is it normal to feel ANGRY during early pregnancy????

[lloydie]

I have just found out I'm pregnant with my 2nd child. Im only 4 and a half weeks, but I just feel sooo angry. Not angry about the baby, as it was planned and wanted, just angry about the tiniest things. My DD is one and once it gets to about 6pm I just don't seem to have any patience with her at all. Tonight she knocked her bowl of food onto the floor, purely an accident, but I was soooo mad! I just don't understand why I got so annoyed, and am hoping its just hormones. Please tell me this is normal, cos I don't remember feeling mad with DD!!!

Hi Lloydie - I'm 8 weeks and I find that if I am tired, virtually everything that DD does (except sitting quietly!) can wind me up to distraction. She is nearly 3 and chats endlessly about absolute nonsense and it drives me crazy!!! As long as I have had enough sleep though, it is bearable and I am a much nicer mummy. Can you do swaps with your DP for the occasional lie-in, or have a nap (even 10 mins helps) when she does? Also, if I'm hungry that is another trigger, so now I give myself lunch before her (used to be the other way round) so that I'm well fed and therefore calmer.

HTH x

Oh dearie me...

You are me about 12 weeks ago. Typical conversation with DH:

DH: Where are my shoes?
Me: It's not my fault you're too bloody lazy to put them away in an evening and I hope when you find them you fall over them. And don't tell me I'm hormonal because I'll stand on your toe. Get out of my sight.

And on and on and on...

I'm exaggerating really, but I did find myself inordinately angry about the most trivial of things. I was really annoyed with the way a bloke next to me on the bus was breathing and actually 'shushed' him. I'm mortified now!

Don't worry, it'll pass. Soon, like me, you'll be 17wks and crying at how sweet your cat is. I've lost the plot.

Hi Lloydie - I'm 8 weeks and I find that if I am tired, virtually everything that DD does (except sitting quietly!) can wind me up to distraction. She is nearly 3 and chats endlessly about absolute nonsense and it drives me crazy!!! As long as I have had enough sleep though, it is bearable and I am a much nicer mummy. Can you do swaps with your DP for the occasional lie-in, or have a nap (even 10 mins helps) when she does? Also, if I'm hungry that is another trigger, so now I give myself lunch before her (used to be the other way round) so that I'm well fed and therefore calmer.

HTH x

Hi
Yep i seem to go through days of feeling relatively normal and then I just seem to flip and everything and everyone makes me angry. Now at 27 weeks with my second child. I don't renember being like this with my first but my husband has certainly noticed it this time.

God, yes. I have had books that I have thrown across the room on the grounds they aren't worth reading, which I would never too normally. I was hyper-critical during my last pregnancy. Sort of like being one of the judges on Strictly Come Dancing ... but with a reason

And grrrrr when you post twice and it's not your fault....

Thank you so much, both of you. I think it is mainly tiredness. With my first pregnancy i was absolutely fine all the way through just very, very tired, so I guess tiredness could be the reason.

I have resolved to try not to get so annoyed about the little things, and save the annoyance for the man sitting next to me on the train....!!

God yes!! I had a terrible temper and anger problem during my pregnancies!! At my worst I threw a lava lamp at dp's head, missed and smashed it against the wall!!!

sorry, thanks ALL of you for your messages. Whilst I was typing the last message, some more kind, understanding mums posted more messages for me.

There is a condition called Ante-natal Depression and it can happen to anyone. It's normally down to your hormones but it can also be caused by circumstances. Have a word with your midwife about it, more and more health professionals are now becoming aware that women can suffer from depression during pregnancy and they are usually very supportive. Just talking to someone about it often helps.

I think you have to be honest with your dp about how you are feeling and ask him to help you. If he sees that you are getting angry, the best thing he can do is to take charge of the situation that has triggered your anger, not to try and reason with you or point out how unreasonable you are being, but to be understanding and patient.

Pregnancy is a hard time for everyone, give yourself more treats and more time for yourself to just chill out.

Oh it's a dangerous game to play. I try to save my anger and direct it quietly at people I don't know. So, for the record, I am the mad person wandering through town muttering 'where's the rest of your skirt, no wonder you're turning blue you ill-dressed hussy you' and only a few days ago DH had to drag me off as I hissed 'soft porn' at a teenage couple who where pressed up against a shop window canoodling.

Yes, well .. at least that's what I wasguilty of! My FIL bore the brunt of it. On Boxing Day (I was 11 wks) dinner, I had 2nd helpings and he commented about people getting obese from 2nd helpings!!!!! I threw a quiet trantrum and refused to have dessert. The next day, I blanked him off and ignored him completely ... in his own house! Felt really childish after that ... but hey, I plead insanity by pregnancy!!!

But of course as Rhubarb says, if it's a serious problem and you're worried, depression is a reality in pg.

Me, I'm just hormonal and a bit volatile...

Oh lord yes! Very normal!!!!

Oh I used to get really angry in my 1st trimester and have unprovoked outbursts that would end in floods of tears etc. My finest moment was when I stomped out of the house in a huff because dp had dared to eat his bacon sandwich downstairs with his mate who was doing his parents extension than upstairs with me (we were staying with his parents at the time). The scariest thing was how rational I felt my aggrievance was at the time and that I couldn't understand why dp didn't think it was out of order of him to do this. I was a total nutter for the 1st 3 months, honestly. It does get better although I did still have my moments!!

Im sure it is just hormonal, as I don't feel angry all day. It just seems to be from about 6pm onwards, when DD is getting tired and whingy, and so am I!! I'm a firm believer in letting go of your anger otherwise you just let it fester which is much worse IMHO, as that can lead to depression etc..

Get one of those stress toys, I have one at work, a rubber skull whose eyes pop out when you squeeze it - works for me!

how funny I was just thinking tonight that I need one of those!! i think the girl who sits next to me at work has mine, so I'll have to nick it back from her.

Oh God. This post is refreshing I'm 6 weeks and feel like I've lost the plot!!

Yep! Furious. I just wish DH was more sympathetic to my pregnancy anger! Another thing to be angry about! x

I wasn't too bad in the beginning (I don't think🤔) however now at 36 weeks I seem to be enraged about everything and crying most days. Hope this stops after the birth. Actually I think I was slightly unbearable during the first trimester but keeps people on their toes😬

Yes I am 23 weeks and get fits of furious rage especially at anyone who dares to suggest I might have depression rather than accept that they're just being annoying

My bellys huge, my tits are huge, half the time I feel like i've been kicked in the fanny, I have to give birth in 17 weeks, I forget everything and i'm knackered. Who wouldn't be angry, especially when people expect you to be constantly grinning, all singing, and all dancing!

About 6 weeks and was super irrationally angry at about 4 weeks. Although only just found out I was pg so that probably explains it.....dh had a cold and I almost smothered him in his sleep.

What's your natural temperament? This just gets exaggerated by pregnancy hormones.

Oh my god how true this is. Then your other half comes home and says "I see you're in a shit mood again". 😡😤