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How quick can you get pregnant again after giving birth

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rahrah1 · 29/11/2006 22:44

I had a baby 3 weeks ago and just wanted to know if anyone started trying again straight after and on what time scales. Do you have to wait for a period?

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Tommy · 29/11/2006 22:47

I have no idea but do have cousins who are siblings and only 10 months apart - they were in the same school year as each other.

FWIW, I didn't even want to think about having sex that soon

Quootiepie · 29/11/2006 22:49

it is best to wait for a period, really to make it easier to do dates etc. basically, any time after 2 weeks... if your not too worried about dates {{hugs}} Might be best to let body recover abit though? {{hugs}} If you buy an ovulation kit, you will know when you ovulate or are about to... that way you wont have to wait until your next period, you could date it from conception (I think) xxx

choosyfloosy · 29/11/2006 22:50

i don't think you 'have to' wait for a period - I'm not sure though, have only ever thought about this in terms of how to AVOID getting pregnant. I certainly remember the health visitor when i was 2 months postnatal telling me in doom-laden tones of another mother at about the same stage who was already six weeks pregnant. anyway, bumping for you.

MKG · 29/11/2006 23:12

I know someone who went for their 6 week post baby checkup already pregnant. I don't know if that helps.

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rahrah1 · 29/11/2006 23:19

Thanks guys xx

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Fattymumma · 29/11/2006 23:22

as everyone says, you can fall pregnant pretty much immediatly...would terrify me personally but i my ex had tw neices 10 months apart and a niece and nephew 10 months apart.

if you really want to then try as soon as you feel ready.

busybusymum · 29/11/2006 23:49

the medics usually suggest waiting until your body recovers and your hormones settle down but I know of siblings with 10/11 months gap!

dara · 29/11/2006 23:50

I would wait a few weeks/months and see how you feel then. Babies are notoriously 'good' for a bit after they are born...then they wake up, the euphoria dies down and the exhaustion kicks in. Healthwise, it is best to wait a while too. let your body recover. Waiting six months won't kill you. And if you are horribly sick in pregnancy it would be hell dealing with a small baby and sleeplessness. It's obviously up to you, but I wouldn't do it.

PinkTinsel · 29/11/2006 23:59

my cousin has little girls 11 months apart. the younger sister has always been ahead in things, at one stage when the older girl was 18 months and the younger 7 months the older could only say one or 2 words, and the younger was already saying some she couldn't. things only got worse after that, they're always at war with each other and the older one is constantly being outshone by her younger sister, at this stage it looks likely the younger could end up in higher class as she's so advanced and the older is so slow to catch on to things. and to make matters worse the parents had another baby when dd2 was just 15 months old

a small age gap is lovely, i have one myself, just 18 months between my 2, but you can go too close. the body will naturally keep a bfing mother infertile til a long time after the birth, why do you think that is?

trust me, it gets alot harder once you have to run around after them and you DO NOT want to be pregnant for that. reassess in 6 months and see how you feel.

LoucheWoman · 30/11/2006 00:03

no you dont need a period. i conceived no2 when no1 was 3mo, and i was fully bf as well (so dont believe that will stop you, it wont!) didnt get a period in between.

PinkTinsel · 30/11/2006 00:21

wow louche, that's so soon while bfing i got preg with no period too but luckily not til 9 months lol, think i'd have had a nervous breakdown any earlier!

LoucheWoman · 30/11/2006 01:14

i would have had a nervous breakdown, but who the hell has time?? LOL.

i didnt learn either; i had no3 18months after no2 was born!! again bf still i think. and 1 sort of periody thing...

but its ok, ive worked out how it happens now and it wont again!! LOL

fussymummy · 30/11/2006 01:15

rahrah you really don't want to wait do you????

I don't blame you.

GOOD LUCK i hope it happens sooner, rather than later!!!!

A friend of mine had a baby and was pregnant by the time he was 6 weeks old!!!!

Not imposible.

nappyaddict · 30/11/2006 02:29

isn't it really hard to have two babies 10 months apart though?!

BudaBeast · 30/11/2006 05:36

Hi rahrah - read your other thread so know where you are coming from.

A friend of mine gave birth on Tuesday to a baby girl born 13 months after she lost her first DD to a stillbirth.

