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Were you secretly chuffed with the sex of your DC?

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suitsyou · 06/08/2015 07:59

Not a gender/sex- boy/girl debate and obviously we all want a healthy baby but superficially...

With DD I was so pleased to have a girl, my family have lots and wanted to add to that- we had lots of hand me downs and if I had to have chosen it's what I would have done.

This time around its a DS and again if I could had opted I would have gone that way, purely for the opposite reasons, we have NO boys in the family so it will be a first and since DD is your stereotypical girl there's a chance that I might get to experience some stereotypical tough and tumble-or not.

I feel really chuffed and similarly know a few friends with gender disappointment, but I don't think that either should be a guilty feeling to admit.

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Runnaway · 06/08/2015 08:03

Was not bothered at all during pregnancy, but when I was handed DD I realised just how happy I was to have a baby girl. I surprised myself by saying "I really wanted a girl" which was news to me and DH!! However I'm sure I would have felt the same euphoria at being handed a son!

CognitiveIllusion · 06/08/2015 08:06

Yes, I would never say this is real life for fear of offending anyone but I LOVE having a mix of sexes (two boys and a girl).

FifiLeBoo · 06/08/2015 08:14

Actually yes, not wanting to offend anyone but deep down I really wanted a boy and then a girl and I got what I wanted.
Then when we went for round 2 of baby making, there's 8 years between dd1 and ds2 I wanted the same again and I got the same again.

I wouldn't say this in real life as one family member desperately wanted a girl and had all boys and another family member just kept going until they had the boy they were so desperate for

Archer26 · 06/08/2015 08:28

Yes, I've always imagined myself with a boy. All through my pregnancy the whole family referred to baby as he. Very girl heavy family with no boys born in 40 years.

When DS was placed on my chest first thing I said was 'I knew it was a boy, I could feel it in my bones'.
If I have another I genuinely don't mind what sex, I'm just chuffed I have one boy.

avocadotoast · 06/08/2015 08:34

Yes. But only because we didn't have any boy names at all and had a girl name all picked out I was super relieved that I didn't have to spend any time thinking of a name!

That and I was a bit afraid of having a boy and them aiming wee at my face during nappy changes

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suitsyou · 06/08/2015 08:39

Ah, it's good to know I'm not alone. I have a friend with 3DS's and I'd expecting a fourth. Although the 'poor you' comments are completely inappropriate she has said it would have been nice to ring the changes, so it's probably not uncommon to feel slightly on one side or the other.

I know by the third my mum didn't care less if she had more girls, which she did, but she was a tad disappointed with me (DD2) and I get that.

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twinkletoedelephant · 06/08/2015 08:49

Didn't find out with first was a dd I always thought I would have a boy.

We loved her she was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen.

When preg with twins 'we' ( me and dh) didn't find out .... Although me and my sis did at one scan he couldn't make... For 6 weeks before they were born I knew they were boys :-).

Dh suguesested he choose girls names I choose boys ... I had a big inner smile and didn't veto either of his weird names...

A ' medicine' man told me on honeymoon I would have 2 boys... Just didn't mention the girl I had first :-)

Only1scoop · 06/08/2015 08:51

Yes I was delighted to have been told I was having a dd.

Iammad · 06/08/2015 08:56

I have 3 boys and two girls already, just found out yesterday that this is a baby girl.
Didn't mind either way, but we are now even

Bythepath · 06/08/2015 09:00

I have 3 girls, I am really pleased, a boy would have been great i am sure but I like them all the same.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 06/08/2015 09:01

Yes, with ds1 everyone around us was having girls so it felt a bit different and special to have a boy. I think dh wanted a boy so also pleased for him. When ds3 was born I wasn't sure if I wanted a girl or not as I didn't have one, but when he was born I was absolutely thrilled so I don't think I cared either way.

RockerMummy184 · 06/08/2015 09:10

Yes! Always wanted a little boy (I'm not a very 'girly' type person) so when I found out DC1 was a boy I was over the moon.

This pregnancy, we found out we were having twins and everyone kept saying 'ooh I bet you're hoping for a girl aren't you?' which I thought would have been nice, but when we found out it was two more boys I was absolutely ecstatic!

GoooRooo · 06/08/2015 10:09

I was 100% sure I was having a girl (although didn't find out at the scan). It was a boy. I was so so shocked and it took me about 30 seconds to adjust. I will admit to being disappointed that I would never have a daughter - it took me 5 years TTC to have DS and thought I'd never have another - but I was thrilled with my little boy after so long trying for a baby.

