missnatalie, good to hear from you... i'm sorry you are feeling so weird, but you've probably guessed already that 'weird' is 'normal' in fact. i felt just the same. i didn't have emergency surgery, but still people (in my family in particular) used to say to me that i would have died if the pregnancy had continued so i should be grateful. but of course all i could do was feel terribly tricked that my pregnancy hadn't been in the right place when all around me everyone else's pregnancies were fine. (in my experience, once you've lost a pregnancy the world becomes filled with fat, happy pregnant women. it's tough).
did you go to the ectopic pregnancy trust website? you'll meet lots of other brand new 'weirdos' there, which was very, very reassuring when it happened to me. you'll get a lot of support there because you'll meet people who are also one week and one day on from discovering their pregnancy is over and having a traumatic operation at the same time.
the EPT advice is to wait three months after a small op, but it might be more after the full operation. did you have the full one? (probably, because it was done as an emergency). the thing is, that feels like a long time right now, but it is a good time to grieve and get your head sorted a bit.
go to the ept site, missn. it doesn't mean you have to give up coming here too, it's just that i think it will really help you get through all this.