We are in Budapest and the doctors gave her to go-ahead to try again after 3 months. If in UK they said they would have recommended waiting a year to let her grieve.

I would say to give yourself a couple of months to let your body recover. Hope it happens really quickly for you.

glitterfairy · 30/11/2006 05:50

My first two are 13 months apart it was really hard work but is worth it now.

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rahrah1 · 30/11/2006 16:51

Thanks BudaBeast - I am seeing my consultant in less than a couple of weeks,, he should have some answers . I think I am just desperate to fill what should be there, but know at the same time it will be hard work (having another pregnancy) and that it will never replace. But thank for the advise...as my body had so many issues in last pregnancy I have a bad feeling he will suggest waiting for some recovery time. Time to listen to my head than my heart!!

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3andnomore · 30/11/2006 17:33

Hm, you mention you had a difficult time with your last pg, so, really it would probably best to wait for a while, as it is even more difficult when you have a lil one to look after!
I had my youngest 2 21 month apart, and found that difficult enough, lol!
In the end you have to think first of the Baby you already have.

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rahrah1 · 30/11/2006 17:37

I lost my first baby - he was only 24 weeks and 1 day. had him on the 8.11 ... (did not mention on thread until now...sorry).

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3andnomore · 30/11/2006 17:44

OMG, talk about foot in mouth....I am sooo sorry! I had no idea!
I suppose in that case it is a bit different...and you could possibly try as soon as you feel up for it, emotionally and physically.
Everyone is different, and I know, after my first m/c (at a much earlier stage, though) I found it really helped me coping with it, when I fell pg pretty quickly after....especially as, on the ward I was working, there was a fair few other nurses pg due around the same time as I was with my m/c'ed Baby, but once I was pg again, I really found it easier to see them pg!

USAUKMum · 30/11/2006 18:01

Hi rahrah, saw you on another thread. Sorry for your loss. My consultant recommended that I wait 6 mths after losing DS at 20wk so that my body could recover. He said that it takes a year for your body to recover from a full term pg. At the time he had just finished a huge study (10,000+ women) on timings between pgs.

In the end, we got pg 5 mths after DS was born -- ironically in the week he should've been due.

I know where you are coming from, in wanting to fill the void. In the end it has to be when you & DH feel comfortable with it. And what support your consultant will give. My consultant was great, I got early scan at 10 wks, then one at 12wks (nucal), 16wks, 20wks, 24wks, 32wks, then DS born at 38wks by induction. I can say that pg was the most stressful time of my life.

Good luck. If you want to talk / email. Just let me know.

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rahrah1 · 30/11/2006 18:05

Had not mentioned on thread - so no apology needed (So can take foot out of mouth)! Thanks for the advise. There are lots of people that are pregnant around me - including my brothers wife - due 5 weeks prior to my due date. Dreading January (when some people r having their babies, xmas - banned it and dreading Feb - when Bertie was meant to be born). Therefore I am hoping to be pregnant, with the hope that the pregnancy will distract me from those times - also I had such bad morning sickness with Bertie , will be focusing on not being sick!!

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rahrah1 · 30/11/2006 18:13

Thanks USAUKMum - I am really hoping that the consultant has positive news, about future pregnancies. It really does feel right for me to start trying as soon as possible. Another child will never replace, but have much love to give and I'm nearly 32! I know that another pregnancy will be terrifying, just as this one was (I bleed from 10 weeks and had problems from that point - I was scared to move most of the time and spent weeks in hospital), but I have strong belief Bertie will look over us. It would be good to keep talking - keep in touch...

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PinkTinsel · 30/11/2006 18:45

i'm sorry rahrah i didn't realise. if you feel ready and able then go for it if you need to

{{{hugs}}}

USAUKMum · 30/11/2006 19:44

Hopefully your consultant will have some good news for you. We saw the consultant 6 wks after Robert was born, as we had requested a post-mortum as we didn't really have any problems in the pg -- except that I was horribly horribly ill and my tripple test came back high risk. In the end, Robert was okay (no genetic problems) and they decided the most likely cause to be a failed placenta in early pg.

Please let me know how you get on (email: [email protected]). If it feels like a right time to you -- it is the right time !!!

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