TTC Number 2

[Begum2]

Hi all let me start with introducing myself I am Sonia 31. DH is 32 and we decided to try for number two but no luck so far (4th cycle this month). With DS we decided to stop using condoms and same month bang it happened this is why I am clueless. I am using ovulation kit from CB with smiley face and amazon cheap ovulations strips. I am also monitoring CM. each month I ovulate on CD 14 confirm by CB, IC and CM. I cannot use CB after solid face so I keep checking with IC after CD 14 – the line gets lighter then control line on CD 16 so I assuming ovulation is done by then. I have 28 days cycle. So 1st month of trying we just did the deed and nothing. Second month we BD on CD 13, 14 then 16 but nothing this is when I went out to get ovulation kits. Third month we BD on CD 11, CD 12 and CD 14 but nothing. This month so far we BD on CD 12. Today morning I received solid face on CB and IC confirms it. Also CM is egg white consistency sorry for TMI. So I am hoping to BD tonight and tomorrow. Can someone please help me understand what we doing wrong? DH is becoming sick of routine and finds it boring. We BD at night so I am thinking because I get positive in the morning and don’t BD till night maybe we missing the trick but solid face means egg will be released in next 24-48 hours so we still in time so confused.

You are concentrating and stressing too hard. 4 months is no time at all as confusing as it may be.

Eat healthy, cut down the alcohol and caffeine and make love. The last thing you want to do is to 'just have sex to make a baby' at such an early stage. I couldn't think of a worse turn off for man or woman. Take it from someone who knows

Thanks ostrichneck for quick response. I know it can take up to one year for healthy couple but I am just trying to figure out if there is something I can do to increase my chances. I am eating healthy but think I should cut down on caffeine (tea) intake. i didn't even think of that thanks again for pointing out.

Not at all, I am the same as you. Caught with my first by accident 11 years ago.. started trying for no2 and it took 9 months. So frustrating, but just looking back now, I wish that I had just enjoyed it with my partner. Baby making should be a lovely exciting time, but I put so much pressure on myself that it was horrible.

Now pregnant, I am barely ever awake enough for sex although I do try my best, and wish I had enjoyed it more before pregnancy.

I'm sure it wont be long and you will be pregnant and blooming

Check out 'PreSeed'- it's a lubricant that aids conception- helps carry the sperm to the egg, basically. Worked for me both times, i got pregnant on the first cycle aged 37 and 39 both times. Now, i cant specify it was the preseed, but who knows!! it certainly didnt do any harm!!

I used preseed as well and I'm on my 4th pregnancy (sadly after 3 mcs) and it worked all 4 times.

Plus I take cough mixture as well (has to be the chesty cough type) to thin out my cm - take from cd 5 until day after ovulation.

Also really the best way to conceive is to have sex every other day.

But honestly 4 months is nothing

Thank you all for your input. I have bought pre-seed for this cycle from amazon, hope it works. I read so many good reviews on it. On CD 16 I go dry (sorry about TMI) so hoping it will help. Anyone can recommend any multi vitamins. I am scared to take Pregnacare conception nutrition tablets so many ladies report back that made their cycle longer. I am just taking folic acid for now.

I think best way forward is to stop obsessing and it will happen when it will. I will keep this thread updated. Maybe after few more cycles we try SMEP. I need to stop thinking about this. better get back to work!

Hi I hope you don't mind me joining your thread. Been ttc for 2nd baby for 12 cycles. It's so hard since ds took 6 months to conceive without any issues and we weren't taking ttc seriously it was just "when it happens" approach. Had my tests all came back normal. Hubby done his semen analysis this week and gets results soon. I'm hopeful that it will happen but boy is it hard when everyone seems to be pregnant or making you feel bad for wanting a second. "You should be happy with the one you have" as if I don't thank my lucky stars everyday sorry having a rant as I'm in the tww af due in few days and feel cramps so defo out!