Very very quickly I got used to the idea of having a son and of course, love him immeasurably.

Now I am (surprisingly) expecting DC2. This time we found out what we were having at the 20 week scan. I don't actually have a preference this time as DS would love a brother but I would dearly love a daughter too and so it doesn't really matter. Turns out it's a girl, which I am thrilled with, but I would honestly have equally been as excited with another boy.

I'm rather pleased we had a boy first and then a girl but I don't know why.

You don't get to choose though! I would be very surprised if there are many parents who are disappointed with what sex they get once the baby is actually here.

yummymango · 06/08/2015 10:10

I was so happy when I found out DD1 was a girl I cried. I had convinced myself I was having a boy which I was happy about and we even had a name. I am quite girly myself and my family is full of girls so I suppose I just thought I would have a girl and felt like I had more of an instinct about what to do with one.
Fast forward 3 years and I'm expecting another girl - which I am equally as happy about as I don't think you can beat growing up with a sister (although I am biased as I have a great sister!).

BikeRunSki · 06/08/2015 10:13

In my first pg I really wanted a boy. I had a boy. Second time I had no preference, and had a girl.

Sparklingbrook · 06/08/2015 10:17

DC1 was a boy. When we found out at the scan DC2 was also a boy I had a fleeting realisation that I would never have a girl. But I was secretly quite pleased, and it's really great.

scarednoob · 06/08/2015 10:36

I had a tiny preference for a girl, I think because I don't have my mum any more and miss the mother/daughter relationship so much, but was sure it was a boy.

when they said it was a girl, I was surprised by how pleased I was. but if she were a boy, I'd have been just as excited.

the funny thing was that we asked to know the sex at the end of the scan, and got sent out halfway through because the baby would not turn around for the profile scan. OH said, "i think it's a girl - the machine says FEMALE at the top."

er, that'd be ME who's female.............

swimmerforlife · 06/08/2015 10:41

With my first pregnancy I really wanted a boy, purely because I thought girls were too hard work.

I am now pregnant again, probably want a boy more so than a girl as my DS is just so fabulous but not fussed either way, though I have realised boy are quite hard work too.

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suitsyou · 06/08/2015 13:45

Once you meet the baby there is no way you could be disappointed. Having one of each I wonder if I'll have a preference next time..

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confusedandemployed · 06/08/2015 13:48

I made no secret of the fact I really wanted a girl and was OVER THE MOON when she turned out to be one.

I'm sure I'd have been delighted with a boy but I'm under no illusions, I would've taken a few weeks to get used to the idea. That's why I definitely wanted to know what I was having: by the time it was worn I'd have got used to the idea if it was a boy.

BurnstonesBabies · 06/08/2015 23:14

My DH says as a teenager he always dreamed of being surrounded by women and now, with 3 DDs, his dreams have come true!!
I wanted a girl every time and although we never found out, my pregnancies were so similar, that I just knew. Plus, we could never agree on boys' names so that felt like a sign too.
I do wonder what life would have been like with 3 boys. Just as full on, fun and fabulous I bet!

Lightbulbon · 06/08/2015 23:23

I think it's handy if you have friends who are pregnant around the same time if you have DCs of the same sex. When they are babies it doesn't matter but when they get to school age it's handy to have someone else to share after school activity runs with and to go to each other's birthday parties.

I suppose it's the same to have close cousins of the same sex.

I always wanted a mixture of both. Only needed 2 to get there.

I wouldn't have liked to have missed out on either but I don't know how far I'd have gone in pursuit of that.

I now have 3 and do confess that if we have a 4th I'd want to even it up with 2 of each.

zannyminxoxox · 07/08/2015 12:53

I was chuffed I had a girl first then a boy. Im secretly hoping im having a girl as my daughter wants a sister and will have to switch rooms if it's a boy and that would mean redecorating, both rooms, but saying that as long as the baby is healthy I shouldn't really complain having been blessed with another miracle

Pinkshire85 · 07/08/2015 12:56

Neither me or my husband cared at all and for ages flipped between calling the bump him or her but when I had my 16 week scan and she was a girl I cried because I was so happy, maybe I would have done that if she was a boy but I think I secretly wanted a girl.

VerityWaves · 07/08/2015 12:58

I was desperate for a girl and so happy.

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