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Changing bag for a new daddy

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Icklepickle101 · 15/11/2015 14:03

DC1 due in January so for christmas I'm putting together a 'daddy changing bag' which I think he will love!!

So far I've got a manly changing bag, wipes, bum cream, travel change mat, lip balm, an emergency bar of galaxy, chewing gum & a costa gift card so he can go for a coffee.

What else would you put in for your DP?

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Alb1 · 15/11/2015 14:35

Can't believe some people sound so grumpy about the idea, it's just a baby based present for an excited parent to be! It's a lovely idea OP Smile

Trinpy · 15/11/2015 14:35

I think its a sweet idea - though I'm not sure how much use it would get unless your dp will be taking the baby out a lot on his own for long periods? My dh just used to put a spare nappy and some wipes in a rucksack when he took our baby out. I stopped using the changing bag after 2 months because I didn't have anything to put in it! Might be different if you're planning to ff though.

However...In the newborn days, muslins, a spare vest and babygro were useful.

thatstoast · 15/11/2015 14:36

We had a black satchel as a changing bag and that was used by both of us as and when. What you've got sounds fine for the basics but he'll figure out what he needs and obviously it'll change with the baby anyway. I think we went through all the brands of nappies before finding the one that suited DS.

I think people were assuming your husband wouldn't be the primary carer and perhaps have been a bit sceptical of the need for his own bag.

LilacSpunkMonkey · 15/11/2015 14:38

I'm Shock that you normally carry a snack for your dp in your bag.

I don't understand this at all.

Trinpy · 15/11/2015 14:39

Sorry about the massive x post there, I'm a slow typer Blush

winchester1 · 15/11/2015 14:40

Spare dummy
muslins
spare clothes for the LO and tshirt for dad
some plasters, antiseptic wipes (for when LO is crawling)
nappies
wet wipes (I don't find they dry out if you close the pack each time)
hand gel
nappy bags
a magazine/easy book for naps

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Icklepickle101 · 15/11/2015 14:41

lilac so was I to start with but the man is eating constantly!! Saves a lot of money havjng a bag of crisps/some dried fruit in my bag rather than him popping off to find a shop. He has given up smoking and is training for a marathon so hoping the munchies will stop soon!!

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Lj8893 · 15/11/2015 14:41

Sorry, I don't mean to sound grumpy. I just don't see the fuss about a changing bag.....and why it needs to be "manly". It's just a changing bag!! I'd be disappointed if that was my Christmas present.

WutheringFrights · 15/11/2015 14:42

A decent moisurising hand cream, DHs hands really suffered from all the washing after bum changes.
It's not something we ever needed as someone bought me a change bag that WE were both happy to wander around with, but it is a lovely idea....I wonder how many of you would be pissed off with a DH for trying to do something nice for their wife.

Runningupthathill82 · 15/11/2015 14:43

My DP was the primary carer for DS as I went back to work after 4 months. Separate bags made even less sense in our case - so much easier to have one bag we could pass between us as we were coming and going, rather than constantly swapping stuff over, or having two lots of everything.

fruitpastille · 15/11/2015 14:47

Seriously can't believe some of the sneery comments. Totally unnecessary.

I would add an insulated mug for drinks on the go.

museumum · 15/11/2015 14:47

Loads of the folk being grumpy wouldn't have been if you were buying a mum to be a nice changing bag. Why not a bag for a dad? My dh didn't use a bag before we had ds. Now he has as much need as me to carry "stuff" when he goes out with him!

Gloves are a good idea. I didn't wear them really before I had a problem to push as I used to stuff my hands in my pockets.

museumum · 15/11/2015 14:48

Lol. Pram to push not problem!

AuntieMaggie · 15/11/2015 14:53

well I think it's a lovely idea... I didn't bother with a changing bag originally but when I did I got one that would double as my handbag and so dp was very excited to get himself a changing bag too and it's had quite a lot of use!

Not sure what else you could include that you haven't already... maybe tickets for the zoo or something he could do with the baby in the future?

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Icklepickle101 · 15/11/2015 14:54

My mum has bought my changing bag as part of my christmas presents and I'm very happy with it!!

Will add some gloves and a travel mug, thanks.

Just to add my and DP are only doing token presents as we have booked a weekend away the first week of December as a joint christmas present to each other, why spend unnecessary money when we don't want or need anything.

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Finola1step · 15/11/2015 14:55

I think it all sounds lovely. A thoughtful present. A break away together before the baby arrives. Enjoy.

Kr1stina · 15/11/2015 14:58

People are not sneering - they are confused .

I am confused because I see the changing bag as being for the baby and not the parent .

Also I don't get the modern trend of everything being gendered . So a baby or a parent would need the identical bag , regardless of their sex . To me it's weird to buy eg a car seat in a certain colour for one sex of baby . Because 1. I'd expect an expensive item like a car seat to do more than one child and 2. I don't have a view that certain colours belong to one sex rather than the other .

I also cannot understand the implication that a man needs rewarded ( by snacks or costa coffee ) for changing his baby's nappy .

Random piece of information - very few people ( about 10% I think ) actually lose weight training for a marathon . Don't know about quitting smoking .

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Icklepickle101 · 15/11/2015 15:02

I don't see snacks as a reward for changing the baby's nappy Hmm

And the majority of people do not lose weight after giving up smoking, much the opposite. It affects the metabolism a lot, hence the constant snacking and weight gain.

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DickDewy · 15/11/2015 15:07

Just have a bag. Does it need to be a changing bag? We used to just bung a couple of nappies, nappy sacks and wipes in any old bag.

And sorry but, lol at chewing gum.

howtorebuild · 15/11/2015 15:09

It does sound like he needs a bag of his own. You can use a ziplock changing bag as a changing bag you each place in your own bag?

GiraffesAndButterflies · 15/11/2015 15:10

That's a really nice idea. I would have loved that when I was expecting DD, so why there's so much sneering at the idea of men liking it I don't know. The costa card is brilliant. If DH stuck a Starbucks card in our change bag as a surprise it would be used up within days Grin

Spare dummy if you're planning to use them? Small toy for the DC? The only thing in mine that you haven't already got is car park change, that's not very exciting Grin

howtorebuild · 15/11/2015 15:11

Men carried brief cases around for years, why has he resisted a bag so far?

GiraffesAndButterflies · 15/11/2015 15:11

And what's wrong with chewing gum? I have a box of mints in my bag. Why is it a weird thing to want when you're out and about?

museumum · 15/11/2015 15:26

Why wouldn't you be "allowed" to treat yourself to a costa if taking the baby out for a few hours Hmm
I think the costa card is genius. My dh has taken ds for a coffee on Saturday mornings to give me a lie in since a few weeks old. Around here you see lots of dads doing this.

docmcstuffins1 · 15/11/2015 15:26

I think it's a lovely idea and sure your DH will love it I may pinch your idea!