Scared

[Nessie100]

So I'm just back from getting my pregnancy confirmed. I'm already a mum to 3 y/o but have had problems conceiving since.

As far as I'm concerned I've "been" pregnant 3 times in past 12 months, but this is the first 1 to make it to a positive pregnancy test.

I've been testing since Monday - day 24 (cos I KNOW my body), only got a positive yesterday.

The reasom I'm scared is that I feel the EXACT same as I did the previous 2 times (minor stinging/pain inside) before the stabbing pain started.

Even if I do hold onto this one, will I get to relax at all during the next 8-9 months or is this "feeling of something being wrong" going to hang over my head until I give birth?

Doc lovely, but basically come back in 3 weeks unless have bleeding or unbearable pain .

Anyone have any advice, or been there done that?

Congratulations.
I haven't been in your position with mc but even now (18 weeks) I get pains where period pains would be. This was just stretching and so far everything seems to be good.
Maybe this is what your are experiencing at the moment?

I hope it is, but just can't shake the feeling that something is "off" . Gonna be a long pregnancy if I cant shake that feeling.

With my first pregnancy I knew I was pregnant way before test came out positive, but had a good feeling about the pregnancy - had a lovely one . This time, I dunno .

Am I sending myself towards a self-fulfilling prophecy, or do some women just "know" when something is up.

This must be really difficult for you Nessie.

I don't know whether some women just "know" or not, but it's worth remembering, no amount of worrying will change what the future holds.

You may as well enjoy every moment, because no one knows whether their pregnancy will end with a healthy baby. All we can do is hope, and enjoy the experience of carrying our tiny babies.

Like you said, you've got a positive test, you didn't get that far previously. This is all very positive.

I hope this helps and Congratulations

Nope .. With my mmc, I had absolutely no clue until sonographer told me my baby was measuring 6 weeks instead of 10. Even then I held on to hope for a couple of days until I worked out that there is no way I could be 6 weeks!

MCs are horrible but they are not something you can know about in advance. Fingers firmly crossed for you but your doc is right. Unless you get unbearable pain or heavy bleeding, everything is fine. That being said, being pregnant after a mc means you are going to remain doubly anxious. I am 6 weeks after an mmc in April and I cant stop worrying at every little niggle and cramp (or lack thereof)

Thank you .

Might not be able to relax, but guess just gonna try to enjoy the fact that at this very second in time I'm pregnant .

Pity bout the dizziness & nausea , but hoping that'll settle after a month or so like it did with my son.

Any website that tells people that they can't get morning sickness til they're 6 weeks along can go s..te as far as I'm concerned .

Morning sickness... Another good sign!! totally feel your pain with that! I'm in the same position. There are lots of unknowns for any expectant mother so we just have to stay positive. Every day that passes is one closer to that 12 week scan! x

How far along are you sunshine?

Don't think they scan til 20 weeks around here, unless there's a problem .

I'm now 7 weeks! Feel awful! I was fine last pregnancy but so far, this ones been much harder! Probably not helped by the fact my husband works away and I've got a 2 year old to run around after! Lol. I wonder if you could ask your midwife if you could possibly be allowed an earlier scan? You could just explain your situation and your concerns and that you feel it would give you peace of mind! The worst they can do is say no?x

God Sunshine, 2 y/o's are just mental, how are you managing!! At least my OH around if needed. And with the nutter I have I couldnt imagine having to manage by myself.

I will just have to see what the story is in this area, moved since last baby so I'm sure it's different - someone mentioned it was 20 weeks but I don't know for sure.

We live a nine hour drive from our families too so it's quite full on! Just getting out to baby groups when I can and to the park etc and unfortunately having to parent from the couch when I'm too nauseous! Feel awful to my dd but she's pretty content as long as she's got lots of toys to play with etc. I just can't wait for the nausea to go!

Well fingers crossed you get the option to have a scan earlier! Either way though, I'm sure this will be a healthy pregnancy for you x

I have anxiety with my pregnancy this time (9wks) because I miscarried last year at 17weeks after TTC for many years. I suspect I won't fully relax until I see a baby, it is making it very hard. My MW has offered me counselling if I want it - their is a self referral scheme in our area so far I haven't accepted it but it might be worth asking about.

Sorry there

Wow Sunshine, I couldnt imagine being that far from family.

Aw Wonky, sorry for your loss , I hope this one ends the right way for you .