strong painkillers (think co-codamol 30/500) for a really bad headache & didn't want to drink any alcohol with them incase I felt woozy. Worked a treat except for one friend who just gave me knowing eyes but didn't say anything thankfully.
Congratulations on your pregnancy.

Champagneformyrealfriends · 25/11/2015 14:11

"I'm driving early doors" or "I had too much last night Blush". I was 8 weeks at our wedding and nobody noticed I wasn't drinking! Honestly the less said the better excuse wise. I had a few months off drinking last year because I'd really overdone it and I was quite vocal about how I was having a break from it-more people thought I was pregnant then than when I actually was Hmm

LibrariesGaveUsP0wer · 25/11/2015 14:14

Honestly the less said the better excuse wise.

Yes!!

SiegeofEnnis · 25/11/2015 14:23

I agree with just having a glass in front of you or in your hand, and saying nothing at all - everyone else will be getting rat-arsed, and not keeping count, unless you're sitting there with a mineral water and a set of unconvincing excuses! They only really notice if you have an empty glass and say you don't want a refill. I was secretly three months pregnant at my parents' 40th wedding anniversary party - massive affair, and I usually drink like a fish - and not one person noticed, even though I was showing and threw up in the loos. I just had a glass of wine in front of me or in my hand all the time, and got rid of it discreetly when possible.

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CookieKatie · 25/11/2015 16:32

Thanks for all you help!! I think I'll take a sip of the arrival drinks nd set it down. Then order a lemonade and a glass of wine at dinner. Reach for them both. Drink the lemonade and have the wine on the dance floor with me, put it down and hopefully no one will cotton on!

Aren't we so cunning ;)
Thanks for your help lovelies!Smile
I'll let you know how it goes!

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Noodledoodledoo · 25/11/2015 21:49

Vodka and Tonic or Gin and Tonic - without the V or G - got me through my first pregnancy. Can nurse a tonic a very long time!!!

My lovely DH stupidly shared the information prior to me being pregnant that very few antibiotics require you to refrain from alcohol and if they are nurses they will be aware of this.